School calls about good behaviour?

We did get emails about good behaviour, and of course, the parent teacher evenings, and reports. They were good students, and it was very much appreciated.

Definitely and to be fair I always praise them in class as we go along.

My kids were always well behaved at school. I honestly wouldn't have wanted a phone call about it but they always got great school reports acknowledging their good behaviour and at parents evenings. Phone calls are awkward at the best of times, I wouldn't want a teacher calling me.

DC's school (secondary) do work hard to promote and praise good behaviour.
Mine is one of the "good" kids and we've had a few postcards home, a couple of phone calls from different teachers and there's been reward meetings (breakfast, or afternoon cake type of thing) with the head of year/ headteacher.

I've not had a phone call about good behaviour, but DS school gives out little certificates in assembly. Not all the time so they become meaningless, but it's a nice touch

Well behaved kids are always under the radar. All kids should get recognition, yanbu. Doesn’t need to be a phone call.

MN will tell you that you are lucky you don’t have a child who struggles though. Also that your child just behaves with ease, not that they are exhibiting voluntary control.

Agree, surely presume they are relatively well behaved / well behaved unless you hear otherwise

My dcs secondary school used to send postcards for good behaviour. It was lovely but it was a bit random and quite hit and miss, like the teachers did it when they had time rather than it being something that was running constantly.

There can be an issue with well behaved kids flying under the radar with things like star of the week.

Here though I would interpret this as an update for a child who is struggling. How wonderful for the family to get a positive update. Where there are issues, ideally school and home will work together and keep each other up to date with developments. View it as a progress report rather than a call about good behaviour.

There can be an issue with well behaved kids flying under the radar with things like star of the week.

Here though I would interpret this as an update for a child who is struggling. How wonderful for the family to get a positive update. Where there are issues, ideally school and home will work together and keep each other up to date with developments. View it as a progress report rather than a call about good behaviour.

I've had several phone calls about something my children have done well, including a 100% report(they ring every parent of a child who gets one).
The biggest trouble they've been in is late homework.

We are expected to do this in my school. 3 calls a week, monitored by SLT.

It's nice to leave these as my last calls of the day, so that even a call with an abusive or rude parent beforehand is somewhat mitigated by the positive experience after that.

I try to spread them out between different kids as much as possible, but I have set criteria, and those calls have to be earned.

I have had one positive call in all my now adult child's school life. I am expecting a few more for my other one, who will likely also get a few negative calls home as they're a little more... spirited...

I'd see it as good news, OP, if you haven't heard anything it's usually all peachy.

There isn't enough time to do this. We do praise postcards where I work and even writing these out on a monthly basis takes a huge amount of time. Phoning the parents where the students are struggling or where they are not attending is already a huge stretch. Adding in calls to the students who are being polite and doing their best would be impossible. They do get recognition in class, in behaviour points and in the feedback they receive daily from staff.

Just be very, very grateful your child behaves well and keeps their head down. The outcomes for the ones who need constant praise and rewards are rarely great.

Also, it can be a matter of individual teaching style. Some teachers would phone home to praise but I'd say it's quite unusual just because of the sheer level of workload. It might be that your friend's child's teacher goes the extra mile rather than that your child is overlooked.

I see no reason why children should get special recognition for things they find easy!

In general I think there's an issue with well behaved kids going under the radar.

But in this example I can see the logic as it supports the parent to encourage the good behaviour - i.e. your friend could reward their child at home for their good behaviour at school, to give further positive reinforcement, in a way that you wouldn't do for yours as you're not managing their behaviour in the same way.

To me it reads more like the school is trying hard to work with the parents to sort out poor behaviour.

In the nicest possible way? Yes you are.

Based on your feedback so far (parents' evenings etc) how do you think your child behaved today?

I assume that you have no worries on that front.

Now imagine that you are regularly contacted by school re: your child's behaviour. If you were asked the same question, you would have a different answer.

This positive call home will be part of school working with parents to encourage positive behaviour.

The teachers really can't call every parent. You will get feedback at set times (parents eve etc), maybe through informal chats and comments at the school gates or through Seesaw / Tapestry, through 'star of the week' certificates etc. What is more important is that children also get the feedback- including the smiles and gestures confirming they are doing the right thing. You can also reinforce this by positive feedback for your child for the work they are doing etc.

FWIW I have never had calls home with regards to my childrens' behaviour but the feedback we have had (reports, parent's evening, rewards in high school) has always been positive.

As a teacher I've never heard of schools calling for good behaviour, it's always acknowledged in PT meetings. There aren't enough hours in the day following up with ringing home about students who are struggling never mind those who are doing just fine. I think it's madness to be honest. At the very least I expect kids to behave but I'd always acknowledge it in class, in person with them.

Edited just to add as well; It's getting insane the expectations thrown at staff now. I love teaching, it's what I was always meant to do. But some days it's like floating in an ocean trying to keep everything afloat with two hands. If your child is doing well, that's good trust me. You don't need and they don't need a phone call home.

Honestly, I'd be glad that it wasn't a special event when my child behaved. It should be the norm. Even when a child has SEN there are appropriate expectations of how they behave, which may be adapted slightly for their situation.

No you’re 100% correct.

my DD15 has had (putting it politely) a rocky relationship with school. She has set the bar fairly low in previous school years, so this year I’ve been inundated with calls, texts and postcards from the school about her good behaviour.

My DD12 has always been bright, hardworking and tows the line in all scenarios…never had any positive recognition for her outside of the usual school reports