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Self absorbed mum

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Fatcrab · 23/01/2025 12:13

Anyone elses mum self absorbed? Whenever I or my brother speak about something, mum somehow makes it about herself....I could be talking about anything and she becomes the centre of it.

However, If we are speaking about a subject she has no knowledge on, she wont ask questions or show any interest in anyway, shel just wander off and potter around the house. As soon as she can speak about herself she will change the conversation and speak....then go on repeat.🤣

Every christmas & bday mum always says "I dont really know what to get you" and I think, yes probably because you never actually ask or show any interest in my life....its always a one way street...she talks at me and I listen.

I'd never really noticed this until just a few years back, but its actually very obvious and its just who she is 🤷🏻‍♀️.im not angry, I just wondered if other mums are like this?.

OP posts:
Choccyscofffy · 23/01/2025 13:10

Do the same to her.

mbosnz · 23/01/2025 13:09

I love the term grandbitch. So, for the male, is it grandbastard?

GentlyAnarchistic · 23/01/2025 12:50

Yes. She'd also tell me details of a neighbour's great niece's wedding too and their cat. It was all transmit mode. Honestly though, I'd give so much to hear it now.

User67556 · 23/01/2025 12:47

MoonWoman69 · 23/01/2025 12:46

My maternal grandbitch was like this! If you started talking about anything, she'd develop a simpering sickly smile and just stare at you until you'd finished. Then she'd start a conversation about herself. My mum even said in front of her a few times "I may as well talk to myself" and all she got was a stupid giggle and then continuation!
It's pig bloody ignorant if you ask me and a trait of the narcissist, which my mums mother definitely was!

Grandbitch?

User67556 · 23/01/2025 12:46

Its called narcissism.

MoonWoman69 · 23/01/2025 12:46

My maternal grandbitch was like this! If you started talking about anything, she'd develop a simpering sickly smile and just stare at you until you'd finished. Then she'd start a conversation about herself. My mum even said in front of her a few times "I may as well talk to myself" and all she got was a stupid giggle and then continuation!
It's pig bloody ignorant if you ask me and a trait of the narcissist, which my mums mother definitely was!

apricitykomorebi · 23/01/2025 12:45

My mother is somewhat like that too. I have just sort of learnt to live with it over the years. I don't know if I accept it or it's just something I've gotten used to.

TorroFerney · 23/01/2025 12:30

Yep I have the same. Asks a question and then you get half way through a sentence and she just carries on talking. Or it feels like an interrogation just mining for information. Last time we all saw her, she was talking about something very ordinary she had done a a kid and said to my child "grandma has always been in the limelight" I had to dig deep on hearing that particular gem.

It is quite sad wen your mum isn't interested in you, it's not just me though she does it to.