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Guy I’m seeing has said his ex is attractive a bunch of times.

81 replies

Katiem1982 · 22/01/2025 07:38

I’ve been seeing a guy for 2 months (so yes it’s early days, but I’m impatient & don’t want to be wasting my time) & he’s said that his ex is attractive almost every time I’ve seen him. They have 2 children together so he has to see her regularly.
The first time caught me off guard but he was talking about how beautiful he finds his children & said they look like his ex who is really attractive. I didn’t think much of it then but it keeps on happening.
For the record, I wouldn’t describe his ex as attractive. She’s very plain, so him saying he thinks she’s very attractive surprised me, but obviously each to their own.
He also says that she’s a really lovely person but they are just very different & that’s why they didn’t work.
I’m very confused as I’ve never been in this situation before & im actually embarrassed to talk to my friends about it.

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fanaticalfairy · 22/01/2025 07:48

Oh come on, it's two months in, and you're already complaining about her, she won't go away and she'll always be there... So just split up.

pimplebum · 22/01/2025 07:48

i wouldn’t want to be with someone who thinks about looks that much , bit shallow

is it a way to put you down ? Definitely bring it up next time

BlondeMamaToBe · 22/01/2025 07:45

After two months I would call it a day.

toomuchfaff · 22/01/2025 07:44

Something that gives you the ick, don't ignore it, don't ask strangers if it's weird (hint - to make you justified to ignore it), if you have the ick this early on, listen and move on.

Personally I'd find it weird to refer to an ex in that way (more than once, definitely - every time - most definitely).

It also shows he places high "value" on his opinions of attractiveness, if he's mentioning it an unusual amount, not that you think she isnt, but just that he's mentioning it a lot? That's a bit weird, yeah people generally find others attractive, but to keep harping on about it?

Listen to the ick

User09678 · 22/01/2025 07:43

Just tell him you find your ex incredibly attractive and see how he likes that

username299 · 22/01/2025 07:42

On the one hand at least he's not going on about his crazy ex, on the other, I'd say it's too early for him to be dating.