Going crazy after being ghosted

The only possible excuse for this would be something really major like a death in the family. Otherwise it's just plain cowardice not to explain anything to you and block you. If he's a coward, you've dodged a bullet, good riddance.

That's pretty pathetic of him, but please try not to waste your energy on being upset about it. I know that's easier said than done.

YANBU to be upset about this, but you need to change the way you think about what happened. to reduce the risk of being hoovered into a bad situation. Remind yourself that normal, healthy relationships don't go like this only bad ones do, and you don't need anything from people who treat you this way. You don't need drama, you don't need an explanation.

My guess would be his wife has told him he wants to try again.

Personally I wouldnt give him any sense of satisfaction that you are hurt. Just tell him "I don't need a phone call, we weren't that serious. You should've just dropped me a text so I knew to make other plans and didnt just think your phone was broken"

Tell yourself he's not who you thought he was - could have reconnected with an ex, be married or scared of commitment, who knows. If he wanted to explain honestly, he would have already done so. It's really hard but time will help you heal.

It hurts but if he's unreliable it's best you find out now after only 3 months.

Have a little cry and go to your true friends.

This is the problem with ghosting. You never get the closure you need. The only way around it is to give yourself closure by finding acceptance that it’s finished and not to hold on to the hope he might suddenly make contact. Decide that you deserve better than this man and get back on with dating again. Give yourself closure and move on.

I am going through the same thing just now, except the person I was seeing for roughly a year. He has ghosted me and does not answer any calls or text messages, and I have been left in a kind of limbo not knowing what is happening. The only thing you can do is to try not to message or call and tell yourself every time you reach for that phone to not do it. It is hard and I am struggling myself, but I am getting there day by day.

Does this behaviour suprise you? In other words, from what you know of him so far, can you imagine him ghosting you like this? If not, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt and wait for him to contact you - maybe he really does have a phone issue, or a work/friend/family problem, which is making contact difficult. But don't contact him again. If he's decent and honest, he'll be in touch, but if not, you're better off without him.

sounds like a version of log bombing if so much so soon. clearly there is something wrong with him. i was married 16 years and husband walked out and has no contact with his kids. you can’t explain these things except some people are cruel or defective and can hurt others without remorse. cut your losses, assume he is a sicko, and block him. this really is him not you so really try not to overthink it. I am so sorry.

I've been there and the truth is that this sort of thing never has a good outcome. Unless there is a genuine and believable response I'd just forget about him. It's most likely he's 'changed his mind' for no good reason as a lot of men are wont to do and doesn't have the emotional intelligence or guts to tell you properly. Thank your lucky stars that it was only 3 months and he hasn't strung you along for longer x

His explanation will be bogus and self recusing so I wouldn’t be wasting my time waiting for it if I were you. There is no magical explanation for blocking someone that restores your opinion of him to what it was before. You believed in something that was fake and reality striking is bewildering. You are normal to feel like this as you believed in the relationship “being on the same page and having legs”. He never did. Whatever guff he gives you now cannot hide the huge flapping red flags. Block, move on, heal and learn.

Tell him he needs to explain himself immediately it's very unfair to make you wait.