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Burial advise legal HELP needed

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Pumpkinpie1 · 21/01/2025 08:38

This is a real dilemma
X and y were married over 50 years
x bought burial plot 600 pounds .
Y died first was cremated her ashes put in plot waiting for beloved x
x has just died
Council are now saying they want 1000 to open grave on top of burial costs
x was never notified of changes , if he had y would never have been put in grave , she’d. have waited in an urn at his home

Any thoughts . This represents a fortune to the family

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LIZS · 21/01/2025 08:46

Presumably they paid to inter y ashes so knew there were interment fees.

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What additional cost ?
The grave is going to dug for the casket that’s covers what you are referring to.
At present it’s only a box close to surface ( undertakers words) . This is an additional cost to the normal burial costs

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Calmhappyandhealthy · 21/01/2025 08:44

This is something that would have been explained to X at the time of purchasing the plot

The costs involved in a new interment are quite high and are usually passed on to the family

User67556 · 21/01/2025 08:44

Pumpkinpie1 · 21/01/2025 08:42

It’s too late burial next week

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A week to cancel it then/change to cremation?

LIZS · 21/01/2025 08:44

That sounds normal . Is x being cremated or buried? When they purchased the plot there acquired "exclusive rights of burial" for specified number of burials/cremations for which there would be a scale of fees. Is interment of an urn cheaper, or can their ashes be scattered instead?

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Pumpkinpie1 · 21/01/2025 08:42

User67556 · 21/01/2025 08:41

Yeah sorry this is an oversight. Can you just have a cremation and scatter the ashes on the same grave? And then update the headstone?

It’s too late burial next week

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User67556 · 21/01/2025 08:41

Yeah sorry this is an oversight. Can you just have a cremation and scatter the ashes on the same grave? And then update the headstone?

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