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My whole family forgot my birthday

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Oopsadaisy92 · 22/01/2025 14:31

Kind of light hearted but my brother, my parents and most importantly my DH have all forgotten to wish me happy birthday today. At time of writing it's 14.30.

Just to confirm my birthday is on the 22nd of January... I haven't got my dates mixed up and it's like the 21st today or something??

Also - any ideas on being petty? I feeling like letting them all know at this point needs something big so it doesn't look desperate for attention 🤣

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Easipeelerie · 22/01/2025 20:48

It’s not the end of the world your family forgot, You’re an adult so it won’t be on their radar like it used to be.
Bit rubbish that your DH has forgotten tho. Seriously, that’s not good enough.

Differentstarts · 22/01/2025 20:45

Breathinginthenewyear · 22/01/2025 20:42

You're doing really well to keep this ro yourself. I forgot dh birthday once and he had to blurt it out by 7.30am.

This would be me

Breathinginthenewyear · 22/01/2025 20:42

You're doing really well to keep this ro yourself. I forgot dh birthday once and he had to blurt it out by 7.30am.

DarkDarkNight · 22/01/2025 20:36

Han86 · 22/01/2025 14:36

I never quite understand the birthday posts on MN.
Have you asked for any presents? Mentioned going out for a meal or doing something special for dinner?
If the answer is no and you were just waiting to see whether or not they remembered, then I feel you are partly to blame.

You shouldn’t have to have mentioned presents or going for a meal for your own parents and partner to remember your birthday! It’s the bare minimum. The sibling wouldn’t bother me but I would be very hurt if my parents and partner forgot my birthday. I’m sorry OP, that’s really crap of them.

I wouldn’t even mention it today. I would see if they actually cottoned on and if not make sure you mention it tomorrow.

EdithBond · 22/01/2025 20:30

ChessorBuckaroo · 22/01/2025 19:33

Aww happy birthday OP. 🎂

We share the same birthday!

Happy Birthday @ChessorBuckaroo !

EdithBond · 22/01/2025 20:28

Happy Birthday @Oopsadaisy92 !

I wouldn’t be petty. I’d be direct, with humour: “You thoughtless bastards! Not a single one of you wished me happy birthday. The (belated) gifts better make up for it”.

Diomi · 22/01/2025 20:08

Oopsadaisy92 · 22/01/2025 16:21

I did. I've been talking about it with them for the past could of weeks and spoke to DH yesterday

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Then that is just weird and useless of him.

Cakeandcardio · 22/01/2025 20:06

Han86 · 22/01/2025 14:36

It's one thing to be upset if your husband books an Italian and you fancied a curry. In that example, the person should say what they want. It's quite something else not to expect the special people in your life not to remember your birthday without being reminded! That's just having very very very low standards. Surely her mum should remember at least.

OP I am sorry this happened. Hopefully your day got better. I would be so very hurt by this too.

SoMuchBadAdvice · 22/01/2025 19:53

Arlanymor · 22/01/2025 19:44

😅 To be fair she’s hopefully at the bar or filling up on a good dinner, she’ll say thanks when she’s back I’m sure.

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Excellent suggestion. My boss said to me "if you do something really well & no one acknowledges it - you need to reward yourself". Twat! But OP should go out on the pull.

Rubix89 · 22/01/2025 19:51

Whaaaat? Surely it’s not unreasonable to think your parents and spouse would remember your birthday?

Differentstarts · 22/01/2025 19:49

SoMuchBadAdvice · 22/01/2025 19:42

I wished OP happy birthday & she didn't acknowledge. Should I be upset?

Yes absolutely

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AndThereSheGoes · 22/01/2025 19:45

Nah it's rude. I'd be massively fucked off with the lot of them.

Arlanymor · 22/01/2025 19:44

SoMuchBadAdvice · 22/01/2025 19:42

I wished OP happy birthday & she didn't acknowledge. Should I be upset?

😅 To be fair she’s hopefully at the bar or filling up on a good dinner, she’ll say thanks when she’s back I’m sure.

Differentstarts · 22/01/2025 19:42

Happy birthday op but I would use this in your favour hes going to owe you big for this fuck up. Maybe spend the night online shopping of what you want as your birthday/sorry present. Whatever he normally spends double it.

SoMuchBadAdvice · 22/01/2025 19:42

I wished OP happy birthday & she didn't acknowledge. Should I be upset?

Notimeforaname · 22/01/2025 19:41

Happy Birthday op!!

Squiggymoms · 22/01/2025 19:33

Happy birthday 🎂 you deserve better 😘

ChessorBuckaroo · 22/01/2025 19:33

Aww happy birthday OP. 🎂

We share the same birthday!

Arlanymor · 22/01/2025 19:32

How charming that people would think to worry the OP about her marriage ON HER BIRTHDAY! We all have thoughtless twits in our life and this doesn’t have to be indicative of the decline of everything - it’s crap, not fair and there will need to be amends, but she doesn’t need to be dashing to a solicitor! She can’t anyway as hopefully she is on her third cocktail of the evening - cheers OP.

Stanamdrupert · 22/01/2025 19:30

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