Wedding invitation totally out of the blue

It’s a weird situation, but it appears to be common. My aunt always spoke through my uncle when adults were in the room, but was okay-ish with us kids, until we became adults and then we were also snubbed.

We have a neighbour (we all get on generally) who always stopped to chat when they moved in. The wife never responds, ignores everyone. Several times she’s left her car lights on and I’ve run across the road to let her know and her attitude is always acid as if it’s my fault. My husband tried to stop her once when she was leaving her drive with a flat, she virtually drove over him in rally mode!
She limped back eventually and my husband offered to change the wheel and she just ignored him again. A tyre company turned up next day to fix it
I would not go to the wedding myself either

I don't take my empty bin in, that's DP's job, and I never sit facing my neighbours when I'm in my garden or talk to them! Honestly cannot see what is wrong with either of those things.

As for the not being chatty- some people just aren't. Maybe she suffers with social anxiety, maybe she just hates small talk, either way it's nice you've had an invite but you don't have to go if you don't want to.

Ridiculous assumptions about people who don't drive. I don't and a lot of friends don't (the enviroment is cheering us on lol).

None of us are weirdo's, we're very sociable and successful in life.

Don't go if you don't fancy it, I suspect she probably doesn't have many friends if she isn't naturally friendly and maybe they just felt that as he says hello, and you live next door, it'd be nice. Maybe she is ND and finds small talk really difficult. It's unlikely she just randomly hates you AND agreed you'd be invited to the wedding. I always think sometimes, you might see it as an occasional hello to the bloke, but it might be that he sees you as lovely neighbours who always make the effort. Or maybe she's angling for an extra gift - either of those reasons!

Now that's interesting. I have a colleague who is rather quiet and awkward, but kind. She also stopped driving young. I wonder if there is some connection

I have a hidden nook in my garden where I can sit and no neighbours can see me. It’s bliss!

Ha ha ha. I'd have to go.
Does the bride to be come from a different culture? Is she more friendly when accompanied by her betrothed?

Does she know that you have been invited to her wedding?!

Please follow up and let us know how the wedding went.

Omg I’m glad someone picked up on this… it’s their garden!!! I personally hate sitting in the garden when it’s sunny because I feel awkward making small talk with my very chatty neighbours when I just want to relax. Maybe I’m a snob and a pain in the arse 😂

Are they foreign?

A marriage of convenience to help her or him stay in the country?

Maybe it's a sham
Wedding and she isn't being rude, she doesn't speak English? You have to go out of curiosity!

Give it a miss, what will it add to your life?
If she does not want want to communicate, fine leave her to it you are not her therapist...move on

I'd go just because I'm nosey!

Go, you know the groom! Who knows, maybe she’s had something terrible happen in her life and is struggling with socialising. One thing i’ve learnt in the last few years is things are not always how they appear. But if you really don’t want to attend, then don’t go. But quite nice of them to invite you. I love a wedding so i’d go for the day part, and probably make my excuses re the evening.

Since you actually got a life you're excused for not going (so that you could report back to us). But I think it just comes down to they not having many friends (as for her I would definitely think so😆) and he really likes you so wanted to invite you.

Aw if he is lovely and chatty you should go! Just ignore the wife to be

It's a trap!

Oh just go. You won't see either of them that day on a personal level, they'll be far too busy. You can always leave early once dinner is over if you feel irritated by her for any reason. If it's miles and miles away and an overnight is required, then forget it, I wouldn't even do that for my friend (well YKWIM).

He sounds like one of the good guys, so it's very nice to be invited whatever the reason. The lady may be deaf, I am and have been told by those I've only recently met that they thought I was ignoring them or I was acting all snooty! Far from it.... Just a thought.

Or, if he really is marrying her.

Pop a note in saying thank you, we feel bad accepting when we have never spoken to G. Would you like to come for a drink?

If they say no, they declined first

It's amazing to me that you're even considering going. He's not your friend, and his fiancee is actively hostile towards you. Why would you even have to think about it?

If he asks why, two choices - "Your fiancee blanks me if I speak to her", or "Sorry, we're busy that weekend". And no present!

Yeah that was my thought

If people just invited current friends then they wouldn't have enough, people always invite old school friends, uni friends, friends from old jobs etc.

You do know there isn't a 'minimum number' for weddings, right ?
If you don't have a big circle of friends, then the 'norm' would be to have a smaller 'do'.

I believe that the people who invite old school or Uni friends or colleagues are the people who have kept in touch with, and continued to see those people, not people who haven't been in any sort of contact with them for 10 years.

Why is that bizarre? If people just invited current friends then they wouldn't have enough, people always invite old school friends, uni friends, friends from old jobs etc. I think it's nice to have people there who have meant something to you in life.

This! Go and have fun, it will break the ice

“sits in their garden with her back to us when the weather is fine”

How very dare she!

To answer your question, I think she missed the bus for one of three reasons.

1. The bus was on time but she arrived too late for it.
2. The bus was earlier than the scheluded time and had already gone.
3. That particular bus had been cancelled.