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Circumcision should be banned.

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ArabellaScott · 24/01/2025 14:44

https://www.secularism.org.uk/news/2025/01/judge-and-parents-call-for-boys-to-be-protected-from-circumcision

Article describes an upsetting case of two doctors performing these ops without anesthesia, and with sometimes serious side effects. One boy nearly died.

The National Secular Society is running a concurrent campaign to ban all 'religious cutting' - that includes both FGM and male circumcision. I wholeheartedly agree that no baby or child should suffer in this way. More info:

https://www.secularism.org.uk/religious-surgery/

YABU - circumcision for religous reasons is fine
YANBU - circumcision should be banned (unless there is a medical reason)

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BreatheAndFocus · 24/01/2025 18:37

Catsnap · 24/01/2025 18:29

As a primary school TA I once went on a school trip a synagogue when the Rabbi talked to children (amongst other things) about how and why baby boys’ were circumcised. ‘Does it hurt?’ Asked one of the children. ‘No, because the foreskin has no nerve endings.’
At the same school, the class teacher insisted in a science lesson that women had fewer ribs than men- ‘because of Adam and Eve’. I’m not sure biology and religion are always a great mix.

There’s a most horrible video of a circumcision of a baby online. It’s a medical circumcision (not being done for religious reasons, just cultural as the baby boy is American). The way the baby is restrained is disturbing but the screams are absolutely horrific!

Nobody should be allowed to inflict this on a child.

SomethingElseAgain · 24/01/2025 18:36

Jackiepumpkinhead · 24/01/2025 18:31

Utterly shocking that you have to explain this to some people!

You're thinking of Type 3 FGM. Types 2 and 1 are different. All are illegal.

Utterly shocking that you have to explain this to some people!

creamandcookies2 · 24/01/2025 18:35

spoonfulofsugar1 · 24/01/2025 15:37

My son is circumcised for religious reasons (muslim). It was done when he was a baby.
The situation was extremely complex.

However, male circumcision and FGM are not the same and its not helpful to conflate the two issues.

Complex how? Believing in some invisible being who may or not be real isn't an excuse to mutilate a baby. It's fairly black and white.

Mrsdyna · 24/01/2025 18:34

Of course it should be banned, a newborn baby doesn't care about religion or its parent's wants, all he will feel is scared and in pain. It absolutely disgusts me that people can do this.

Terfarina · 24/01/2025 18:33

AliasGrace47 · 24/01/2025 18:30

In the Bible, circumcision is a sign of the covenant between Abraham & God. It is still taken v seriously by Orthodox Jews especially I think? Ofc between different branches it varies.

please could you give more details? how did this happen?

AliasGrace47 · 24/01/2025 18:33

Catsnap · 24/01/2025 18:29

As a primary school TA I once went on a school trip a synagogue when the Rabbi talked to children (amongst other things) about how and why baby boys’ were circumcised. ‘Does it hurt?’ Asked one of the children. ‘No, because the foreskin has no nerve endings.’
At the same school, the class teacher insisted in a science lesson that women had fewer ribs than men- ‘because of Adam and Eve’. I’m not sure biology and religion are always a great mix.

I think Haredi & Hasidic Judaism can be quite anti science, similar to some evangelicals, it's not a good thing...

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/01/2025 18:32

ChessorBuckaroo · 24/01/2025 18:10

Circumcision is bloody disgusting.

Mutilating a part of a child's body, and without consent. Vile. It's abuse. If they want to scar a part of their body when they are older through their own choice, go ahead.

However not sure I'm comfortable banning it given its religious (Jewish) connotations. Same way I'm against banning the veil even though it's a form of subjugation.

As a way to navigate round this I'd ban circumcision for non religious (backward) reasons.

Is anyone actually circumcising babies in the UK for non religious reasons?

Jackiepumpkinhead · 24/01/2025 18:31

Joystir59 · 24/01/2025 16:24

Because there is a significant difference between removing a foreskin from a penis and scraping a girls clitoris away and sewing her labia together so tightly she cannot part with menstrual fluid or enjoy sexual pleasure

Utterly shocking that you have to explain this to some people!

AliasGrace47 · 24/01/2025 18:30

Terfarina · 24/01/2025 18:20

I don't get the religious argument. Is this just custom, or in the bible does it say 'thou must cut bits of your children's genitalia'?

