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To wish I had a sister

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Briannaco · 24/01/2025 16:49

My mum has four sisters. They've supported each other through every stage of life.

Now in their 60s and 70s, they all go for lunch together every two weeks. They all ring each other every week and tell each other what's been happening each week, and they support each other over the phone.

They are all close to each other. However my aunts are not like that to me. I think because they have so many nieces and nephews they are not really close to any of us.

But the five sisters themselves are close.

I have no sisters. I have one older brother. If I ring him and ask him any questions or ill try to chat to him, he will just reply with one word answers. He is very untalkative and unsupportive. He never asks me about my life. It's like having no one.

I just feel like life would be so much better having a sister and I feel sad ill never have one. My mum said that her friend was saying the same thing to her the other day. My mums friend has no sisters and she said that she'd love to have a sister.

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Briannaco · 24/01/2025 16:52

PiastriThePastry · 24/01/2025 16:52

I’ve voted YABU because it’s very optimistic to think that all sister relationships are as wonderful and supportive as your mum and her sisters.
I’ve two sisters myself (and a few brothers) and it’s certainly not a relationship like the one you describe! I’m closer to a couple of my brothers, for sure.

Yeah.

I'd still like to have one though!

My brother never asks me a thing about my life. It's very lonely.

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CoffeeBeansGalore · 24/01/2025 16:52

Not all sisters are like your mum & aunts. A lot are selfish, inconsiderate and a pita.

If you had an older sister she could be as distant as your brother.

graygoose · 24/01/2025 16:52

Just to add, I have a group of very close girl friends that I’ve been friends with for nearly 20 years. As far as I’m concerned they are my sisters - got me through IVF, divorce, everything. And I also have a useless older brother so I feel your pain! Found family can be just as amazing x

PiastriThePastry · 24/01/2025 16:52

I’ve voted YABU because it’s very optimistic to think that all sister relationships are as wonderful and supportive as your mum and her sisters.
I’ve two sisters myself (and a few brothers) and it’s certainly not a relationship like the one you describe! I’m closer to a couple of my brothers, for sure.

Briannaco · 24/01/2025 16:52

graygoose · 24/01/2025 16:50

My mum has 2 sisters and they hate each other, none of them speak anymore. A sister isn’t a guarantee of a nice relationship, so I think your mum is very lucky :)

Wow. What did they fall out over?

Now I think of it, any sisters that I know of, are close.

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graygoose · 24/01/2025 16:50

My mum has 2 sisters and they hate each other, none of them speak anymore. A sister isn’t a guarantee of a nice relationship, so I think your mum is very lucky :)

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