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Circumcision should be banned.

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ArabellaScott · 24/01/2025 14:44

https://www.secularism.org.uk/news/2025/01/judge-and-parents-call-for-boys-to-be-protected-from-circumcision

Article describes an upsetting case of two doctors performing these ops without anesthesia, and with sometimes serious side effects. One boy nearly died.

The National Secular Society is running a concurrent campaign to ban all 'religious cutting' - that includes both FGM and male circumcision. I wholeheartedly agree that no baby or child should suffer in this way. More info:

https://www.secularism.org.uk/religious-surgery/

YABU - circumcision for religous reasons is fine
YANBU - circumcision should be banned (unless there is a medical reason)

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Staringatthemoon · 24/01/2025 19:29

@AliasGrace47
Yes, I understand that religion is about ritual, etc so why cant they replace the act with something symbolic but non physical - like a special ceremony, complete with all the meaning and weight of other sacraments/events but one that avoids cutting the baby. It is not beyond the scope of faiths to have special prayers that give the same gravitas and meaning to an event in the way say, confirmation is done, that can then be respected within the community and strengthen its bonds.

HarryVanderspeigle · 24/01/2025 19:29

I am against any body modification without consent. Anyone who wants to be circumcised can surely do so ar 16+. I also don't agree with sticking small metal bars into babies and young children. I am pretty sure I have had 14 piercings in my life, so certainly not against it, I just did all of them understanding what was going to happen.

AliasGrace47 · 24/01/2025 19:23

Staringatthemoon · 24/01/2025 19:16

It is not something I could ever imagine being able to do after carrying a child inside me for 9 months. It seems a direct contradiction of the belief that God creates man in his own image and the religious logic that says God does not make mistakes. I think it is an act of violence against a baby.

I guess the thinking is that it's not a mistake, but not essential either, so can be symbolically removed to show allegiance
? But research seems to contradict that.

AliasGrace47 · 24/01/2025 19:17

Terfarina, How did it happen..? Well, aside from the story, which is a matter of faith, I haven't looked into it, but probs for historical reasons to set the Jewish religion apart? It was v long ago, I am interested in religious research & it seems that some things like kosher laws may have been instigated by priests who wanted to have a monopoly on what was permitted and what was not, so perhaps circumcision was for a similar reason? I don't know much on this topic.

FrankieStein403 · 24/01/2025 19:17

Those suggesting it has no impact on the male experience of sex - how do they know? There's a relatively small population of men who can quote before and after experience where it was done for non-medical reasons.

Staringatthemoon · 24/01/2025 19:16

It is not something I could ever imagine being able to do after carrying a child inside me for 9 months. It seems a direct contradiction of the belief that God creates man in his own image and the religious logic that says God does not make mistakes. I think it is an act of violence against a baby.

AliasGrace47 · 24/01/2025 19:11

Momsnetmeanies · 24/01/2025 18:51

Explain to me

If your god is the creator and grand designer. How they manage to leave a bit on skin on the end of a boys knob that needs modification from a humble human 🤔

Good question, I'm not Jewish- actually Muslims also circumcise don't they, I remembered when I saw pp. For Jews it's a physical symbol of the covenant w God, to set them apart as following special rules & having particular responsibilities.
In Islam, it's not in the Quran, but in the Hadith & Sunnah, accounts of Muhammad's life & sayings. It's complex & seems to me mainly promoting it as a sign of belonging, like Judaism, perhaps also as a simple continuation of pre Islamic customs?Not so clear, I need to check.

Icanttakethisanymore · 24/01/2025 19:10

72hoursinaande · 24/01/2025 18:11

The best topic where Islamophobia and anti-semitism can live happily together

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This topic is neither of those things.

Catsnap · 24/01/2025 19:04

I think wanting it to be banned in the UK is also a complete non-starter. It’s far too important to the Jewish religion.

LadyTable · 24/01/2025 19:04

spoonfulofsugar1 · 24/01/2025 15:37

My son is circumcised for religious reasons (muslim). It was done when he was a baby.
The situation was extremely complex.

However, male circumcision and FGM are not the same and its not helpful to conflate the two issues.

It's not complex at all.

A woman chooses to grow a baby inside her.

The baby is born with all its perfect body parts intact.

The mother and father then choose to permanently remove some of their perfect baby's body, due to a religion they (not the baby) choose to follow.

It couldn't be any more simple.

