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ShineBrighterxx · 23/01/2025 06:39

If he genuinely forgot and feels really bad he can hopefully make it up to you. It’s not nice being on your own on your birthday, and for your partner to forget is tragic. I’m not surprised you were more upset than you thought !
My partner forgets mine all the time, it’s the passcode to my laptop and he has to ask me what it is. I think if he was in a different country he’d probably forget too !

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So? All the more reason for him to remember.

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Oopsadaisy92 · 23/01/2025 06:21

My parents called at 9pm which was lunch time for them so I let them off. At 10pm I called hubby knowing it was 1am for him and he felt really bad. Turns out I was more upset than j thought. Anyway thanks all for your comments

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That's great your parents called, op. Lunch time is absolutely not in the "forgetting" range.
But your DH sounds awful. My birthday is this weekend and I don't care too much about it in general but if dh completely forgot, of course that would upset me. I don't understand how you can forget the birthday of the closest person to you especially when you discuss it the day before.
That's not on, op. I'm sorry.

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Oopsadaisy92 · 23/01/2025 06:21

My parents called at 9pm which was lunch time for them so I let them off. At 10pm I called hubby knowing it was 1am for him and he felt really bad. Turns out I was more upset than j thought. Anyway thanks all for your comments

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Definitely forget his next birthday.

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Oopsadaisy92 · 23/01/2025 06:21

mangoes1 · 23/01/2025 00:55

Don't the parents at least get a pass for a few more hours with the time difference? Hubby is in the doghouse unless some flowers arrive at your door very shortly. Happy Birthday.

My parents called at 9pm which was lunch time for them so I let them off. At 10pm I called hubby knowing it was 1am for him and he felt really bad. Turns out I was more upset than j thought. Anyway thanks all for your comments

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Oopsadaisy92 · 23/01/2025 06:17

Arlanymor · 22/01/2025 19:32

How charming that people would think to worry the OP about her marriage ON HER BIRTHDAY! We all have thoughtless twits in our life and this doesn’t have to be indicative of the decline of everything - it’s crap, not fair and there will need to be amends, but she doesn’t need to be dashing to a solicitor! She can’t anyway as hopefully she is on her third cocktail of the evening - cheers OP.

Thank you! Definitely not a divorcable offence. He's just not thought about it but he is generally very caring.

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Cariadm · 23/01/2025 01:56

Tofunoo · 22/01/2025 14:35

Any chance they are planning a surprise for later?

That shouldn't prevent them just giving her birthday wishes in the meantime though surely?! 🤔
I find it quite strange but OP doesn't indicate if this is normal behaviour for her family but if it is why does she seem so surprised?! 🙄

timetobegin · 23/01/2025 01:48

Ihopeithinkiknow · 23/01/2025 01:38

Did you also forget because I have never met a kid that isn't excited about an upcoming birthday and won't shut up about it lol

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Oh yes. We remembered the week before but forgot on the day IYKWIM. It was fine, honestly (and a long time ago).

Ihopeithinkiknow · 23/01/2025 01:38

timetobegin · 22/01/2025 15:26

My parents and family totally forgot my 8th birthday. I was a very loved child. Sometimes things are forgotten.

Did you also forget because I have never met a kid that isn't excited about an upcoming birthday and won't shut up about it lol

researchers3 · 23/01/2025 01:08

Han86 · 22/01/2025 14:36

I never quite understand the birthday posts on MN.
Have you asked for any presents? Mentioned going out for a meal or doing something special for dinner?
If the answer is no and you were just waiting to see whether or not they remembered, then I feel you are partly to blame.

What a ridiculous thing to say! It's really not a big ask for close family members to remember your birthday and wish you a happy day.

MsAmerica · 23/01/2025 01:04

Oopsadaisy92 · 22/01/2025 14:31

Kind of light hearted but my brother, my parents and most importantly my DH have all forgotten to wish me happy birthday today. At time of writing it's 14.30.

Just to confirm my birthday is on the 22nd of January... I haven't got my dates mixed up and it's like the 21st today or something??

Also - any ideas on being petty? I feeling like letting them all know at this point needs something big so it doesn't look desperate for attention 🤣

I don't think there's anything wrong with saying, "Did you really totally forget it's my birthday? You know, that really hurts my feelings."

With your parents/brother, what you neglected to clarify is, do they routinely forget, or is this unusual? If it's usually been like this, it's rather late to start fussing.

mangoes1 · 23/01/2025 00:55

Don't the parents at least get a pass for a few more hours with the time difference? Hubby is in the doghouse unless some flowers arrive at your door very shortly. Happy Birthday.

mainecooncatonahottinroof · 23/01/2025 00:51

Ok, auld wan here - tell you what you do!

Organise a good old night out with your friends this weekend, and message a photo to your husband and family captioned, "birthday night out"!!!

On the bright side, they probably won't forget again....

I remember my 40th - jeez it feels like 100 years ago now! - and I got a few cards, it was so low key and I was so disappointed! And I was pregnant at the time too! I didn't say anything.

Sunday came and DH took me and the kids to my parents and they had a party with lots of lovely presents. It was so nice, I was grateful and I enjoyed it, but it didn't feel the same because I'd felt sad on 'the day'!

Then I turned 50 and got over myself lol. Insisted on a fuss when I was 60 though!

Belated happy birthday! x

mainecooncatonahottinroof · 23/01/2025 00:46

Oopsadaisy92 · 22/01/2025 16:23

Also my parents are retired in their 50s (fully cognitive)

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Sorry but had to say it - lucky bastards!!!!!

DH and I are early 60s, kids 27, 25 and 21 and still working FT grrrr!

Maybe they're less organised because they're not working and dates don't mean as much?!

timetobegin · 23/01/2025 00:34

Ilikeadrink14 · 22/01/2025 22:40

Are you serious?? That would have scarred me for life!

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Why? Sometimes shit happens. It was a really exhausting week and they forgot. I love them, they love me.

Preciousmoments18 · 23/01/2025 00:20

Preciousmoments18 · 23/01/2025 00:08

Great reaction. It's so easy to have a blank on the date especially if extremely busy & the days are flying past then before you know it the birthday has arrived. It's why so many people say to each other eg is this Tueday or Wednesday. It happens.

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Meant to quote @azaleahead a great reaction😁

Itstaxmonth · 23/01/2025 00:20

Ilikeadrink14 · 22/01/2025 23:01

I was wondering that. I hate it when someone comes on here telling a tale of woe, getting our support and sympathy but then not telling us the outcome! I was totally on board with the disappointment she felt until she didn’t have the courtesy to tell us what transpired. I have lost interest now!

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Yeah it’s early days for her to update. She probably got chatting to some other people who did remember her birthday and just trying to enjoy the rest of her birthday night. Or she may be feeling really crap and is mentally unpacking and processing everything or didn’t feel there’s anything to update.

The fall out from this will probably happen tomorrow when she reminds her husband and parents that they forgot - unless of course they did manage to remember in the last few hours of her night.

Hopefully OP is ok and will likely update tomorrow.

Preciousmoments18 · 23/01/2025 00:08

Great reaction. It's so easy to have a blank on the date especially if extremely busy & the days are flying past then before you know it the birthday has arrived. It's why so many people say to each other eg is this Tueday or Wednesday. It happens.

Oodiks · 23/01/2025 00:04

UnicornWorld · 22/01/2025 23:58

Agree. I saw a video where a girls friends all made her feel they'd forgotten her 30th then all turned up

Why?

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I’d’ve been in bits and wouldn’t’ve enjoyed the party.