DH cheated, I don’t believe his version of events

What ?

Yeah that's almost worse in my opinion. He's a lunatic. And if he thinks your gonna accept this then he will keep doing it. And cocain!!! He's not a fecking student grow the fuck up. It's pathetic. I'm sorry it's awful. There are so many dickhead men in the world. And splitting up is shit but you deserve so much better than this. What an absolute fucking belled he is!!!!

She has. RTFT

I don't think you will leave him because you are making excuses for him. But think, if he went out with his mates, took drugs (just once more, as they were all doing it) slept with someone, got an STI, passed it into you, how would you feel then? Plus, forgive him, you've given him the go ahead to do it again because it wasn't really cheating, it was ONLY oral sex. 20 years on where will you be after numerous times of forgiving, it's not as easy to start again when your older. I'm speaking from experience stuck at it till I was in my 50s, by then he thought cheating was no big deal, he'd done it so often. Tell yourself your worth more than that and get out or throw him out. If you think it's not that serious, go tell your parents, see what they say.

OP updated 3 days ago.

If people are going to give advice it would be respectful if they at least read the OP’s updates which is very easy to do through the “see all” link.

I got the notification on Google for the thread and read what I did shame it doesn't always update straight away. Maybe take your frustration elsewhere!

If he cheated multiple times leave he is disrespecting you and you deserve better than him!

Does anyone actually read the OP’s updates before posting!!! It’s driving me mad.

he’s cheated with others and she’s kicked him out!

Sending you a hug, how awful for you and degrading he did this to his precious lady that has had his child recently.
Straight up, I couldn't deal with that I'm sorry text messaging maybe I would work through it, and porn ok but the fact he can remember these details and is blaming drugs no absolutely not, he remembered every detail and has enjoyed his time, and now feels guilty.
He will disrespect you again. It's up to you but sex or not that is sex what he did, and it's disgusting he has treated you that way! Absolutely not would I put up with that. You will be forever worried and wondering if you are good enough the list goes on.

RTFT!!

How are you feeling? I'm aware you wanted advice but I just wanted to check in and see if your okay today.

He already has been cheating on multiple times. As you would know if you'd read OP's updates.

Well the truth hurts sometimes but got to be done,cant have her been taken advantage of by a cheating scumbag now can we

RTFT! 😳

Oral sex is still sex it says it in the name Hun, however as you asked would a woman ever take someone back to hers and not sleep with her,damn right I have a few tins,that's when you see them for the rest person they are when there on there own and IV been put off in the past so it does happen but no matter what Hun he cheated just coz he didn't put it in her he still got sexually interested to get it hard for a blow job in the first place,now he's done this and sees you ok with it he will cheat all the time,time to get rid Hun

So sorry to read your updates op..I suspected it wasn't for the want of trying to sleep with her and that they were likely others. Atleast you know now whilst your young and you can make a fresh life for you and your child and in time meet someone who knows your worth.

At the moment it looks like words on page from people on here. You may wonder how can it get better when you feel like it's all ending. I know because I was you in my early 20s with a 1 year old, my ex was cheating and left me for his ex gf. I have been happily married to my dh for 10 years together 14 with another two kids I never looked back. It will get better slowly in time. Take one moment at a time.

soooo bloody annoying and I'm not even the OP!

Genuine question... Why don't people read the full thread before commenting? Surely if you have the time to comment you have the time to check all OP's posts on the thread. It's really annoying!

We are 24 pages in. Please read OP's updates about her discoveries since she first posted.

God, how awful. I think you have to go with worst case scenario and see how that makes you feel over the next weeks and months if you can cope that far down the road. He's cheated regardless of his version. He could have said no at any point and can't blame the drink or drugs.

OP has not come back hope she’s ok!

Read the full thread!

Can people at least read the OP’s updates before giving advice!’

I have read all your posts OP. I'm so sorry that you have had to experience this heartache. You have absolutely done the right thing in ending the marriage. Your husband is immature and clearly would rather follow the path of banging any woman he wants. No one forced your husband to behave in this manner, he has made that choice. He's now finding out that all behaviour has consequences. He's thrown away his marriage for cheap sex. That's on him, not you. Seek legal advice. Regardless of any divorce, seek a Contact Order through the Courts for his access to your child and apply for Child Support. On a personal level, please make sure you are tested for STI's, as your husband has had multiple partners. You'd hope he'd have used protection but if alcohol and drugs are involved, who knows. Sending you a big hug. You will get through this, and come out the other side. You deserve much better, please don't think otherwise and settle for your vile husband.

You're only concern is which of her orifices he put his dick into, not the fact that he did, twice? He's betrayed you,' He's a loser, and he'll do it again. Get rid of him.