Teachers I need solidarity before I leave the profession

Two visits would have been 10 out of 30, rather than 5 - why is that better? And why should the op give up two of her weekends, free of charge? Just so that you don't have to parent your child and help them to develop resilience.

Surely most children learn much younger that they don't always get to do everything every time?

This is how it is in my school. Our Head will categorically not allow parents to email us. They have a very brief contact form that goes to the office and any horrible ones just don’t go to us - they go to SLT who are pretty invariably supportive of staff. I was actually chatting to one of our assistant heads in the pub last night and he said that dealing with everyone’s difficult parents is the absolute worst thing about his job. He certainly has to have some very broad shoulders to hold it all.

So that some children could have a nice time! Life is full of events that not everyone can do. Why can the kids who didn’t go learn to be please for the ones who did? Surely this is a great opportunity for parents to teach their kids about this!

I think you are the answer to why so many teachers are leaving.

TA's at one time did fun stuff - but now they need full body armour.

A friend really loved children and thought a TA role would be nice, but she too was attacked so badly by a child she 1:1 that she had to give up work.

Some really appalling behaviour about in schools nowadays.

Why didn't you use scheduled send, and have it sent during working hours? On most email accounts it's a simple case of tapping 1 or 2 additional buttons before hitting send.

I use this for whenever I send anyone work-based or professional emails

Completely agree. Some parents are so appreciative and go out of their way to thank you. It is the few who spoil it for the majority.

Disappointment is a normal human emotion and a one they are going to come across many many times in their life. It may sound dramatic but it genuinely feels like society is broken. The social contract is breaking down and individualism is taking over.

I wouldn’t reply. Honestly. Let them waste their time taking it further if they want but I wouldn’t waste a single second on them.
No wonder kids have no resilience- disappointment is a normal human emotion we need to learn to cope with.

If you were confused about the offer and concerned your child would be so disappointed, then you'd simply not enter their name and risk it surely?

Others can enter their child, explain that only very few can go this time and manage their expectations beforehand - parenting is the way forward.

There will be many times in a child's life, and as they grow to adults, where opportunities arise where only a handful, or even just one, person will get to experience it at a time. It's a good thing to learn.

Please link this thread!

By willing to give up her Saturday morning so 5 children rather than none have a lovely experience?? Here we have it! A prime example of why so many teachers have had enough. You can’t win.

Send this (minus the 'fuck you' bit!

The way I see it is that kids get plenty of chances to be disappointed in life no matter what the adults around them do. They don’t need to not win competitions and what not to be taught about disappointment.

In this circumstance the parents are being completely crap and I feel for you.

With the dietary requirements I do feel for the parents sometimes though. My daughter has coeliac and there have been so many times she’s been left to feel completely excluded and she knows fine well the staff moan about children with dietary requirements. I feel I could never say anything because the staff are doing a nice thing just not a nice thing for my child who is invisible to them most of the time anyway.

Say for example this trip had allowed unlimited numbers. My daughter would have been very likely unable to participate. That doesn’t negate that you have done a lovely thing to give up your Saturday morning but it wouldn’t have stopped her being the only one feeling sad at home either.

What's wrong with kids being disappointed sometimes ? That's life

A colleague of mine was assaulted by a parent when the bus back to school broke down. The children were collected in another bus but were obviously late back.

I once organised a school trip to the Houses of Parliament and Westminster Abbey for our students. Communication sent to parents that the coach would return from London to the school at approximately 7pm but that it could be earlier or later depending on traffic and was just an approximate time. I built in lots of buffer time too to account for rush hour traffic.

On the way back, traffic was heavy so at 6pm, got all students to text parents that the ETA would be closer to 7.30pm. Also sent a mass email out from my phone to all parents. Coach arrived at school at 7.25pm and the utter fury I was met with from parents who arrived that we were half an hour late was insane. Either that they were waiting around or had had their evening plans immeasurably disrupted by the change of timing. All the kids were grateful and said thank you but not one nice word from the parents apart from grumbling. Not even Nostradamus could predict to the exact minute when a coach will return in heavy traffic.

I don't think our school would do it.

But that's true of lots of things and it's something we all have to learn to deal with.

Not everyone will get the job/university place/house etc that they want. Sometimes other people will be more successful. It's hard but it's life!

Tbh I wouldn't go if not all pupils had the offer.
Case closed.

Or it’s another thing they don’t win as only one can win

Because competition is healthy.
And a child who is crap at sports and not very academic might finally have their chance to win something when there are things like the pumpkin competition.

At my DC's school (a few years back) it was impossible to ever speak to the teacher. The receptionist was like a nasty version of GP receptionist and parents weren't allowed on the site.
Do we want to return to those dark days.