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Circumcision should be banned.

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ArabellaScott · 24/01/2025 14:44

https://www.secularism.org.uk/news/2025/01/judge-and-parents-call-for-boys-to-be-protected-from-circumcision

Article describes an upsetting case of two doctors performing these ops without anesthesia, and with sometimes serious side effects. One boy nearly died.

The National Secular Society is running a concurrent campaign to ban all 'religious cutting' - that includes both FGM and male circumcision. I wholeheartedly agree that no baby or child should suffer in this way. More info:

https://www.secularism.org.uk/religious-surgery/

YABU - circumcision for religous reasons is fine
YANBU - circumcision should be banned (unless there is a medical reason)

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AliasGrace47 · 24/01/2025 17:56

Kokomjolk · 24/01/2025 17:51

Anyone who has ever seen a normal human glans can see that it's not supposed to be dried out and toughened up with constant friction.

The 'sensitive area' is exposed when the guy is fully erect anyway. It's supposed to be protected when not 'in use' as it were.

It did sound odd, esp as there's a reason for body parts to be present. Appendix, for instance. Or even public hair. There can be valid reasons to change, but most of the time the body should be let be.

shuggles · 24/01/2025 17:55

@AliasGrace47 I'm a lesbian myself...

I don't think that's an excuse for having limited knowledge of male anatomy.

People are expected to have common knowledge of the world and life in general, including things that don't directly impact them.

Firstruleofsoupover · 24/01/2025 17:55

Runnersandtoms · 24/01/2025 15:19

Although I agree circumcision shouldn't be allowed apart from for health reasons, male circumcision doesn't cause any issues going forward once healed eg pain, sexual dysfunction etc. FGM can make sex impossible or impossibly painful and cause severe and dangerous lifelong consequences for girls and women, aside from the dangers of infection and extreme pain at the time.

Why do you say that it has no issues! What evidence do you have.

I have evidence to the contrary.

It most definitely does cause appalling consequences regarding sexual disfunction and pain during sex if the circumcision is at the most complete stage. Quite awful.

A life altered and absolutely not for the better. No sexual pleasure at all, and the man in question was a few days old before mother handed him over to be mutilated.

DonnaHadDee · 24/01/2025 17:55

The map above says a lot about the areas and religions where it is common. They can do whatever they want in their country of origin, as they are fully entitled to do, but it should not happen here in the UK. When you move here, you should conform to our norms. We're really not doing a good job on social integration.

AliasGrace47 · 24/01/2025 17:53

SapphireSeptember · 24/01/2025 17:52

@ArcticBells and @nc007 That's horrific. I was reading an article about sugar water being used as pain relief for newborns and there's a whole heap of evidence to suggest that babies feeling pain can cause problems with neurodevelopment! And it's just horrible full stop, to hurt a baby like that. DS had to have some blood tests and he cried so much it made me cry. Sad

Dunno why that quote is there. I agree with you though!

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Hang on, is pain relief not used for this in some mainstream hospitals? That's barbaric. How has this been allowed for so long?

ditalini · 24/01/2025 17:53

mitogoshigg · 24/01/2025 17:45

I gave birth in the USA and you can request circumcision as part of the newborn health checks. I had a daughter so irrelevant and bring British it would have been a no but the leaflets cited hygiene and protection against certain conditions

Yeah, I've never really bought the argument that it's better to strip the fused foreskin off your baby boy's penis with the various risks of pain and infection while it heals, than just...give it a wash.

If your child has an issue with persistent balanitis or an over-tight foreskin and can't resolve these with antibiotics or steroid cream, then sure - surgery is an obvious option. Easier at that stage because the foreskin won't still be fused and the child is likely continent. However, again it seems overkill to make the assumption that your child will suffer (vast majority don't, hence all those men kicking about Europe with perfectly healthy penises) and just prise off the foreskin (guaranteed pain/infection risk/wound care rather than a small possibility) as a newborn just in case.

SapphireSeptember · 24/01/2025 17:52

Hoppinggreen · 24/01/2025 16:57

You educate yourself
Babies arrive with all the necesssary bits there in most cases. Its not up to non medically qualified people to decide that some bits should be cut off.

