DH cheated, I don’t believe his version of events

I’ve just read all your replies OP, I’m so sorry, the exact same thing happened to me, my ex admitted to cheating just once felt awful blah blah blah I didn’t believe him and go into imhis Facebook account, loads of girls messaging sexually, sending dick pics to all and sundry it was clear he had cheated way more than once. We split, a few months down the line once of his friends ex wives co rescued me to tell me he had basically been cheating for the last 7 years, he was a prolific cheat, cheated on me on Stag Do’s etc, one of the stag dos he even went round the house of the girl he slept with and took pictures of himself with all her photos around the house and sent them to his mates almost like a trophy. Honestly what kind of man does that when they have a family at home. Unfortunately we weren’t married, I only say unfortunately because he evicted me and his daughter and step son that he had raised for 7 years out of our family home which he owned and we ended up in emergency council housing of a shockingly bad hotel room where ex cons and druggies are put, we’ve since been put in a 2 bedroom flat where I have to share a bed with my daughter, could be years till his daughter has her own bedroom again, so you think he’s even sorry or bothered, of course not he makes it his life mission to try and hide money so he can pay the least amount of maintenance he can get away with as if he revels in making his own daughters life difficult.

These men are disgusting, please know that you are worth so much more

How can you stay with him after all of this.
Even if he didn’t have sex with her which I don’t believe for a second he has cheated on you, why would you stay with him, if you do stay which I think you are going to you will never trust him again and I honestly don’t know how you could ever be intimate with him again.

Nope he’s a liar and chest and a bad liar at that he clearly knew he couldn’t lie for shit and you’d know something was up so tried to make up something that didn’t sound as bad as full sec when actually he sounds even worse than. A quick bang doesn’t it

you can never trust this man again, if this is the first time he’s done it then he’s broke the deal and if you forgive him he’s got away with it which is just a license to do it again

And with a 9 month old. Make sure you keep front and centre in your head that this had happened because he is a piece of shit and you have to never feel like you are in anyway culpable. This is all on him and he is nothing but a liar, a fake, a ruiner and an utterly inadequate piece of shit

God I'm so sorry . What a fucking piece of shit he is. He must think he's kids fucking gift. I would be outing him everywhere I can. What a disgusting person.

Omg OP my heart goes out to you. This is so awful.

I know you're hurting now but you are young and you have so much life and love and good times waiting for you. Don't even consider talking things through with this lowlife. He's a serial cheater and will never ever change. Don't look for answers, don't plead to know why he confused (somebody was going to blow the whistle on him) just focus on moving on and keep all interactions about your child.

There is a great relationship waiting for you. He blew it, his loss. You can get away from him but he is stuck with his disgusting self forever.

I don't know how you come to that conclusion.
Do.you think the other women he cheated with , as detailed in OP's updates, were blokes too?

Sound like the girl could have been a bloke.

What a disgusting human he is.
Please get an STI check, because he has put you at risk.
Please don't let him wheedle his way back.
Please make sure you have support from friends and family - and here too!

ok please ignore my other post about being able to get past an episode of cheating. It’s obviously way beyond that .
wish you all the very best x

Exsctly this. It is possible. But things can’t just go back to normal. I suggest you separate so he understands he has a lot to lose and then get marriage counselling and lean into the many online resources available to help repair a marriage after cheating (it’s something you’ll both have to work on, not just him Unfortauntely as you’ll need ways to move on. And no more work trips until when/if you are ever able to come up with a plan that will make you feel safer. Also no contact ever again with this woman. Even if that means him changing jobs.

Oh OP! Read all your updates! What awful news!

You’re doing the right stay strong!

What does it matter? Sounds like they did pretty much everything else including kissing and oral sex, yet you’re getting hung up on penetration. Whether they did or not (and fwiw I don’t believe him either!) is irrelevant. It would be over for me. You’ll never trust him again.

Class A drugs and a cheater? You’ll never be happy in this relationship again. Get him gone.

The result is absolutely broken now and you’ll never trust him again. You deserve better than staying with someone who disrespects you and you child like that. As hard as it is you should walk away and not look back. Absolutely disgusting behaviour from him

Frankly, it doesn’t matter. He’s cheated regardless of the details, and if you believe he’s gone further, it doesn’t matter whether he admits it or not.

You just need to decide how you feel about it and what you’re going to do.

He went with the intention to have sex. That’s enough even if it didn’t happen.

Oh, I can believe men cheating... It's just the details about head and the woman saying I don't sleep with men on first night but. . . And the aroused in the morning bit.
It all just sounds a bit ridiculous

I see 😂 netmums don't know why it went that way round but yh that aswel 😂

Hang on what do you all want me to say,awww bless ya he's a good man deep down he really loves you and he will change,no sorry not doing that,she asked a question and expected various answers weather there honest or a lie,I don't live a life on lies and false hopes,this is her life and her baby's life he's messing with so if he's refusing to leave then police will remove him,think you need to read what she put again and put your self in her shoes,would you let your man play you over and over again ?by the sound of it yes you would not my fault is it,you don't like my comments just scroll onto the next one and moan about that one instead

@Itsyourwifeymacrid Netmums? Wash your mouth out!

Well that's even worse ain't it if he's done it multiple times and she keeps taking him back and refusing to go,that ain't a matter for netmums is it really it's a police job to get the scumbag gone out of her life,her original post is what I commented to just like plenty of other people this morning so go get a life you sad person and try not to correct to many people along your day will ya

Well a man being unfaithful is hardly surprising - it’s not like the poo threads etc lol. Not hard to believe.

Is this even real? I see lots of stories on here and wonder if they're genuine women telling stories or are they men fantasising and getting off on women on here reading it?

OP updated thread three days ago. He’s cheated multiple times and she’s asked him to leave. If you’d read the full thread or her updates you’d have known this and maybe given more helpful advice/support.