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Going away on my own is this ok

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Orchidsunlight · 24/01/2025 15:54

Ok I was the peri menopause post wanting to be alone etc booked my night away in a Travelodge this week , had a lovely time wandering about, 2 course meal, wine, breakfast all for £60. Husband is fantastic and says if we can afford, why not do it once a month to give me the time and space i need. Is this normal and ok to do this, and does anyone else do this?

and yes ive booked for next month for £60 :)

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Ghostedornot · 24/01/2025 17:44

Absolutely! I’m going away next week for one night on my own - I can’t bloody wait!! I’m going to swim in the hotel pool, have a lovely meal, a long hot shower and I will enjoy many snacks in my room. It can’t come quick enough! It’s in my hometown too and didn’t cost me anything 😀

DancefloorAcrobatics · 24/01/2025 17:43

I do this once a year! I rent a little cottage- either national park or seaside- for 3-4 nights. Then it's walks and reading all day long! Sometimes my Mum joins me, which is lovely as we usually want to do similar things. So we'll be sitting somewhere each being engrossed in a book.
I've done this since youngest was 9. I can't see any issues with DH looking after the DC. They are his as much as mine...

CluelessAsFuck · 24/01/2025 17:41

Yes do it!

Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 24/01/2025 17:41

I would give my right arm to do this!!

Flamingosarentreal · 24/01/2025 17:40

i do this a few times a year- sometimes I visit friends in other parts of the country , other times i book a rooom by myself, get snacks, books and enjoy an in room picnic. My plan is to try all and visit all the UK counties.

ilovesooty · 24/01/2025 17:20

JessiesJ99 · 24/01/2025 16:59

Really??? Your husband was seriously ok with this?! What did he do for the evening? Was left with a microwave meal I guess! MN is crazy!!!

Must be sarcasm.

ilovesooty · 24/01/2025 17:19

Orchidsunlight · 24/01/2025 16:55

4% say im being unreasonable :(

They hopefully hit the wrong button. Enjoy your breaks.

rubyslippers · 24/01/2025 17:16

JessiesJ99 · 24/01/2025 16:59

Really??? Your husband was seriously ok with this?! What did he do for the evening? Was left with a microwave meal I guess! MN is crazy!!!

Is this a sarcastic quote or not?
can’t work it out

anyway OP you aren’t being unreasonable in the slightest

Londonismyjam · 24/01/2025 17:14

JessiesJ99 · 24/01/2025 16:59

Really??? Your husband was seriously ok with this?! What did he do for the evening? Was left with a microwave meal I guess! MN is crazy!!!

🙄

elliesmummy19 · 24/01/2025 17:12

Sounds fantastic!

I went away by myself for a few days last year to see my favourite band and had an absolutely lovely time! Enjoy! You’re happy, your husband’s happy that’s all that matters. Stuff what anyone else thinks!

Collaborate · 24/01/2025 17:11

I haven't voted because you shouldn't be asking strangers for validation. Both you and your husband agree with this. It's no one else's business.

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Orchidsunlight · 24/01/2025 17:08

That sounds wonderful, i think I am definately starting a new routine for me with this x

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Abracadabra12345 · 24/01/2025 17:02

My children are adult but our young adult son is learning-disabled so is at home. I go away for 2 nights a month to a fairly local seaside resort where it's cheap (PI) and love the complete change of scenery without wasting too long on travel. There's plenty to do if I want to.

I get you with the showers. I have 2 deep baths a day!

Last time, it was cold, windy and rainy and I just lay on the bed that day snacking, watching junk tv, doing crosswords then having a bath, and had a fabulous time!

My OH in turn gets the house to himself while our son is out, something I'd love for myself so I don't feel guilty. He's not interested in his own solo time away

JessiesJ99 · 24/01/2025 16:59

Really??? Your husband was seriously ok with this?! What did he do for the evening? Was left with a microwave meal I guess! MN is crazy!!!

thehorsesareallidiots · 24/01/2025 16:57

Orchidsunlight · 24/01/2025 16:55

4% say im being unreasonable :(

They probably just think you should do Premier Inn over Travelodge. you should, the breakfast at Premier Inn is way better.
Why are you so worried about this not being "ok"? You'll never please everyone in this life anyway.

Abracadabra12345 · 24/01/2025 16:57

Orchidsunlight · 24/01/2025 16:55

4% say im being unreasonable :(

Trad wives who think you should be joined at the hip with your DH and would never dream of doing such a thing 😁

ErrolTheDragon · 24/01/2025 16:56

Orchidsunlight · 24/01/2025 16:55

4% say im being unreasonable :(

That just means 4% of people voting are unreasonable people. There's always some!

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Orchidsunlight · 24/01/2025 16:55

4% say im being unreasonable :(

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Adelstrop · 24/01/2025 16:54

Completely normal, and very good for recharging the batteries.

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Orchidsunlight · 24/01/2025 16:53

KevinAndTracy · 24/01/2025 16:50

Sounds fab!

Is it £60 for the hotel room, breakfast and dinner? That's a great deal!

yes, the room is £36, meal deal £14 and breakfast £10, just searched the deals on Travelodge, oh but i did spend £7 on 2 glasses of wine in the restaurant (happy hour ...)

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BMW6 · 24/01/2025 16:53

Fabulous idea, try Premier Inns as I think they are better than Travelodge!

Pashazade · 24/01/2025 16:53

Brilliant! I did this unexpectedly due to other commitments the other month it was fab. Sat in bed watching Strictly, it's amazing how much it frees your brain up!

KevinAndTracy · 24/01/2025 16:50

Sounds fab!

Is it £60 for the hotel room, breakfast and dinner? That's a great deal!

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Orchidsunlight · 24/01/2025 16:49

Ginkypig · 24/01/2025 16:17

I do this! I jovially call it a mental health break but actually it’s true, it’s good for my head to get some time alone out of my day to day life and recharge a bit.

for me I prefer to go less than you’re husband has suggested so I can book something a little fancier or go for more than one night. Of course its completely personal preference isn’t it.

I go probably 3-4 times a year anywhere from 2-7 nights depending on how expensive due to the time of year of how much free time I have to spare for it.
if I go for longer especially in winter when prices are much cheaper because it’s out of season iv found it’s cheaper and an be nicer to book a self catering place but one that is close enough to a village or town so I can have a wander or maybe have a dinner or lunch out possibly.

Edited

yeah my plan is once a month now to march then maybe leave it then till later in the year as have other committments over spring and summer, i may then do it less and make it 2 nights !

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Orchidsunlight · 24/01/2025 16:48

GirlOverboard123 · 24/01/2025 16:11

Yes of course it’s fine, presumably your husband will also get a night’s hotel stay each month as well (if he so wishes).

he cant go alone due to his disabilities but he has no desire to go alone anyway so all good :)

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