Made me feel uncomfortable should I make a complaint.

What the fuck.

Two of my children and I have an NHS diagnosis of autism.

Not one of us needed our genitals checked for that! Please report this doctor straight away, for the 'lips' comments too.

Shouldn't you call the police or am I overreacting? Even if he needed to check her genitals, another female hcp would need to be present surely

My daughter has Autism, she also has Neurofibromatosis Type 1, she had to have her skin checked for Cafe Au Lait spots, they tend so show up on groin area and the armpits. The consultant in charge of her care told us it's the area the Cafe Au Lait spots are most common and where they first appear.

I'm so sorry this happened, and I'm glad you've complained. I'd report to the GMC as well.

My DD had her autism assessment recently, no clothes removed and no touching of her done either.

She's spent her life in and out of hospital and has never had her genitals looked at. Yes, as a baby she was weighed naked, but I undressed and redressed her. I've had doctors need to feel her abdomen and pelvis, but always with permission and never with pants/nappies removed.

And OP, don't feel bad about "not getting it" right away. With a doctor we are all in a vulnerable position and we tend to trust them (and thank god most times we can!). ❤️

Not sure if it's been said but there is a genetic condition that can cause brown patches/moles on the skin, a friend of mine has it. She has mild learning difficulties caused by this.

Neurofibromatosis type 1 (NF1)

Not sure if he is just being over thorough and keeping an eye out for other things.

I’ve got 2 children both diagnosed with autism and no clothes were asked to be removed report him immediately

Its irrelevant whether it's a nurse or a dr nobody should be asking to see your daughters genitals without a valid reason. Don't ever think this is OK just because it's a nurse

I know the spine will sometimes be checked as there are apparently links with autism and scoliosis.

He wouldn't have needed to actually remove her pants to do this though!

I am retired but headed up an autism diagnostic team. I dealt with patients from 18 months to 16 years. Not once did I ask a patient remove their clothing.

Call the practice and ask to speak to the practice manager. This is in addition to the email.complaint you've raised.

Wtf yes complain and say you need a full explanation as why the hell he would do that.

Hi OP

When my DD was going through her autism assessment between the age of 4-5 her female paediatrician asked to check her skin. This is was to check for cafe-au-lait marks on her body which can be an indication of certain genetic disorders that are linked to autism and learning difficulties. As it stands my DD does have multiple CAL marks.

I hope this gives you a bit of clarity on why her doctor may have asked to look at her skin.

Oh sorry reading other PP’s it seems this is odd definitely.

I am sorry OP.

Youre not a failure - the world is just messed up.

You’re not a failure and don’t talk to yourself like this ever. You’re on Mumsnet getting support.

Most parents go to the doctor and should go to the doctor without giving their child’s care a second thought. You shouldn’t have to be on your guard like this.

I would be very confused and taken aback and unsure of what to do and say in your position as would many Mums, you were on the spot and your guard down.

I do think he had skin cancer concerns and seemed to be doing a thorough check ? Was he a paediatrician ? Was there by any chance a full physical check up for some reason ?

I agree that it seems unusual

Beyond weird. Raise it with the gmc www.gmc-uk.org/concerns/supporting-you-with-your-concern/how-to-raise-a-concern-with-us

Sorry - I should probably elaborate. We would tell you why we needed to undress your DD, and we’d ask you to do it if she wasn’t able to do so herself. With a conscious, well child I cannot picture any scenario where the clinician would just remove a child’s knickers.

I've just read the thread and you've said he went to remove her knickers himself?!! My goodness op. Well done for stopping him. I can't believe that dirty creep. It makes me feel so sick. I wonder how many others he has done that to with parents that would be too worried to make a stand. Well done. I hope it's started the ball rolling for him to be dealt with. Like others have said I would contact more places that just the practice. Maybe even contact the police for advise. Hugs to you xxx

I’m diagnosed ASD. DS is on the assessment pathway. Never, in any shape or form, is it necessary to do anything like that. Trust your instinct and report.
This happened to me when I was 13 - male GP put me on the pill for acne. Told me and DM he’d need to inspect my breasts first. He closed the curtains with DM outside, took my top off and touched them all over. It was only a few years ago that I realised it was completely unnecessary. He was dead by then. Please speak up now, as he’ll certainly be doing it to other people.

I work in children’s medicine. This is really, really odd. Please complain!!