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I've got myself in a pickle for telling a lie

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mumspiration1997 · 20/01/2025 22:08

Ahh I've really got myself into a pickle.

A family member asked me the week before Christmas would I drop a gift into someone.

It would have taken me an hour and I genuinely was putting it off until I had time I even thought ill pop it in after Xmas (the recipient was on holidays so did not see the immediate rush)

I was transferred the £40 to buy the gift.

However when my family member asked me did I sent it in I said yes I did (and as I said fully intended to before the recipient returned home) and now someone (another family member) has checked for it while checking on the house and its not obviously there . I already said I dropped it off otherwise I could say ah it's still in my car.

Now they have just text saying.

"Hi tried to contact you. Either the gift wasn't there or it has been stolen I'd like to investigate this further. I'm down £40"

I'm so embarrassed! I didn't steal the money. Should I just say "I don't know what's happened I'm transferring you the money back" or fabricate some story about "Oh the neighbours cat took it"

I am NOT saying I didn't leave it in at this stage, I feel belittled enough.

Help!!!! I'll never fib again...but I'll also never take on anyone else's chores again!!!!!

OP posts:
Clafoutie · 20/01/2025 22:56

DeliciousApples · 20/01/2025 22:32

Just say you thought you'd taken it but when you checked the car boot it was there hidden under a bag. You're so sorry. It was a busy time. Can't believe I forgot about it and thought I'd delivered it.

But hasn’t the OP already told the relative they delivered it? How likely would it be that the OP somehow thought they had got to the house, walked to the door, dropped it off, only for it to ‘turn out’ they hadn’t, just thought they had?! It seems a bit shaky to me 😐

McSpoot · 20/01/2025 22:56

mumspiration1997 · 20/01/2025 22:53

Thanks all! I know honestly I'm a disaster.

The person is getting home tomorrow so I was planning on going in to help them unpack and say hello. Bring milk etc so when I was there I was thinking of saying "I was just in welcoming DR home and went to put the suitcases out into the garage and there was the cases of wine" no wonder Jenny couldn't find it. Perhaps the cleaner set put of the way in order to do the floors or something. ???? Does this sound pathetic

Yes it sounds pathetic. Because it is

faithfulortratior · 20/01/2025 22:54

DaDaDoDaiDa · 20/01/2025 22:15

Don't tell more lies. Drop the gift round ASAP. Tell the truth - you intended to buy and drop the gift but hadn't got round to it, but you didn't want the giver to think you'd forgotten so you said it was done - it's with them now, you're sorry you unintentionally caused them to worry as that was what you'd been trying to avoid.

This. I get it's uncomfortable to admit to a lie - but more lies runs the risk of you being thought of as a dishonest person who was trying to deprive the giver of their £40. Just saying you're so sorry - you told a white lie as you intended to drop it around that day and you had a lot on so wanted to reassure them it was sorted. And then totally forgot.

I think the lie you told is odd but understandable. Many of us have said we've done something when what we actually mean is 'it's in hand' but don't want to get into a back and forth about it. More lies is really problematic.

mumspiration1997 · 20/01/2025 22:54

Bumcake · 20/01/2025 22:53

So you’ve bought it, but not dropped it off? Had you forgotten all about it? You’re a month behind at this point.

I haven't bought it but will be easy to buy tomorrow. I'm in too deep now 😆 🤣

OP posts:
Bumcake · 20/01/2025 22:53

So you’ve bought it, but not dropped it off? Had you forgotten all about it? You’re a month behind at this point.

mumspiration1997 · 20/01/2025 22:53

Thanks all! I know honestly I'm a disaster.

The person is getting home tomorrow so I was planning on going in to help them unpack and say hello. Bring milk etc so when I was there I was thinking of saying "I was just in welcoming DR home and went to put the suitcases out into the garage and there was the cases of wine" no wonder Jenny couldn't find it. Perhaps the cleaner set put of the way in order to do the floors or something. ???? Does this sound pathetic

OP posts:
Clafoutie · 20/01/2025 22:50

coldcallerbaiter · 20/01/2025 22:47

Build a robot that looks like you and order it to deal with the situation. It might be expensive though.

