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She doesn't speak English - pointless meeting up

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Dannnyy · 24/01/2025 06:57

My brother recently got engaged, he and his fiancée are coming to visit next week, we have met her briefly but have no relationship with her really.
My parents really want us all to go out for a meal, however she speaks 3 languages none of which are English. I know my brother could just translate and I have school level knowledge of one language. However I think it would be extremely awkward, and just not very fun. Apparently she is learning English but my brother says she's not in any hurry to get "good" at it.

AIBU to think it's pointless meeting for a meal in these circumstances?

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ApolloandDaphne · 24/01/2025 07:02

How weird not to want to meet her just because she doesn't speak English. My BIL didn't speak English when we first met him but we muddled through. There is a lot than can be shared through other forms of communication. Don't exclude her, welcome her into your family.

GreatUser80 · 24/01/2025 07:01

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Enko · 24/01/2025 07:01

Not worth welcoming the woman that will be your sister in law?
Not worth showing your brother you care about his happiness?

If she already speaks 3 languages she will pick up English soon enough. A huge amount can be shown through body language and intentions.

ChopstickNovice · 24/01/2025 07:01

Wow. Yabu.

NormaleKartoffeln · 24/01/2025 06:59

Of course YABU.

BitterTits · 24/01/2025 06:59

I mean, I don't think she's going to get much out of it based on your attitude. YABU.

TwentyTwentyFive · 24/01/2025 06:59

Why would it not be worth it? It seems like you've already decided she's not worth making any effort for which is probably why you have no relationship with her.

Agix · 24/01/2025 06:59

YABU. What the heck? She's going to be your SIL.

Limbo2 · 24/01/2025 06:59

Yes you are being unreasonable

GreatUser80 · 24/01/2025 06:58

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LittleRedRidingHoody · 24/01/2025 06:58

Of course it's worth it! It may be a little awkward at first but she's going to be part of your family.

Scarydinosaurs · 24/01/2025 06:58

YABU