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AIBU to expect SIL to cancel work for her brother's funeral?

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reallyfuckedoff · 23/01/2025 07:23

My DH died recently and I am in the process of sorting out the house and organising the funeral.
My SIL has given me a long list of dates that she can't do and has requested that I don't book the funeral on these dates.

For various quite outing reasons, it has taken a while to get the death certificate and I really want to just get a funeral date as soon as possible; my DC have been in limbo for too long and it's just awful. She knows all of this and has very involved and helpful up until now.

I'm really angry but not sure if I'm being irrational. I've never been in this position before - not sure if her attitude is normal?

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Destiny123 · 23/01/2025 07:26

So sorry to hear. You sound perfectly reasonable, she'd likely get compassionate leave as first degree relative.

Have you asked specifically why? If its a new job and she's had a lot of time off they may be threatening to sack her if had more time off, that may change my thoughts

Miloarmadillo2 · 23/01/2025 07:26

YANBU she is massively insensitive. I’m sorry for your loss.