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Is this rude?

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 21/01/2025 17:19

I have therapy and a car broke down en route to the appointment.

I texted my therapist and said “hi there is a broken down vehicle. ETA is 17:30” she said “that’s nearly 30 mins late! Message me when you’re here” so u said “yes I’m aware, hence why I’m letting you know now so it doesn’t impact you or other clients. I left at 4 pm and ufortunately I can’t move through the traffic any faster then I currently am”

she then phoned me getting uppity saying it’s abrupt and her time is precious etc. I said well I can’t really text and drive so I think you’ve misinterpreted it.

thoughts?? Was I rude?

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HenDoNot · 21/01/2025 17:25

If you're arriving half an hour late then you've missed your appointment.

So it wouldn't impact other clients anyway.

The way you worded it kind of sounded like you expected her to push each of her other clients due in after you, back by half an hour, and still accommodate you.

purpleme12 · 21/01/2025 17:24

Well I think she was correct in her description of abrupt yes

Arlanymor · 21/01/2025 17:23

It wouldn’t impact other clients, you would just get a shorter appointment, maybe that is what she thought was rude, an assumption that you would still have your full hour because you mentioned other clients (even if that isn’t what you meant?) I think your message was a bit short - I probably would have put: “Really sorry, there’s a broken down car which is holding up my journey. If I am lucky I will make it by 5:30pm for the last half hour, or would it be better to reschedule?”

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 21/01/2025 17:23

Han86 · 21/01/2025 17:20

Why would it impact other clients? If you were late then you would miss your session.

There is a tolerance period she normally gives if she’s quiet.

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Han86 · 21/01/2025 17:20

Why would it impact other clients? If you were late then you would miss your session.

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 21/01/2025 17:20

Typo! I meant so I said

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