To wish I had a sister

There’s zero guarantee that you’ll be close to a sibling whatever their gender is.

My sisters are my best friends and I’m gutted I couldn’t give my daughter one.

I've finally given up trying to have a relationship with my sister. She's always been really hard work, one thing after another, and I finally decided enough was enough. Sisters aren't always best friends.

I don’t have that relationship with my sisters at all. I do the things you’ve described your mum and her sisters doing with my friends.

I feel the same way OP. I have one brother but he’s got severe difficulties/drug issues so it is difficult to talk to him and have a relationship. I envy people with lots of siblings whom they are close to.

While you are not unreasonable, at least you know the reason you dont have a close sister relationship - you cant be close if they are non existent. I know plenty of people who dont have relationships with their sisters and it is really sad.

Your post is not self absorbed at all.
Some pps just like to knock you down.
Your feelings are valid.
I, like others realise that I/they are lucky to have good sister's.

My aunt killed my grandmother by giving her Covid and refused to give a full and opaque account of the estate. She made sure that she isolated my grandmother and controlled all her finances leaving her constantly worried about money. Surprisingly I do not talk to her and would actively cross the road or leave the store if I saw her.

Just because you have a sister does not mean that you will have a good relationship

No good relationship is guaranteed.

Having a sister also means that throughout life you are directly compared and likely to be at the same school. One will be prettier. It's just life so the other one will pick up on people saying this. One will be more sporty or more intelligent.

Plenty of sisters end up with complexes, highly competitive or just sulking through life because both of them think the other one was preferred by their parents.

Sibling relationships can be complex and change - even happy as kids fall out when they are older all the time over partners who don't get on with the sibling or sibling doesn't like or the death of a parent and who inherits what. It can be all over the shop.

I have a sister and we hardly speak but I do wish I had what you describe, I am close to my brother but like yours he's not very chatty, I am super close to my sister in law though

Fair enough. I could be misinterpreting it all and like I say, I am genuinely sorry for the way you feel regarding your family, life can be cruel and sad.

I just get a sense that you are wallowing in your own self pity and finding new things to get upset about but I could be wrong, and I'm sorry if I'm off the mark.

I think you’re being a bit harsh. Isn’t MN there to support people when they need it? Get a grip and be kind, it’s not hard.

I feel your pain, and it’s so hard. I have brothers and they don’t give a toss for me - either barely speak to me or are so wrapped up in their own lives. I’ve wished for a sister my whole life. Thankfully, I have lovely girlfriends and have a daughter now who is the best wee friend I could have. Sending you a hug 🥰

I'm genuinely sorry that life hasn't turned out the way you felt it should for you in terms of family.

Life can be hard. Everyone has a different journey and different battles to face.

However, you accuse your brother and mother of being quite self absorbed... Your post is filled with it! Many of us posters have had suffering in our lives. You don't have to take this advice but if I were you I'd get some support and try and move this huge level of self pity you seem to be carrying around with you.

Life is too short.

I have a sister and two brothers, I grew up close to my sister but now at a point she never asks how I am or have a clue what is going on in my life. I haven’t seen one brother in years and the other occasionally.

Briannaco, I think many of us do dream of having strong family connections and I can completely understand why you would feel this particularly keenly. I hope that you will find such life-enhancing bonds in the future, perhaps coming from a direction you do not expect.

I love my sister too and I'm glad I've got her . She's just 16 months younger than me. We're off on holiday together in summer 😍

Some brothers are interested in.neices and nephews. Your stereotyping.

I think part of your loneliness is the fact your aunts seemingly don't need a relationship with you. To me that's quite cruel. They all sound a bit self absorbed.

I used want this too, like a built-in bestie - but life is complicated for many even with the greatest of up-bringings.
Your sister could be grabby, selfish , spoilt and lazy - lots of threads on here reflect this - look at the inheritance threads.

I have a sister (and 2 brothers).

My sister is pathologically selfish and we're not close at all.

I for instance gave her a gift for each of her children's birth, she hasn't given me any gift when my children were born.

She very reluctantly gave some hand-me-downs for my son's birth because my mother said she should do it, but she demanded all of the clothes back.

Having a sister is no guarantee at all that you will have a close relationship.

I have four brothers and always wanted a sister! I know what you mean OP, having a brother is just not the same, the one word responses and lack of interest in their niece/nephews! A sister , i imagine would be a great help with the kids, days out etc. Now im mum to 3 sons and my one daughter longs for a sister (not going to happen!) x