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My whole family forgot my birthday

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Oopsadaisy92 · 22/01/2025 14:31

Kind of light hearted but my brother, my parents and most importantly my DH have all forgotten to wish me happy birthday today. At time of writing it's 14.30.

Just to confirm my birthday is on the 22nd of January... I haven't got my dates mixed up and it's like the 21st today or something??

Also - any ideas on being petty? I feeling like letting them all know at this point needs something big so it doesn't look desperate for attention 🤣

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Ellepff · 23/01/2025 19:41

VickyEadieofThigh · 22/01/2025 14:39

I always think that doing this - pretending to forget and then having a "surprise" later - is really mean. It can actually spoil a person's day.

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one year my husband had work meetings from 7am to 9pm on my birthday. He didn’t say happy birthday before he left, but brought cupcakes after. The morning happy birthday would have been MUCH more important

Whatinthedoopla · 23/01/2025 19:35

28andgreat · 22/01/2025 14:35

Go buy yourself a birthday cake, light some candles and sing to yourself.

That should be a big enough hint

Ohhh I like this one

2025willbemytime · 23/01/2025 19:35

MaroonedinWales · 23/01/2025 19:27

This has happened to me before and I didn't say a thing. It was only a few days later my wife remembered and was a little embarassed. I've always thought it odd to celebrate the Earth's circumnavigation of the Sun so it genuinely never bothered me.

🙄

MaroonedinWales · 23/01/2025 19:27

This has happened to me before and I didn't say a thing. It was only a few days later my wife remembered and was a little embarassed. I've always thought it odd to celebrate the Earth's circumnavigation of the Sun so it genuinely never bothered me.

tommyhoundmum · 23/01/2025 18:47

You should have taken yourself out for a slapup supper

Batteredcodmushypeasandafalafal · 23/01/2025 18:34

Oopsadaisy92 · 23/01/2025 16:47

Indeed not!

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I'm sorry they all forgot your birthday and your parents forgetting your 18th. All of my family forgot my 21st, it's pretty depressing. I've never had anyone do something special for me on my birthday which does make me feel a bit sad.

Praying4Peace · 23/01/2025 18:33

Tofunoo · 22/01/2025 14:38

That seems a bit harsh. Assuming the OP isn’t in a NC/LC type relationship with her family and DH I think it’s a fairly normal expectation for them to at least wish her a happy birthday!

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And a birthday card surely?

Newmumhere40 · 23/01/2025 18:33

Nonaynevernomore · 23/01/2025 18:20

Why do you think that OPs parents and DH, DC don’t think she has a birthday?

She has confirmed she mentioned it, but she really shouldn’t have too! X

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Oh sorry, I didn't realise you were the OP 😂

Nonaynevernomore · 23/01/2025 18:33

oldmoaner · 23/01/2025 18:25

I'd buy them diarys and calendars for next Christmas and write my birthday in all of them. How can parents forget your birthday, husbands do,quite often.

No husbands don’t!

I don’t know of a single friend or family that’s DH has ever forgotten their birthdays.

BrainWontWorkAnymore · 23/01/2025 18:28

Newmumhere40 · 23/01/2025 17:23

Did you mention it was coming up? No excuse for DP not knowing though, poor form.

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Tip:

My whole family forgot my birthday
Ladysmirnoff1 · 23/01/2025 18:28

I'd go out shopping and then go to a hotel for the night. Smuggle in a bottle of vodka, cakes and chocolates (their calorie free on your birthday. Go back the day after and say nothing about your birthday.

oldmoaner · 23/01/2025 18:25

I'd buy them diarys and calendars for next Christmas and write my birthday in all of them. How can parents forget your birthday, husbands do,quite often.

Nonaynevernomore · 23/01/2025 18:20

Newmumhere40 · 23/01/2025 17:23

Did you mention it was coming up? No excuse for DP not knowing though, poor form.

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Why do you think that OPs parents and DH, DC don’t think she has a birthday?

She has confirmed she mentioned it, but she really shouldn’t have too! X

Single50something · 23/01/2025 18:16

Happy birthday 🥂 🎂 🥳 🎉

Single50something · 23/01/2025 18:15

Han86 · 22/01/2025 14:36

I never quite understand the birthday posts on MN.
Have you asked for any presents? Mentioned going out for a meal or doing something special for dinner?
If the answer is no and you were just waiting to see whether or not they remembered, then I feel you are partly to blame.

You'd expect happy birthday messages at least?!

NotNeil · 23/01/2025 17:47

Newmumhere40 · 23/01/2025 17:23

Did you mention it was coming up? No excuse for DP not knowing though, poor form.

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Did you actually bother to read any of the thread?

MassiveSalad22 · 23/01/2025 17:35

Newmumhere40 · 23/01/2025 17:23

Did you mention it was coming up? No excuse for DP not knowing though, poor form.

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Her mother literally birthed her so you’d think she’d remember!

swimlyn · 23/01/2025 17:30

Newmumhere40 · 23/01/2025 17:23

Did you mention it was coming up? No excuse for DP not knowing though, poor form.

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FFS !

Newmumhere40 · 23/01/2025 17:23

Oopsadaisy92 · 22/01/2025 14:31

Kind of light hearted but my brother, my parents and most importantly my DH have all forgotten to wish me happy birthday today. At time of writing it's 14.30.

Just to confirm my birthday is on the 22nd of January... I haven't got my dates mixed up and it's like the 21st today or something??

Also - any ideas on being petty? I feeling like letting them all know at this point needs something big so it doesn't look desperate for attention 🤣

Did you mention it was coming up? No excuse for DP not knowing though, poor form.

MassiveOvaryaction · 23/01/2025 17:08

Runnersandtoms · 23/01/2025 08:06

I'm also surprised it hasn't come up in conversation in the past few weeks, not in a hinting way just general chat. Eg I'm taking the day off for my birthday, or shall we go out for dinner. Plan what you want to do for your birthday and tell others you want involved, that's my way. Then you're never disappointed because people didn't match your expectations or forgot.

You know what surprises me? although it happens so bloody much it really shouldn't People not bothering to read op's updates in their haste to stick their oar in.

PeppyGreenFinch · 23/01/2025 16:58

OMG what did @Stanamdrupert say to get them deleted so much?

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Oopsadaisy92 · 23/01/2025 16:47

Cornflakes44 · 23/01/2025 07:23

Asked for presents? I don't think it's unreasonable to expect those closest to you to remember your birthday without having to be hand held through it. I bet OP didn't wait to be asked for presents from her husband on his birthday.

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Indeed not!

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I figure if any of them thought anything of me they'd remember.. they haven't and still don't., mine was 20th Jan! Not a word. So I treat myself and do jack all at home that day! :-) You'd think they'd notice the lack of food/chores done, the fact I curl up with wine when I can afford it ( not this year sadly) and watch a film with headphones on, but no, goes un-noticed! Doesn't bother me now, it's gone from just another day to a ME day!

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