Not to like being called posh?

But people also call people "common" and rough.

It's not nice the other way either.

Wouldn't you rather be called posh than rough?

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All I can think of is wanking?

No my name is not wanking

But you’ve been friends since your school days, so your background hardly hold any surprises for them at this point?
You’ve clearly been doing something different, or expressing different opinions that they don’t expect from you 🤷🏻‍♀️

@raspberrycordial Posh: a word used by people who don't have manners to describe people who do 😂😂

DH has an RP accent but generally looks quite scruffy. I've heard him described as "That nicely spoken man" which I like whereas I wouldn't like him to be described as posh.

@Stillwearinggloves if they think you're snobby or stuck up then there a chance you might be, even without intention. But if not then I'd just assume it's meant in a light hearted way.

I have a few very traditionally 'working class' mates who've called me posh.

Equally I call some people posh if they're rich, went to boarding school and talk RP. It's not necessarily being nasty.

My mate had his own three bed house mortgage free when he was on minimum wage and his lodger was a Tory MP. He got called posh a lot by me! His family owned more than one castle so he couldn't exactly sit there denying it. 🤣

Posh in my circle wouldn't be a compliment, more someone being a bit 'try hard.'

I agree, rather Hyacynth Bucket-y as opposed to someone genuinely upper class who tends to play it down.
I love the sort of people described as "posh" on Come Dine with Me - they're all "Ooh, no Ay'm not" but absolutely lap it up.

I went to college with an aristocrat, title and everything. Her clothes always looked like they needed a good wash and her hair remembled someone who'd been dragged through a hedge backwards. Her RP accent was the only clue.
Posh in my circle wouldn't be a compliment, more someone being a bit 'try hard.'

And yes totally agree it's not meant positively, it's a way to say they think you think you're better than them. It's boring and tiresome and only reflective of the sayer.

Used to get this from FIL "ooooh you're posh aren't you" or "oooooh posh". I'm definitely not posh but perhaps to someone with a chip on his shoulder I am...

One day I snapped back with "what is it about calling me posh all the time?" and gone vv LC and it seems to have stopped so far

Hope it doesn’t rhyme with your user name!

All depends on context, friends with a positive history of being nice to you I’d say they are just lighthearted banter
can you talk to them and tell you it’s not landing well

YANBU. I don't think anyone says it to be nice. It's a loaded term that is the same as 'you think you are better than everyone else'.

I've been made fun of my whole life for being 'posh'. I'm not although lived in a nicer part of my run d down town.
It's used to bother me but now I play up to it and act extra posh for the fun of it.
It's really not a big deal.

Being called posh is a compliment. Unless it’s being said by someone chippy.

I was called posh as a child because I moved from a village in surrey to the south coast. I wouldn't mind it now, being called a snob on the other hand not so nice! And I'm definitely not that!

YANBU. It's 'othering'

I've been called posh because of my accent. It's a bog-standard boring flat English accent. I don't have much of a local dialect. But it's enough to be treated with suspicion by some people!

Not unreasonable at all not to like it. It makes me feel self-conscious and hypercritical of what I’m doing if someone randomly calls me posh—I don’t identify with posh people at all. Saying that, my dear mother-in-law, who I love with my whole heart, calls me a ‘posh bird’ regularly. It’s meant with love; she just thinks my eating cake with a fork and my more southern accent are fancy, but I could never be mad at her for it. It’s likely, as you said, to be due to being well-spoken. Don’t take it too personally, OP—I doubt they mean it to be offensive.

There really are.

I think a lot depends on who is saying it and why and to whom. I've had work colleagues says "ah, but you don't do x, you're posh" and they don't mean it unkindly, they're saying "hey we all know you don't do <insert tedious chore here>"

It's sometimes shorthand for a bit princessy or reasonably well spoken (both of which I am) and I don't mind at all if someone is saying it to my face in a joking or kindly meant way.

I'm not posh btw. But I do have a lovely life and I don't really care whether anyone thinks I'm posh or not, I know I'm not.

But OP if you think it was meant unkindly, call them on it.

Someone at work does this to me. Makes comments like “I bet you shop in John Lewis” 😂 cracks me up that this is their idea of posh.

I don’t particularly like it but because it’s a work environment I just suck it up. I know deep down it’s probably some some of resentment about their own life and having to shop at B&M.

I usually find if I am called posh it is by someone projecting their insecurities onto me.

Honestly I think people base poshness on accent as opposed to lifestyle.