ArabellaScott · 24/01/2025 19:04

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/01/2025 18:45

Yes but is anyone doing it in the UK? Presumably we are talking about banning it in the UK. I'm not sure whether there would be any point in banning it for non religious reasons only in the UK.

20% of males in the UK are circumcised. The NHS says it's very rarely done for medical reasons.

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/circumcision-in-boys/

nhs.uk

Circumcision in boys

Read about circumcision in boys, including why it's carried out, medical reasons for circumcision, what the procedure involves, recovery and risks.

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/circumcision-in-boys

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ArabellaScott · 24/01/2025 19:02

shuggles · 24/01/2025 18:57

@Cunningfungus Are you having a laugh! FGM is a complete mutilation of a girl’s genital area involving removal of her clitoris and often resulting in fistulae. Sometimes the girl’s vagina will be stitched over, only to be ripped open again forcefully during sex. Other effects include infection, scarring, chronic long term genital infections, obstetric problems, urination problems and even death from sepsis. Obstruction of the vaginal opening may lead to painful menstruation (dysmenorrhea), irregular periods and difficulty in passing menstrual blood. The girl is unlikely to ever go on and have a pleasant sexual experience following FGM.

Everything you said is correct, but what you have described is a specific, and very severe, form of FGM, which is not the most common. The term "FGM" embodies a very diverse and wide range of different forms of cutting (indeed, there are many different ways of cutting the penis too).

The least severe form of FGM is "pricking" (FGM Class IV) which is unquestionably far less severe than circumcision in infant boys.

However, such arguments are a distraction and are completely missing the point. It's not a competition of "this thing is worse than that thing." It's the principle that's the important point. Common sense should say that invasive and unnecessary surgery, without anaesthesia, should not be performed on infants who can't consent.

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/01/2025 19:00

SomethingElseAgain · 24/01/2025 18:48

Apologies, I meant to refer to Americans in the UK but wasn't explicit. Yes, you'd need to do it for both.

Any legislation would probably phrase it as a geberal ban with an exception made for medical need rather than picking out reasons it wasn't allowed in any event.

I think expecting it to be banned in the US is a non starter. They're so backwards about circumcision.

ArabellaScott · 24/01/2025 19:00

DeepFatFried · 24/01/2025 18:07

In the WHO classification of types of FGM the least extreme is described thus:
“This is the partial or total removal of the clitoral glans (the external and visible part of the clitoris, which is a sensitive part of the female genitals), and/or the prepuce/clitoral hood (the fold of skin surrounding the clitoral glans).”

Removal of clitoris.

Horrific and extreme. IMO.

I am totally against circumcision for non medical reasons. To me it is ethically and morally wrong to cut bits off kids bodies without their consent.

We don’t need to make circumcision of boys comparative to FGM to decide whether or not it is wrong. It either is or isn’t, on its own terms.

As it happens I think the misogyny and the fear of women’s sexual pleasure as a threat to patriarchy and men’s power is a different dynamic to male circumcision, which seems to be about offering a covenant to your god and making your son a valuable powerful male member of your tribe.

But, irrespective of all this, cutting bits off babies or non/consenting (under the gf if consent ) children is wrong.

Another study I posted talked about pricking genitals with a needle in a symbolic gesture.

Of course, this is also awful, wrong, and unnecessary, but it is I would say comparable in terms of potential side effects/complications etc to castration.

Anyway, the issue I think is that people are deliberately harming and mutilating children based on a religious motivation. That's what makes them similar.

I can see both sides, for what it's worth.

Practically speaking, I think a very clear, very strong line of 'no hurting babies for religious reasons' might make the whole issue easier to address? No getting lost in the thickets of whether infibulation or circumcision are worse etc, just a very straightforward banning of any and all mutilation of children.

Jesus, I can hardly believe anyone would try to justify it.

Don't hurt kids! That's it!

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namechangeGOT · 24/01/2025 18:59

Momsnetmeanies · 24/01/2025 18:51

Explain to me

If your god is the creator and grand designer. How they manage to leave a bit on skin on the end of a boys knob that needs modification from a humble human 🤔

Please please religious people - answer this.

shuggles · 24/01/2025 18:57

@Cunningfungus Are you having a laugh! FGM is a complete mutilation of a girl’s genital area involving removal of her clitoris and often resulting in fistulae. Sometimes the girl’s vagina will be stitched over, only to be ripped open again forcefully during sex. Other effects include infection, scarring, chronic long term genital infections, obstetric problems, urination problems and even death from sepsis. Obstruction of the vaginal opening may lead to painful menstruation (dysmenorrhea), irregular periods and difficulty in passing menstrual blood. The girl is unlikely to ever go on and have a pleasant sexual experience following FGM.