@ArcticBells and @nc007 That's horrific. I was reading an article about sugar water being used as pain relief for newborns and there's a whole heap of evidence to suggest that babies feeling pain can cause problems with neurodevelopment! And it's just horrible full stop, to hurt a baby like that. DS had to have some blood tests and he cried so much it made me cry. Sad

Dunno why that quote is there. I agree with you though!

AliasGrace47 · 24/01/2025 17:51

I'm a lesbian myself...Gloria Steinem is certainly not. However, she wasn't saying she agreed. She said some argued this as a point in favour, she herself is against it.
A cursory Google finds some studies arguing increased pleasure, but less, and some seem to have an agenda. Even if it did, which seems less than likely, it's not OK to cut underage people, esp babies.

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Kokomjolk · 24/01/2025 17:51

AliasGrace47 · 24/01/2025 17:31

I read in a Gloria Steinem book that circumcision can increase sensitivity by exposing more of the sensitive area. She overall stated that, while not comparable to FGM, it's mainly an act of submission to a patriarchal God. I think I agree- but does anyone agree about the possible increased sensation? I stil think any benefits are not worth infant circumcision.

Anyone who has ever seen a normal human glans can see that it's not supposed to be dried out and toughened up with constant friction.

The 'sensitive area' is exposed when the guy is fully erect anyway. It's supposed to be protected when not 'in use' as it were.

ArabellaScott · 24/01/2025 17:51

swimsong · 24/01/2025 17:49

Whereas encouraging condom use instead protects both men and women.

And protects against unwanted pregnancy and other STDs.

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Icanttakethisanymore · 24/01/2025 17:50

Namechangedforgoodreasons · 24/01/2025 17:37

FGM frequently causes long-lasting problems with bleeding, pain, urinary problems and loss of sexual pleasure.
Circumcision doesn’t.

So on a practical basis the outcome might be different for most (but not all) recipients. I say not all because, although I appreciate it’s rare, some men do suffer life long complications due to circumcision. Are they morally so different though? Given in both cases there is zero benefit to the person the procedure is inflicted upon?

swimsong · 24/01/2025 17:49

Whereas encouraging condom use instead protects both men and women.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/01/2025 17:49

Zebedee999 · 24/01/2025 17:45

Here's the FGM graph, shocking imo. As I said it's happening in the UK nowadays and we have a court dedicated to dealing with it. Unlikely to stop it here when some migrants come from countries where 100% of girls experience it. Why import a problem we never used to have?

I don't think there's any evidence that the practice is spreading to other cultures in the UK. The daughters of immigrants to the UK are simply at risk in the UK the same way they would be at risk in their parents' country of origin. We haven't imported a problem. We've just said we aren't going to turn a blind eye to this barbaric practice just because little girls from certain immigrant communities are the only victims.

Simonjt · 24/01/2025 17:47

Namechangedforgoodreasons · 24/01/2025 17:46

Not common at all.

I’m impressed that you know better than the medical community.

swimsong · 24/01/2025 17:47

torkandgrunt · 24/01/2025 17:08

I was circumcised within days of being born. Our family doctor was adamant that the foreskin served no useful purpose, and increased the possibility of infection.
In later years, I was happy with having been circumcised and always flinched at the idea of a penis that was "uncut."
I will have to reread this thread to see if there are posts from women who express any preference either way in respect of partners

Aesthetics are wholly inappropriate to this discussion.

ditalini · 24/01/2025 17:46

shuggles · 24/01/2025 17:35

@AliasGrace47 I read in a Gloria Steinem book that circumcision can increase sensitivity by exposing more of the sensitive area.

It sounds like you and Gloria Steinem both have very limited knowledge of male anatomy.

If men want to get this amazing sensitivity that Gloria's suggesting, there's nothing stopping them paying to have their foreskin lopped when they're old enough to consent to other modifications such as a genital piercing or a tattoo.

Equally, if men think it's worth getting their foreskin lopped to lower their risk of HIV, they can pay to have it removed when they're old enough. With the advantage that they'll also be old enough to consult with the doctor re: how much they want removed.

If a man wants to show his commitment to the covenant with his deity he can pay to do so when he's old enough to consent to such a radical procedure. Arguably it would be a more valuable sacrifice since it would be freely given rather than taken.

