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People with driveways parking on the street

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Hellskitchen24 · 24/01/2025 14:05

I live in a long row of terraces. Most roads are terraced here, as I live in a fairly working class town. This means that the only people with driveways are the end of the terraces. I live a few doors down from the end.

My neighbour has in the last 6 months or so decided to mostly stop using their driveway. It’s a relatively fit retired couple. They probably only use the car a handful of times per week, and instead park it on the road outside our houses. They’ve got this thing now where on the odd occasion they do have it on their drive, as soon as the person moves from the space outside our house, they are up and put their car on it. Even if that’s at the crack of dawn; I’ve seen them peering out at the window at 6:30am, on the rare occasion I’ve got that space and I leave for work. They will be loitering by the door waiting for me to leave.

I don’t quite understand the logic. They are only one of two houses on the street with two dedicated parking spaces, with a perfectly wide accessible drive. I get back quite late at night from work and have to park several streets away when I’m heavily pregnant. So admittedly it does wind me up a bit seeing their empty driveway while all the other residents struggle to park. I know legally they are doing nothing wrong at all. But would I be unreasonable to put a note through their door asking them to possibly use their perfectly accessible driveway to free up more space for the majority who don’t have off road parking?

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Hellskitchen24 · 24/01/2025 15:01

Theextraordinaryisintheordinary · 24/01/2025 14:55

Maybe they’re leaving their drive free for guests or disabled visitors?

How many guests would one person have in a week that they would need to keep their drive free at all times? I certainly don’t see people going into their house constantly, nor a stream of guests using their drive.

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ArcticBells · 24/01/2025 15:00

Bakedpotatoes · 24/01/2025 14:20

Why don't you see if you can use their driveway and they park outside your house? Seems like a win win if they don't like using it? I would ask them.

I like this idea!

Same happens in my street OP so I'm totally sympathetic to you

CrystalBall101 · 24/01/2025 14:56

I don't park on my drive ever because I get blocked in all the bloody time by amazon van and people parking for the school/shop near me. Main time I use my car is for school run so I need to be able to get out!

Theextraordinaryisintheordinary · 24/01/2025 14:55

Maybe they’re leaving their drive free for guests or disabled visitors?

Reducesaltpls · 24/01/2025 14:54

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PooHeads · 24/01/2025 14:54

I have exactly this situation on my road too! The selfishness drives me bonkers! Nothing we can do but I completely empathise with you OP!

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 24/01/2025 14:54

I would ask them about it, politely, face to face. Definitely no notes.

Can you ask them if you can park in their driveway if they don’t want to?

RandomMess · 24/01/2025 14:53

@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe

I was being tongue in cheek tbh.

But I bet they would soon come knocking on the door for op to ask why they don't use it.

It's not illegal to block and empty driveway just an arsehole thing to do.

Nclow · 24/01/2025 14:52

I was approached by an old neighbour once, very upset that I wasn't using my driveway and had parked in "her" space outside her house instead. It made me really angry, she came across as so entitled. I wasn't using my drive often because it didn't have a dropped kerb (so technically not even a driveway, just a frontage!) and my car at the time was such an old banger that I often feared hauling it up and onto the drive would finally finish it off!

If she'd politely asked why I wasn't using my driveway, and asked to use it on certain occasions to help her out, I would absolutely have agreed - to be helpful and to be a good neighbour. But she didn't, and so it just got my back up.

WestwardHo1 · 24/01/2025 14:51

Infuriating and stressful, but there's nothing you can do unfortunately.

I live in an area of selfish parkers. One family have enough space on their drive for four vehicles and they own six cars between them. I came back from visiting relatives over Christmas and found that they have also got themselves a camper van, which was now parked in the road taking up three spaces.

Incandescent!

MumChp · 24/01/2025 14:49

Bignanna · 24/01/2025 14:17

They’re inconsiderate!

You could write notes 24/7 on that account...

DuesToTheDirt · 24/01/2025 14:44

If they were struggling to get in and out of the driveway, they could just park in front of it could they not?

ItsProperlyColdOut · 24/01/2025 14:44

Maybe you could ask them if you could use their drive?

abnerbrownsdressinggown · 24/01/2025 14:43

I used to have to do this if I needed to be sure of getting somewhere as I was blocked in so bloody often! Always by someone who was only being 5 mins, but it was multiple times a day as we had one of the only drives on the road (and therefore one of the only places to pull in and stop if there were no spaces available on the road.

Reducesaltpls · 24/01/2025 14:42

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mrsm43s · 24/01/2025 14:42

Perfectly reasonable to feel slightly irritated by it.

Completely unreasonable to put a note through their door or complain to them about them doing something completely legal.

Completely unreasonable to think that you have more right than anyone else to a space outside your house. The only way to guarantee your own reserved parking is to pay the extra to buy or rent a house with a driveway or private allocated space.

Reducesaltpls · 24/01/2025 14:41

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 24/01/2025 14:40

RandomMess · 24/01/2025 14:18

Park in front of the driveway if they are parked on the road and leave a note on their car asking for a chat.

You can't block somebody's driveway, that is really poor advice.

Leaving aggressive notes is also not going to achieve anything but contempt.

FoxtonFoxton · 24/01/2025 14:39

They are THOSE people who think they own the area outside their house and can't stand people parking there. It's frustrating and slightly baffling, but there's not much you can do about it really. If they are obsessive enough to loiter by a window at 6.30am, I'd leave them to it. It's surprisingly common. People are very protective over parking.

FatLarrysBanned · 24/01/2025 14:39

I do it because my dickhead neighbour parks his massive van right up to the edge of my dropped kerb making it impossible for me to safely see the traffic roaring past at 40mph (despite limit being 30mph). Don't fancy having the front of my car ripped off as I edge forward at a snails pace. Generally I just park across the dropped kerb.

Reducesaltpls · 24/01/2025 14:37

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ChocHotolate · 24/01/2025 14:34

Ask them if you can park on their drive as they’re not using it any more 🤣

TTCaxristi · 24/01/2025 14:33

We have one of these on our road. In fairness, he is an absolute tool of a man in a ghastly Range Rover, clogging up the road whilst he has plenty of space on his driveway. I can’t understand it tbh. It looks such an inconvenience for him, having to walk to and from it every day rather than just popping out of his door, even more so when de-icing it on cold mornings. I feel for you OP, it seems the world is full of strange people who behave inconsiderately.

PandoraFrontier · 24/01/2025 14:33

I would be more inclined to knock on their door and ask if there’s a reason for it and explain why.

Hellskitchen24 · 24/01/2025 14:32

TickingAlongNicely · 24/01/2025 14:30

Its likely a case of cars parked too close to the driveway (sides and opposite) making it near impossible to actually get on or off it.

There is no parking opposite as it’s double yellow lines. One side is the corner of the road, the other is where they have their car on the road the majority of the time. So they aren’t being blocked in.

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