Everything you said is correct, but what you have described is a specific, and very severe, form of FGM, which is not the most common. The term "FGM" embodies a very diverse and wide range of different forms of cutting (indeed, there are many different ways of cutting the penis too).

The least severe form of FGM is "pricking" (FGM Class IV) which is unquestionably far less severe than circumcision in infant boys.

However, such arguments are a distraction and are completely missing the point. It's not a competition of "this thing is worse than that thing." It's the principle that's the important point. Common sense should say that invasive and unnecessary surgery, without anaesthesia, should not be performed on infants who can't consent.

Mrsdyna · 24/01/2025 18:55

Momsnetmeanies · 24/01/2025 18:51

Explain to me

If your god is the creator and grand designer. How they manage to leave a bit on skin on the end of a boys knob that needs modification from a humble human 🤔

Makes no sense does it, God creates the eye with all its intricacies but somehow messes up the penis. As per usual, it's for humans to correct "God's mistake."
Couldn't make it up, circumcision actually sounds blasphemous.

Momsnetmeanies · 24/01/2025 18:51

Explain to me

If your god is the creator and grand designer. How they manage to leave a bit on skin on the end of a boys knob that needs modification from a humble human 🤔

shuggles · 24/01/2025 18:51

@AliasGrace47 Similarly, I wouldn't expect gay men to know about female anatomy, unless they were involved in an issue like maternity care, dangers of vaginally surgery etc.

Well no, healthcare issues are a big topic in the media, and I would expect the general public to have an awareness of those issues because that in turn ensures that the issues receive the attention they deserve, which then leads to increased funding. Endometriosis has been a big thing in recent years, so I would expect gay men to have an awareness of it and the general structure of a woman's body. Same logic applies to lesbians- I would expect a lesbian to know that the entire head of the penis can be completely exposed without a surgical intervention.

This doesn't apply to me, but some gay & lesbian people find fundamentally unpleasant to think about the opposite sex's genitals.

Those people that you know need to grow up.

Unrelated38 · 24/01/2025 18:50

It should be illegal to mutilate any child, or non-consenting adults, genitals. No matter how much of the genitals you're removing, or what conditions it's done under. It should never be OK to remove or alter parts of a child's genitals for aesthetics. Fuck we made it illegal to Dock dogs tails but not baby boys foreskins.

Obviously medical necessity, which is very uncommon, is exempt, just like you'd amputate a limb if it was causing harm.

SomethingElseAgain · 24/01/2025 18:48

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/01/2025 18:45

Yes but is anyone doing it in the UK? Presumably we are talking about banning it in the UK. I'm not sure whether there would be any point in banning it for non religious reasons only in the UK.

Apologies, I meant to refer to Americans in the UK but wasn't explicit. Yes, you'd need to do it for both.

Any legislation would probably phrase it as a geberal ban with an exception made for medical need rather than picking out reasons it wasn't allowed in any event.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/01/2025 18:45

SomethingElseAgain · 24/01/2025 18:39

Americans routinely do it because they think it's "cleaner". Foreskins on adult males are routinely greeted with an, "ewww!"

It's learned social behaviour not dissimilar to reactions to "uncut" females in parts of the world where FGM is routinely practiced, though most Americans would baulk at the comparison.

Yes but is anyone doing it in the UK? Presumably we are talking about banning it in the UK. I'm not sure whether there would be any point in banning it for non religious reasons only in the UK.

DGPP · 24/01/2025 18:45

100% agree, it’s a horrendous practice

SomethingElseAgain · 24/01/2025 18:39

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/01/2025 18:32

Is anyone actually circumcising babies in the UK for non religious reasons?

Americans routinely do it because they think it's "cleaner". Foreskins on adult males are routinely greeted with an, "ewww!"

It's learned social behaviour not dissimilar to reactions to "uncut" females in parts of the world where FGM is routinely practiced, though most Americans would baulk at the comparison.

ditalini · 24/01/2025 18:38

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/01/2025 18:32

Is anyone actually circumcising babies in the UK for non religious reasons?

Yes.

You can pay to have it done for any reason. Apparently it's common amongst the aristo class, and obviously expats from countries where it's more common so that baby boys can grow up looking like daddy.

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