Going crazy after being ghosted

How old is he, 16? What an absolute shitbox.

How did you respond

There is absolutely nothing he can say in his defence. It does drive you crazy when somebody behaves like that because your mind is constantly seeking a rationale and there isn't one.

3 months & he's behaving like a idiot

Throw him back & walk away with your head held high
Anyone who plays stupid mind games is not worth the agro

It always hurts to be discarded, as long as the person who discards you still has some value to you. If you can't just forget him then focus on changing the way you think about him, managing how often you let yourself think about the situation, and keep busy until you can see your therapist.

At the point of realising he'd blocked my number, I'd have blocked and deleted him and forgotten about him. You don't need this in your life. There are better people to spend time on.

Could his phone have been stolen

It’s bound to be a shock, you’ve known him for 10 years. I know you’ve only been in a relationship for 3 months but having known someone that long I think it’s understandable to not expect to be treated this way. I’m not trying to make you feel worse but is it possible that he hasn’t blocked you on FB as well because he doesn’t know how to. I think it would be kinder to block you on everything as it wouldn’t leave room for uncertainty about hi intentions.

Personally I think saying he will explain properly later is bullshit. Unless he’s flown out to a disaster zone or doing heart surgery he could find 5 minutes to talk to you

Sorry OP but he’s had enough of the relationship and can’t be bothered to tell you why. He may not even know himself. So painful for you, but you need to let him go and take really good care of yourself.

He's not who you thought he was. He's a coward. You know that now. Block him bacl and reclaim your peace

This happened to me but I was seeing them for longer than 3m. He never did give me an explanation and when I bumped into him he ran from me! I had to find out from others that he'd met someone else and clearly was too gutless to tell me.

Well, obviously the relationship is over. I appreciate you'd like to know why, but ultimately it won't make any difference, in the sense that the relationship will still be over.

You need to stop trying to contact him. He doesn't want to talk to you, clearly, and you do need to respect that unfortunately. In your situation, rather than sitting there frantic hoping he'll call you or unblock you, I would block him back and move on. He's behaved badly and he's not worth your time or worry. This incident, at least, confirms that he isn't right for you. You deserve someone who is capable of difficult conversations, which this man apparently isn't.

Of course nobody here can say why he's suddenly done this but there could be a million reasons. He might have had another girlfriend, or been on a break from someone who wanted to get back with him, or he might have suddenly met someone else, or just suddenly got the sense that he's made a mistake. Three months is a very short relationship and it's possible that what he genuinely thought he wanted at the start turned out not to be what he wanted at all. We just don't know. But you do need to let this go, tough though it may be, and have some dignity.

ive had similar and im still puzzled, a work colleague, built the foundations of a friendship, had similar interest's hobbies etc, talking for about 3/4 of the year then ghosted, no reason just messaged have a good weekend, as i figured i trim the texts down to one a week, but then blocked, ive kept the option open of them chatting if they want to but nothing so far

What you actually need to do is block him, you are allowing him to mess with your head. You can only control yourself in this situation and not him.

Under these circumstances I would be delighted he had shown what a complete cunt he is so quickly. Imagine if this was after a year or two.

Try and be more head over heart.

He’s a twat for behaving in this way. The exact reasons as to why he’s a twat are not actually relevant, and won’t change the fact that he is what he is.

Try not to waste any more of your time. What’s the point of knowing when all the answers lead to the same result!

I'm sorry to say that I think the only reasonable explanation for this is that there's another person involved here and he can't face up to coming clean and explaining himself. You've dodged a bullet.
Try to feel happy about that part.
Don't read into the fact he hasn't blocked you elsewhere. He simply isn't that clever / didn't spend the time to do that.
If a family member had died he wouldn't immediately block you. That's no excuse.
Move on. And if you ever find out who the other woman is ..... maybe drop her a message & save her from wasting her time too.

The truth will be he’s been seeing you and someone else, and he prefers them.

It’s shit. But hold your dignity, block him and don’t contact him again.

I would say a bit fat thank you to him for showing you who he is after 3 months so you don’t have to waste anymore of your precious time on him.

People are cruel and weird and you can’t rely on all of them, but you CAN rely on yourself, you are amazing and wonderful and you don’t need him, keep believing in yourself as someone who the right person will be lucky to have. Fuck him.

Theres someone else

I think you'll have to come to terms with not knowing the full details and concentrate on getting over a heartbreak. Crying at a counsellor helped me. (I only saw the poor woman once. It really helped though.) Go easy on yourself, a lot of people have been driven internally crazy by break ups.

Way too much drama. Block him and walk away!