I started at the same time as my colleague, a man.
He's really lovely and I actually feel bad about how I describe him in this post.
When we meet with any other teams or people, as we often do- he always has to talk first and last and always has to overly praise everyone for every meeting they've set up.
He's also constantly vying for our managers approval, even over dinner- all he does is big himself up. He just always seems to get there first.
I don't mind that much in a sense, I'm learning-getting used to how things are done and I want the results I bring to speak to themselves. I just worry about other's perception of me, because I'm not as loud and more of a ' learn and then show ' type of person. It doesn't mean I'm not a ' go getter ' and sometimes I do want to ' show off ' a bit to my manager too, but colleague is always there first.
I know it's my own insecurity, but I'm just worried people think I'm rubbish compared to him.
How to deal with this ? I don't want to act the same way he does and start competing for attention. I just do my thing. But I do worry about how I'm perceived, because I'm not as loud. Any advice ?