I was totally besotted by my first boyfriend. He asked me to marry him when I was 18, and we had a very intense romance when we were at Uni together in Wales. I loved him very much, but thought we were too young to get hitched. We subsequently broke up, but it was mainly because he got bored and didn't want to miss out on shagging other girls I think - though he didn't articulate that.
I was completely heartbroken and it took me a long time to get over him. Anyway, fast forward a decade and he got married and had children whilst I focused on my career. We obviously were not in contact after he got married. A decade later I met my husband and had kids, but just after getting married, moved to his area of the UK, and we currently live 20 mins away from each other.
After living in the same area for 12 years, and not having had any contact with each other during this time, I saw him at a local event. I'm not sure if he saw me. Anyway, I'm not sure why but I reached out to him via email letting him know I'd seen him and gave him a brief update on my life, e.g. that I had got married, had kids, and was now living nearby. I wished him well etc. I guess I was expecting that he'd write back giving me an update on his life and that would be the end of it. I'm happily married and don't want us to be in regular contact. I guess deep down I wanted him to know that I had met someone and was happy because he had hurt me in the past.
Anyway, the day after I emailed him, he sent me a reply with his phone number, telling me to call him. That was literally the extent of it, no niceties or update on his life. I have no intention of calling him and have deleted his number. I feel it is unnecessary to have any kind of chat, and I don't want to disrespect my husband or his wife.
AIBU to think that he might be unhappily married or wanting to rekindle things with me - an extra marital affair perhaps? I wouldn't put it past him given his family background. I on the other hand have no interest..