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Wedding invitation totally out of the blue

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MyDeftDuck · 22/01/2025 11:54

Earlier this week we received a wedding invitation from the man next door. He moved in a few years ago, lived alone and we all introduced ourselves, always said 'hi' 'good morning' etc.

Recently he has had a woman staying over, no problem with that whatsoever. But she never, ever speaks; she doesn't respond when we say hello, she looks away if we see each other in the gardens, she blanks us if we are on the street and just this morning I spotted her at the bus stop and was at the point of saying 'thank you for the wedding invitation' but she glared at me and walked off in a strop, (yes, she missed the bus) Why?????

AIBU to not want to go to this wedding if she can't even be civil and engage in conversation? I know she isn't hard of hearing but I do find her rude, dismissive, a bit of a snob and a complete pain in the arse.

What would you do?

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Poppyseeds79 · 22/01/2025 12:37

Oh I would so go! 😁

mistymorning12 · 22/01/2025 12:35

JC03745 · 22/01/2025 12:33

Maybe she is his sister/cleaner/mobile hair dresser? Are you sure she is the bride?

That's what I thought too!

JC03745 · 22/01/2025 12:33

Maybe she is his sister/cleaner/mobile hair dresser? Are you sure she is the bride?

Waterboatlass · 22/01/2025 12:30

God I'd be there out of curiosity.

Any potential language issues? If it's that and she's not confident then maybe it's become a thing for her and her default is to put her head down rather than try.

Maybe she isn't the bride to be though.

Please do report back!

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 22/01/2025 12:24

Well just don't go?

Okayornot · 22/01/2025 12:24

So bizarre to ask people you barely know to your wedding. You should go for sure, it's bound to be an experience.

jhar · 22/01/2025 12:23

Maybe she is not who he will marry and she's furious about that.

You need to go and investigate

BillStickersWillBeProsocuted · 22/01/2025 12:21

They're probably hoping you won't go but will feel obiged to get a nice gift!

LadyDanburysHat · 22/01/2025 12:19

BaronessBomburst · 22/01/2025 11:58

I would go out of curiosity, and because I love a wedding.
In fact, MN needs you to go and report back!

Me too! If it wasn't going to cost too much to attend I would go out of fascination at the circumstances.

Notgivenuphope · 22/01/2025 12:17

If you don’t want to, say you are away and send them a nice card

VenusClapTrap · 22/01/2025 12:15

I’d go. I love weddings and I’m at the age where I don’t get invited to any anymore. Plus I’d be fascinated to see if she still ignored me when I was at her actual wedding! If it turned out to be a bit crap, you could just feign a headache and leave early.

Murpe · 22/01/2025 12:10

Maybe they don't have a lot of friends and are inviting you to bolster the numbers! I'd not want to go, given that she isn't civil, let alone friendly with you. You could lie and say it's a significant family birthday or something that day, then go hang out at someone else's house (or sit very, very still all day).

BaronessBomburst · 22/01/2025 11:58

I would go out of curiosity, and because I love a wedding.
In fact, MN needs you to go and report back!

toomuchfaff · 22/01/2025 11:57

It's an invite, not a summons. You can "not go" for any reason whatsoever.

Ah, such a shame, we already have plans that day! Congratulations! So pleased for you, Have a beautiful wedding day.

FanofLeaves · 22/01/2025 11:56

Go to the wedding and hope for a free bar, probably 🤣

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