In the Bible, circumcision is a sign of the covenant between Abraham & God. It is still taken v seriously by Orthodox Jews especially I think? Ofc between different branches it varies.

Catsnap · 24/01/2025 18:29

As a primary school TA I once went on a school trip a synagogue when the Rabbi talked to children (amongst other things) about how and why baby boys’ were circumcised. ‘Does it hurt?’ Asked one of the children. ‘No, because the foreskin has no nerve endings.’
At the same school, the class teacher insisted in a science lesson that women had fewer ribs than men- ‘because of Adam and Eve’. I’m not sure biology and religion are always a great mix.

namechangeGOT · 24/01/2025 18:28

However not sure I'm comfortable banning it given its religious (Jewish) connotations. Same way I'm against banning the veil even though it's a form of subjugation.

@ChessorBuckaroo so, if it's in the name of religion then we should allow anything? Anything at all? You know the baby doesn't know they're Jewish? Another person has made that choice for them?

SomethingElseAgain · 24/01/2025 18:28

Macrodatarefiner · 24/01/2025 14:48

It's a difficult issue. I think genital cutting highlights the challenges of multiculturalism as being about far more than food and music. I think on one hand it is possibly wrong, and supremacist to impose my moral beliefs on others who belong to radically different cultures. On the other hand, I really really don't like it, I think it's cruel and unnecessary.

Supremacist?

Jesus wept.

Do you feel the same way about casually cutting off a baby's little toe, or a bit of their ear, or taking a chunk of flesh out of their back at birth for no medical reason? It's really unlikely to have any serious consequences for their life so maybe the parents should be allowed to do it if they believe that God told them to? Or just because their parents did it to them etc.? Or just because they enjoy it? I mean, why does the motive really matter?

Then we don't have to bother lifting a finger to protect those "other" children being mutilated (while continuing to prosecute anyone who does the same to our own children) and, as a Brucey Bonus, we can pat ourselves on the back for our wonderful and tolerant open-mindedness.

I mean, there are well-documented accounts of tribes routinely practicing CSA as part of their culture too. Is it OK for that to continue being done to 'those' kids too (particularly on our shores) so that we don't overstep into colonial supremacy?

If you think that child genital mutilation is, as you say, "cruel", why are you more afraid of being seen to be "supremacist" than preventing cruelty to children?

Where exactly do you draw the line with the moral relativism and on what basis?

Obviously no need to answer if you don't want to - you certainly don't owe me any explanations! But interesting to ponder to yourself who has primed you to be so reticent about calling out things that you clearly feel are truly and seriously wrong and to what end.

Incidentally, and to be very clear in case people draw adverse conclusions - I have a high respect for Judaism on many respects and this is not an opinion I hold because of who is traditionally associated with its practice (the USA seems to have an extremely odd approach to this in general, too, for example).

AliasGrace47 · 24/01/2025 18:25

Porcuporpoise · 24/01/2025 18:14

The vast majority of men who are circumcised globally are not fighting to stop the practice though are they? Most see no issue with it.

Hmm, maybe most tho are older & have some say? I am busy now but I would be interested to compare satisfaction stats for adolescent, adult & infant.

namechangeGOT · 24/01/2025 18:25

The whole FGM is worse than male circumcision argument is entirely irrelevant.

Chopping someone's hand off isn't as bad as decapitating them but they're both wrong.

LadyTable · 24/01/2025 18:23

ChessorBuckaroo · 24/01/2025 18:10

Circumcision is bloody disgusting.

Mutilating a part of a child's body, and without consent. Vile. It's abuse. If they want to scar a part of their body when they are older through their own choice, go ahead.

However not sure I'm comfortable banning it given its religious (Jewish) connotations. Same way I'm against banning the veil even though it's a form of subjugation.

As a way to navigate round this I'd ban circumcision for non religious (backward) reasons.

An adult can choose to wear a veil or not.

An adult can choose their own religion.

Babies cannot choose whether or not they're mutilated due to their parent's religious choices.

And unlike a veil, the mutilation is permanent.

Combustivechicken · 24/01/2025 18:23

If male circumcision is such a terrible thing it's surprising that more men aren't up in arms about it.

