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To just want my mum as a fully grown adult

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fluffyjammies · 22/01/2025 22:16

I'm temporarily living in my mum's house while I get somewhere to live of my own organised. She lives rurally, in the countryside, where there are no streetlights. Tonight I got home from my post-work therapy appointment, walked a different way than usual round the house to the door, and tripped over a flowerpot in the dark. I fell down on the gravel path, scraped my hand and grazed my knees. Thankfully I didn't hit my head on the house.

It did hurt, and I was feeling vulnerable after therapy, so my resilience wasn't at its peak, and I started to cry. The incident reminded me of falling in the playground at primary school and ripping a hole in your tights at the knees. My mum hasn't really been a mum to me, and all I could think was "I want my mummy", except there wasn't one. I had a weep in the dark and pulled myself together before going inside. I told my mum what happened and she said "that will teach you for walking around in the dark".

I went up to my room and had another cry. All I wanted was a hug from someone safe and comforting. AIBU?

OP posts:
Maddy70 · 22/01/2025 22:22

Honestly I came from a dysfunctional childhood. This is on you. Why are you expecting people to behave how you think they should?!

ChicLilacSeal · 22/01/2025 22:21

EmeraldRoulette · 22/01/2025 22:18

YANBU

hugs from me 💐

I actually think the world feels loveless atm which doesn't help. We all need love and many of us need cuddles.

Edited

Agree. Seriously, soft toys are the answer, I don't care how old we all are.

ChicLilacSeal · 22/01/2025 22:21

YANBU. Poor OP! I have cried after falling, too. It's just such a shock.

I'm 50 and I still want my mum. (She passed 11 years ago.)

I have various soft toys that give me comfort at times like this. I've found you have to go big, like 21 inches. My suggestion is that you treat yourself to a really lovely teddy or bunny or whatever your preference is. They are always nice to me and always listen and are always ready with a hug!

RainingCatsandFoxes · 22/01/2025 22:20

Nothing to add but a big hug given 🌺

EmeraldRoulette · 22/01/2025 22:18

YANBU

hugs from me 💐

I actually think the world feels loveless atm which doesn't help. We all need love and many of us need cuddles.

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