AIBU to think my DH has gone mad over this baby name?

And tbf, Neveah is much nicer than Ottilie!

Sorry, but that name is awful. Nevaeh??? (Heaven backwards?!)

I don't even know how you pronounce it. (Neevah?!) It's so naff, and definitely not yooneek. I would be so embarrassed for anyone who called their child this. (AND feel sorry for the child!) 😬

I'd love it if a parent dared to call their child Gemma these days. Or Vicky.

That'd be genuinely unique.

It's horrible.

I like Oliver and Ophelia.

Gemma is perfectly fine as a name!

Vicky as a given name is not great, but it falls under the general rule of "don't give obviously nicknamey names as given names."

Stay strong @kweefa

His name suggestion is utter shite and you should definitely veto it.

Nevaeh - she would have to spell it out. Every. Single. Day. of her life - how tedious

Or Rachel, Eleanor, Annie - none of which are in the top 100 list I just read..

Yeah, What happened to calling your child Emma, Charlotte, Hannah, Emily Sophie, Elizabeth, Bethan, Sarah, Rebecca, Lucy??? Just normal ordinary names that were popular in the 1980s and 1990s.

9 times out of 10 - on the baby name board, when somebody suggests a name for their child, it's a ridiculous, laughable, or extremely hard to spell (and pronounce) name.

I actually know quite a number of people who have got children with ridiculous names, or hard to spell/awkwardly spelt names, names like Ashleigh, Devonne, Deackonne, Bexleigh, and Harmonee etc, and they do nothing but bitch and carp about how nobody ever spells or pronounces their child's name properly. I'm like, 'well, duh. What did you expect?! 🙄

I don't think it's that unique a name these days. I also don't think it's that bad a name.

Anything's better than Nevaeh! How on earth is it even pronounced?

The Niamh I knew was in her 40s or 50s. Wouldn't be my first choice either - albeit our family does have distant Irish heritage - but some names will certainly date better than others.

'Niamh' isn't so uncommon that no one's ever heard of it, or a name that will date you within a few years of your birth. If you're a Nicola, Lisa, Rebecca, or Amanda, your birth year can pretty much be pinned down within a decade. 2020s equivalents are probably names like Olivia, Isabella, Evie and Elsie.

The insinuation was there the moment you mentioned ‘lower socioeconomic group’. We all know that means ‘beneath oneself’.

As another poster says
He’s signing his poor child up to have to spell her name to every person she meets
I have one

it’s fucking annoying
names are compromise not one completely over riding the other

Yup! Time for a rollback! Victorian names like Emily, Alice, Charlotte were popular in the late 70s and the 80s, and are still in the top 100, but not so much Victoria, Elizabeth etc

Nev (as in never) ay (as in day) er/a.
Emphasis on the second syllable.

i do not get the aversion to teaching people how to pronounce or spell your name? so what, you tell them once and move on.

should everyone be called bob so its easy for strangers? bizarre rationale

Yeah, I really like Victoria as a name, but dislike Vicky. (And anyone called Victoria is going to be called Vicky very quickly!) I can't explain why. I just don't like the sound of it. And I knew 2 Vickys in the 1980s who I LOATHED. Maybe that is part of the reason.

DH wanted to call our second child Victoria, and I vetoed it - as I didn't want her to be called Vicky!

Amusingly my dm sounded as working class as her roots and after delivering a boy to a very middle class couple she asked the babies name.
It was Joshua.
My dm replied - That was my dad’s name.
Their faces were a picture and dm often wondered if the parents revised their name choice.

In 1895 my grandad would have been given a standard biblical name.
90 years later it was a name used by middle class professionals.

I know a Vicki who was christened Vicki and she absolutely hates it when people call her Victoria, usually in jest like when your mother was about to tell you off so called by your full name, because it's not her name.
Agree it's not a good idea to officially use a nickname or shortened version as a child's given name. When they go to school, if their name can be shortened in any way, it will be.
See the current 'Isabella' thread.

The shop was called Anavrin, not Nevaeh.

Well, it doesn’t mean that to me, but it obviously does to you! How snobbish of you.

Just had a thought about possibly a girl's name from the bible as an alternative? This list suggests 'Neriah' as an alternative to 'Nevaeh'. It means 'lamp of God'. There are some other names in here that I think are pretty, like Lena or Adina.

https://www.mamanatural.com/baby-names/girls/lists/biblical-girl-names/

I do understand about not getting a popular name - there are 4 James' in my DC's class.

What we did when we named our children was we both decided the name shouldn't feature in the top 30 most popular names list. It has served both our DC well.

You can spell Niamh as Neve which avoids mispronunciation.

Elizabeth's a winner. The diminutives are practically endless! This was on my list for if we had a girl.

I find boys' names much easier. I've loved one in particular for most of my life and DH thankfully also liked it and we ended up choosing that one - had he not, there were quite a few others I'd have been happy with.

Choosing for girls was a nightmare.

I know quite a few families who have done this
one very common name, and one practically made up

it always makes us laugh at what was going on in their families household on naming day