I don’t know what happened with one of my DBs circumcision, but he is very angry about it being done to him . My DM felt very strongly about it not being done, but met so much anger and opposition from the elders in our family, she buckled and both brothers had a bris and one of them a Barmitzvah. By the time my younger DB was of barmitvah age and said he didn’t want one, my DPs had the confidence to stand up for themselves. My DGM asked how my youngest DB would ever know right from wrong if he wasn’t Barmitvahd. DM said he already ready knew because he’d been taught just like the rest of us. I’m proud of the resilience and many of the traditional values of my faith, but circumcision is something I can’t defend.

Icanttakethisanymore · 24/01/2025 18:23

Terfarina · 24/01/2025 18:18

You give birth to your perfect, wonderful new baby. You can't bear anything that might hurt him, you have bought the softest clothes, the nursery is calm and beautiful and you sing sweet lullabies to help him sleep. Then you get some doc to mutilate his genitalia. HOW DOES THAT COMPUTE!!!

I made this point earlier - if it wasn’t ‘normal’ in some countries, surely you’d get arrested for suggesting it??

ditalini · 24/01/2025 18:22

Porcuporpoise · 24/01/2025 18:14

The vast majority of men who are circumcised globally are not fighting to stop the practice though are they? Most see no issue with it.

Well they ain't getting it back. Nothing to be done (although there are procedures that men can try and certain proportion do try these).

That's the argument for infant circumcision of course. Do it when they're too young to remember. But it's a ridiculous argument when don't do it at all is also available.

Cultural norms are also very powerful. It's the "normal" penis in porn and in US environments where men see other men's penises. A lot of US women (if they discuss it at all), think uncircumcised penises look weird. But it's just a norm and norms can change - I've only ever experienced uncircumcised penises and I think circumcised ones look a bit odd tbh.

Youngheartsalittletogetherness · 24/01/2025 18:21

If you're born with all your body parts
They're there for a reason.
You keep them whether male or female.

ChessorBuckaroo · 24/01/2025 18:21

People get scars through accidents and what not, and there should be no judgment on that. But to knowingly scar and deform a part of your body, that's sick. Whenever I do watch porn (and it's not often) I cannot watch if the genitalia has been deliberately mutilated.

Its the emperors new clothes, everyone knows it looks wrong, yet there is this weird silence about it. A great big scar across the middle of a member, a bone dry looking member too. Massive ick.

BreatheAndFocus · 24/01/2025 18:20

SquaredShoulders · 24/01/2025 15:23

Attempting to yoke male circumcision together with FGM is trolling, a bit. The former is a pretty small procedure with trivial hygiene/health benefits and no lifelong downsides. It’s also impractical to outlaw it whilst it remains a religious practice for two major world religions.

No downsides??? It reduces sexual pleasure, for a start. The foreskin isn’t just a random skin tag that’s there for no reason. It contains 10,000 nerve endings that contribute to sexual enjoyment:

https://www.mamanatural.com/circumcision-myths-and-facts/

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Baby Circumcision Myths & Facts

People have strong opinions about baby circumcision, but what are the facts? Are there health benefits to circumcision? Are most men circumcised? 

https://www.mamanatural.com/circumcision-myths-and-facts

Terfarina · 24/01/2025 18:20

I don't get the religious argument. Is this just custom, or in the bible does it say 'thou must cut bits of your children's genitalia'?

Harassedevictee · 24/01/2025 18:19

No one should be surgically altering a child’s body unless there is a clear clinical need. It is the child’s body and it should be their choice as an adult if they choose to surgically alter their body.

Terfarina · 24/01/2025 18:18

You give birth to your perfect, wonderful new baby. You can't bear anything that might hurt him, you have bought the softest clothes, the nursery is calm and beautiful and you sing sweet lullabies to help him sleep. Then you get some doc to mutilate his genitalia. HOW DOES THAT COMPUTE!!!

Porcuporpoise · 24/01/2025 18:14

AliasGrace47 · 24/01/2025 18:08

A lot of MRAs are. They do have legitimate complaints about some things. The issue is other stuff they say. Women are often jointly responsible for circumcision, so I think women need to get more involved in opposing it, plus it's just morally wrong to do this imo. I actually wonder if some MRA's misogyny is rooted in circumcision anger- they ought to blame their fathers too, generally it's just the mother who is blamed.

The vast majority of men who are circumcised globally are not fighting to stop the practice though are they? Most see no issue with it.

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