I love this! 😄

SoTiredDogsKeptMeAwakeAllNight · 20/01/2025 22:50

I would share the link to this Mumsnet post with a message saying 'Sorry. What should I do? x'

LuluBlakey1 · 20/01/2025 22:47

mumspiration1997 · 20/01/2025 22:13

Oooh I like this idea.

As long as they don't have a ring doorbell 😁

coldcallerbaiter · 20/01/2025 22:47

Build a robot that looks like you and order it to deal with the situation. It might be expensive though.

Quinlan · 20/01/2025 22:45

Did you even buy it? Do you have it!
Take a photo of it right now, and message them to say that you’ve got it. You were dropping it round the day they checked in, but time got away from you and you’ve just planned to take it round shortly before they get home.

When were you actually planning to do it? They’ve been on holiday for at least a month, they must be coming back soon.

dijonketchup · 20/01/2025 22:44

Say you had second thoughts about leaving it out after messaging them to say you’d done it, so went round to pick it up again in case it got stolen. You’re going to drop it back before they return from hols. Then buy it asap and keep it in your car!!!

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 20/01/2025 22:43

CrushingOnRubies · 20/01/2025 22:39

I'd go with this one. Because it's something I'd genuinely do so would get away with it

Me too. All the time.

NewFriendlyLadybird · 20/01/2025 22:42

DeliciousApples · 20/01/2025 22:32

Just say you thought you'd taken it but when you checked the car boot it was there hidden under a bag. You're so sorry. It was a busy time. Can't believe I forgot about it and thought I'd delivered it.

I could so easily do this. This is the one.

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 20/01/2025 22:42

Buy the gift, take it round, say you're very sorry, you meant to drop it round but obviously didn't actually do it, and just found it the car/pocket/whatever.

Ameliepoulainandthephotobooth · 20/01/2025 22:41

How big of an item is it? Something that might get lost or not easily spotted?

2025willbemytime · 20/01/2025 22:41

You're bothered you lied and you think telling more lies is the right thing to do? So not feeling that bad then if you're prepared for the same feeling. Bonkers.

CrushingOnRubies · 20/01/2025 22:39

DeliciousApples · 20/01/2025 22:32

Just say you thought you'd taken it but when you checked the car boot it was there hidden under a bag. You're so sorry. It was a busy time. Can't believe I forgot about it and thought I'd delivered it.

I'd go with this one. Because it's something I'd genuinely do so would get away with it

DeliciousApples · 20/01/2025 22:32

Just say you thought you'd taken it but when you checked the car boot it was there hidden under a bag. You're so sorry. It was a busy time. Can't believe I forgot about it and thought I'd delivered it.

LIZS · 20/01/2025 22:29

Buy it and admit you had it the car ready to drop round on their return.

Apollo365 · 20/01/2025 22:29

You need to sort this ASAP. Drop it round, put it somewhere a bit hidden and send a pic and say - look it’s here.

Getkettleon · 20/01/2025 22:27

You do need to text back straight away if you want any chance of them believing you were genuine in intending to drop it off. Either tell them you misunderstood/ apologise and say you'll sort it immediately, or text back and say don't worry it's in a safe place and the recipient will find it when they get back (buy yourself some time - how quickly can you get it and drop it off??)

buybuysellsell · 20/01/2025 22:18

Stop lying! Just do it pronto then say "sorry, it's there now".

nwsw · 20/01/2025 22:18

Buy it.

Message her back saying you totally forgot to drop it round. Which is true. But you had intended to before they returned. Which is true. And apologise for any unnecessary confusion or upset and for misleading. You just didn't want to make them feel let down.. but it's backfired and you are sorry!

All true.

DaDaDoDaiDa · 20/01/2025 22:15

Don't tell more lies. Drop the gift round ASAP. Tell the truth - you intended to buy and drop the gift but hadn't got round to it, but you didn't want the giver to think you'd forgotten so you said it was done - it's with them now, you're sorry you unintentionally caused them to worry as that was what you'd been trying to avoid.

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