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Should the father of the 4 Hoath boys also be charged with manslaughter?

240 replies

Inkyblue123 · 24/01/2025 16:11

Just that really - he abandoned those 4 kids to the care of someone he knew had psychiatric problems and living in filth.once again the judicial system punished a women while overlooking the broader systematic failures and the responsibilities of others.
YANBU - he should stand trial
YABU - he’s not responsible for this tragedy

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CrystalBall101 · 24/01/2025 17:25

I had to stop reading when it said they were found under beds. The news is just awful today.

UndermyShoeJoe · 24/01/2025 17:24

Not with manslaughter but maybe with abandonment leading to neglect.

Yourenotthemaincharacter · 24/01/2025 17:22

vivainsomnia · 24/01/2025 17:19

If you knew he was unstable and that the living conditions were as they were but wilfully left the children in his care and ignored it, then yeah
Has it been made public that he knew?

If he didn't know that's another neglect charge right there

vivainsomnia · 24/01/2025 17:19

If you knew he was unstable and that the living conditions were as they were but wilfully left the children in his care and ignored it, then yeah
Has it been made public that he knew?

SnidelyWhiplash · 24/01/2025 17:17

Don’t be daft OP.

The system should have intervened and removed the children from her. The fact she neglected and killed them (and lied) is not the dad’s fault.

Notgoodatpoetrybutgreatatlit · 24/01/2025 17:17

But it's not a straight choice is it. Social Services exist and those children could have been removed from their mother. And they weren't. I very much doubt if the actual correct procedures were followed, in sequence. I also don't doubt that all the correct procedures were being followed up to a point. In my experience there is a big difference between the two. So often I read in serious case reviews that despite evidence that the parent was not following the child in need plan the plan stayed in place , sometimes for years. The next step it to escalate not to keep doing the same thing.
Sounds simple but it seems to be a lot harder in real life.

Yourenotthemaincharacter · 24/01/2025 17:10

Simonjt · 24/01/2025 17:07

So if your childrens dad murdered your children, or locked them in a house with candles burning and they were killed, do you agree that you should also be considered responsible for their death and charged with manslaughter?

If you knew he was unstable and that the living conditions were as they were but wilfully left the children in his care and ignored it, then yeah.

Yourenotthemaincharacter · 24/01/2025 17:08

EmmaMaria · 24/01/2025 16:36

The presumption of care for young children, both in the courts and on this site, is that it should be with the mother. You have no idea about the facts behind this so you cannot judge - but she was the one who walked out and left her children unsupervised in the house, and she was the one responsible for their living conditions and deaths. Nobody else.

I disagree. Ultimately their mother was the person who was at the forefront of the tragedy - but she was also at the forefront of everything else by default no and so that stands to reason. I think multiple failures must have led to this situation, from multiple people - no incident happens in isolation.

Legally, I don't know how the law would be changed, but philosophically absolutely the father walking away and leaving his children in this environment is negligent at the least.

Simonjt · 24/01/2025 17:07

So if your childrens dad murdered your children, or locked them in a house with candles burning and they were killed, do you agree that you should also be considered responsible for their death and charged with manslaughter?

Adamante · 24/01/2025 17:07

I think I agree actually.

Furthermore why aren’t men who refuse to pay for or see their children routinely charged with neglect/Child Abandonment/neglect?

ThisUsernameIsNowTaken · 24/01/2025 17:07

It always amazes me when randoms on the internet believe they know more than the professionals directly involved in a case.

MJconfessions · 24/01/2025 17:06

I disagree in that she clearly was a poor mother and was rightfully punished. Like there’s a difference between a struggling single mum and being neglectful

BellissimoGecko · 24/01/2025 17:06

user1474315215 · 24/01/2025 16:15

I agree OP. Time and again absent fathers are wringing their hands after these tragedies when they've completely stepped away from their responsibilities.

Yep

BellissimoGecko · 24/01/2025 17:05

More info here: Mum who left sons home alone jailed for fire deaths www.bbc.com/news/articles/c5ye7p34235o

BellissimoGecko · 24/01/2025 17:04

The judge said that the mother was bringing them up by herself. He said that she had reached out for help, said she couldn't cope, but no help had been forthcoming.

So yes, I'm going to blame the dad for being a shit parent.

He must have known the state of the house, but what did he do? Did he take the dc to live with him? No. Send like he did nothing at all.

So some of this is on him.

lifeonmars100 · 24/01/2025 17:02

I don't know enough about the case to have an opinion, I have only read the headlines. Is anyone else finding the news almost too much these days? I know the media focuses on bad news but there seems to be no end to these cases of children losing their lives in horrific circumstances. All those lives ended before they had barely begun

LlynTegid · 24/01/2025 17:02

The basic premise that fathers should in some circumstances be held partly or wholly responsible I support. Just as long as it applies to all absent fathers, for example the late Cecil Parkinson or if anything happens to them, the children of Boris Johnson whose mothers he had not lived with.

thebignewtvsbroken · 24/01/2025 16:54

Uta100 · 24/01/2025 16:41

I think the wider family and the father have to take some responsibility here. If they visited the children, surely they’d know the state of the house and that they were using buckets for toilets with faeces smeared over the walls. They’re upset now, but what did they do to support and help them before this happened?

Agree.

It's always the same.

They always come out of the woodwork after the kids have died, saying how heartbroken they were.

Very rarely have they actually been involved and trying to prevent the inevitable happening.

MoreDangerousThanAWomanScorned · 24/01/2025 16:54

I always think it's surprising how little people talked about Peter Connolly's father in the huge attention the Baby P case got. He testified that the last time he saw him he was visibly injured and screaming in distress at going back to his mother's home - and he just handed him back over. I don't think it takes away any of the responsibility of those who tortured and killed Peter to say that his father badly let him down to a degree that I would call criminal.

FoxInTheForest · 24/01/2025 16:51

BobbyBiscuits · 24/01/2025 16:41

No because he wasn't the RP.

But it seems mad the authorities just thought she'd be able to cope as a single mother with no support from him while suffering MH problems. He certainly should've done way more as a father. No doubt.
But only she was in charge of them that day.

The saddest thing is she went to the shop WITH A FRIEND. So the friend could've stayed in the house, or gone to the shop on her behalf. She wasn't totally alone and had someone with her?

The whole thing is absolutely terrible.

Has the friend been charged with anything?
Surely any adult involved should be held responsible.

TheThreeCheesesOfTheApocalypse44 · 24/01/2025 16:51

Don't be so fucking stupid.

Honestly 🙄

JessiesJ99 · 24/01/2025 16:49

MumonabikeE5 · 24/01/2025 16:46

He left them in the house full stop.

With their mother.

Suzuki76 · 24/01/2025 16:48

The squalor in the house and leaving them alone are two different things. He is just as responsible for the day to day lived experiences of those boys, but she is the one who left them home alone to die. It would be the same if a babysitter had left them home alone - he or she would be responsible.

MumonabikeE5 · 24/01/2025 16:46

JessiesJ99 · 24/01/2025 16:27

The father didn't leave them in the house on their own with candles on.

He left them in the house full stop.

CaptainMyCaptain · 24/01/2025 16:45

user1474315215 · 24/01/2025 16:15

I agree OP. Time and again absent fathers are wringing their hands after these tragedies when they've completely stepped away from their responsibilities.

This.