ArabellaScott · 24/01/2025 17:46

Zebedee999 · 24/01/2025 17:45

Here's the FGM graph, shocking imo. As I said it's happening in the UK nowadays and we have a court dedicated to dealing with it. Unlikely to stop it here when some migrants come from countries where 100% of girls experience it. Why import a problem we never used to have?

These girls will be at risk whether they are in the UK or Africa, stopping migration isn't going to help them. In fact they may have a better chance of escaping in a country where its illegal.

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Namechangedforgoodreasons · 24/01/2025 17:46

Simonjt · 24/01/2025 17:43

Common life long problems with circumcision, reduced sensation, burning pain due to too much skin being removed, pain during erections that lead to erectile disfunction. Inclusion cysts, urinary problems due to the urethra being permanently damaged. Bleeding, infection and death.

Not common at all.

mitogoshigg · 24/01/2025 17:45

I gave birth in the USA and you can request circumcision as part of the newborn health checks. I had a daughter so irrelevant and bring British it would have been a no but the leaflets cited hygiene and protection against certain conditions

Zebedee999 · 24/01/2025 17:45

Fluufer · 24/01/2025 17:33

Well you couldn't read a graph title properly, I obviously couldn't assume you had anything close to an educated opinion.

Here's the FGM graph, shocking imo. As I said it's happening in the UK nowadays and we have a court dedicated to dealing with it. Unlikely to stop it here when some migrants come from countries where 100% of girls experience it. Why import a problem we never used to have?

Circumcision should be banned.
ArabellaScott · 24/01/2025 17:45

MrsPeregrine · 24/01/2025 17:12

By that reasoning then let’s also ban ear piercing on babies and young children then 🙄 FWIW I remember my brother had to have it done as a young child because his foreskin was too tight. My husband had to have it done as a teen, for the same reason. He soon got over the procedure. And it’s much easier to keep clean down there because there’s less area for bacteria to accumulate and multiply.

I agree that ear piercing in babies/children should be banned, yes.

Note that almost everyone here has said they are discussing circumcision that is medically unnecessary.

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knitnerd90 · 24/01/2025 17:43

As for profit in the US health care system -- perhaps at one time but not so much anymore. One way rates have dropped is if Medicaid stops covering it. The rates dropped in Canada when provincial plans stopped paying. (This has much less effect on religious circumcision as it's not done within the health system.)

The major driver in the US today is parental preference and whether the father is circumcised or not. You can see this even more strongly by regional trends. Circumcision is higher in the South and Midwest, low in the West (under 25%) and in the middle in the Northeast. States with high immigration, especially Latino (see: Texas and Florida) have lower rates. I would not say circumcision is dying, but the trend is absolutely downwards.

Simonjt · 24/01/2025 17:43

Namechangedforgoodreasons · 24/01/2025 17:37

FGM frequently causes long-lasting problems with bleeding, pain, urinary problems and loss of sexual pleasure.
Circumcision doesn’t.

Common life long problems with circumcision, reduced sensation, burning pain due to too much skin being removed, pain during erections that lead to erectile disfunction. Inclusion cysts, urinary problems due to the urethra being permanently damaged. Bleeding, infection and death.

swimsong · 24/01/2025 17:41

Runnersandtoms · 24/01/2025 15:19

Although I agree circumcision shouldn't be allowed apart from for health reasons, male circumcision doesn't cause any issues going forward once healed eg pain, sexual dysfunction etc. FGM can make sex impossible or impossibly painful and cause severe and dangerous lifelong consequences for girls and women, aside from the dangers of infection and extreme pain at the time.

There's an established loss of sensitivity, which I think explains the American obsession with anal sex. And then there's the need to use lube for satisfactory masturbation.

ArabellaScott · 24/01/2025 17:38

GildedRage · 24/01/2025 17:24

@Zebedee999 please note that the WHO recommends adult voluntary circumcision in africa to prevent HIV and other serious sexually transmitted diseases.

Astonishingly, this is true.

https://www.who.int/teams/global-hiv-hepatitis-and-stis-programmes/hiv/prevention/voluntary-medical-male-circumcision

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