Not to like being called posh?

Posh people don't annoy me per se.

What does annoy me is when some rich, posh people complain about things that other people don't even have. It's heartless .

For example I used to attend a group. The richest man in the group used to complain about his summer house. Something minor was wrong with it, so he was going to have to spend his summer holiday in his flat in Spain instead.

OK, maybe have a quick complain. But he went on and on and on about it.

I was thinking "I know there are a couple of people in this group who are struggling for money. "

His showing off was just tasteless.

I think if you don't want to be called "posh" don't live in a class based country, where there has been such unfairness.

"Posh" is a loaded word. People say it out of hurt.

Rich families kept themselves rich through intergenerational wealth.

So when some one was brought up in a poor struggling household , and they hear Cosmo at work - going on about his third skiing holiday, they may call him posh.

It's not just about Cosmo. It is hurt and pain- at the unfairness of the system

This. I’m not quite sure how I ended up being fairly well spoken, coming from a “middle of the road” background, but when it’s commented on, it’s assumed I must look down on other people, which is unfair. As I’ve got older I’ve made a point of finding kinder people, but in my younger years I found people could be quite judgmental

YANBU. I'm not posh, just have a standard South-Eastern accent. It gets very tiresome being called posh, especially with the presumption that I'm a bit up myself.

I really don’t think it is, unless there’s a whole back story here.

One person said it by reference to an activity I did a long time ago.

It depends-it a person said, 'So, did you know X did fencing/skiing at school' and someone replied, 'wow-that's a bit posh, we just did netball!' then I couldn't really get worked up about it. What are they actually referring to?

Both my DC try hard not to be posh. Both have been known as posh - DS's former colleagues used to call him "posh boy". They have just eye-rolled and laughed along.

I love winding the husband up about being "posh" because he grew up in a town ten miles away from my town known for being posh lol. It depends whether it's said in jest or spite.

It doesn't bother me at all, I live in a 'posh' area so it's always said to me when I'm asked where I'm from from, I reply and they say 'oh posh then' I cringe when they then ask what I do for a living and where, as it's the epitome of posh! My bosses ARE posh, by every measure possible but actually they're so down to earth. People don't see that until they get to know them - the look on contractors faces when they drop a 'fuck' in to every sentence is hilarious.
I however am NOT posh! I've been bought up to speak clearly and the accent here is considered such, but that's where it ends! I don't find it offensive, I get bored of the 'joke' though.....I think I'd be more offended if I was called common!!!!

OP start referring to yourself as posh, play into it a bit and see if that bores them?

I've had that too in the past, not so much now I'm old. I was never in the least posh, came from a working class background but I received a decent education and spoke quite well, that's all. However I didn't sound like Helena Bonham Carter or the royals. It's all relative.

Just ignore them, they are being stupid - and probably defensive.

I don’t have a regional accent so people often ask me where I’m from and assume I am well off. I’ve moved about a lot so don’t really have a “from”. I am far from posh

I'm perfectly happy to be called posh.

The only person who's called me posh is someone who belches really loudly in public.

There are threads fairly often ins tyle and beauty asking how to look posh on a budget

But how is posh an insult

It's saying to someone "you have a lot of money, you're rich".

How can telling someone that they have a lot, be an insult?

I was called posh once . I didn't care

But you don’t- it is too different worlds. Well that’s my experience anyway. You will never truly be seen as the same as people are clannish. As I said I work in a deprived area- many of my staff are from there and I will never be one of them. We are shaped by our upbringing and that is ok. They equally wouldn’t ever really fit in in my world outside work either.

It’s generally a sneering example of inverted snobbery.

Imagine socialising in a group and spotting a WC person or anyone with an accent, and telling them 'You're so working class!' If you can call people 'posh' and it's not offensive then that should be completely acceptable, no?

Rather like you’d never exclaim “OMG you’re so fat” but “OMG you’re so skinny” is somehow ok, yet can really upset a very thin person

Why?

I get called posh, doesn’t bother me in the slightest (I mean I’m not at all but can see why some people might think I am)

I have a friend who’s really posh, goes the Henley Regatta etc and we tease him about it. It’s all in good spirits, just like we might tease others for having a northern accent or eating council food etc. It’s part of our individual characters and given that we all like / love each other to be friends (in some cases for over thirty years), it’s not an insult.

I think posh is a funny term. It's usually used by working class people to say someone doing something I think rich people do and often implies being flashy. I think it can be used as a description, like if you have a new BMW , expensive clothes or a neutral accent. It can also be used to judge or criticise implying you think you're better or you're trying too hard. Or to say you're rich.

I think context is important.

@BollingenTower I'm not talking about myself! I have some friends who are fairly posh.

But life is very, very hard for most people, so no, I don't judge people for resenting posh people. I get it.

@Person1234 why do you resent people on sight when you know nothing about them? Do you only like people who are just like you?