The brainlessness of an English Tutor. Fuming

I agree with you, the poster.
The teacher sounds like a bully and very insensitive to not even sit with you/your daughter, or make a phone call, to ask what it is about the book that makes her uncomfortable? We are not robots.
My DS was uncomfortable age 17 having to study a book where, amongst other things, the wolf in 'Little Red Riding Hood' had sex with the grandmother, one sordid story (out of several) that was a re-write of stories originally for children.
There are always alternative books within a syllabus and it isn't unusual for a child or teacher to choose an alternative. I think it is the teacher who is making a fuss. As adults, there are films that only some would watch/books that we would read, so why do children have to look at anything that is put before them?
As parents/ teachers, we do have a duty of care towards children. Emotionally children are not mini adults to do with as we please.
I am a parent and teacher (and a former child).

They're fine books to read at that age though!

I read Dracula at 11, Jane Austen, Charlotte Brontë and Charles Dickens at 12. My parents encouraged me to read material that made me think. You are 'that mum's and doing your child no favours.

As opposed to "after midnight you can watch this horror film but before midnight you are too young?" Which is what happens when you turn 18
It's somewhat arbitrary

I with the mum in this.

That book has nothing to do with history, or even accurate about what happened. It is a terrible book and whilst I do not think books should be banned I don't think it should be red n school or recommended by a library.

11 is the start of secondary school here, and the Hobbit is not inappropriate in any way at all. It's the books with things like uneasy sexual references for the still very young ones I think should wait till older

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Here you go @MariCooyong . Some maps and a discussion that might be informative.

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1BJEUHX2fS/

"What happened to sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never harm me."

One of the stupidest sayings there is, IMHO.

Yep, this happens every single time someone from the West Midlands refers to their mother on Mumsnet.

I'd have thought that the message would have got through to the pedants by now.

I think she said the girl is 12, not 11. And she's in secondary school. Where I live (Belgium) 14 years is still youth-literature, not yet young-adult, so I wouldn't hesitate to give her a book for age group 14+ We believe it is good to let children "stand on their toes" a bit, as in trying to read something slightly above their age. Much more motivating and academically more interesting than to continue reading nursery rimes (as a figure of speech). My grandson is 7, an avid reader. Right now he reads The 13-Storey Treehouse (Andy Griffiths and Terry Denton's), he's on book 4. But he also tries to read The Hobbit (after his dad read it for him at bedtime). We let him try, of course!

Perhaps she is from the West Midlands and therefore using the usual dialect of her region.

I certainly believe that it's OK to abandon a book you find too upsetting- my DS was a precocious reader and had free access to the school library very early, and I certainly kept an eye on what he chose and vetoed a couple.

Also, "It's just words" would be entirely appropriate to use as part of a conversation with a child who has been upset or scared by a book. Please note my use of the word "part"!

Oops
Maybe I should have read the thread 🤣

OP are you going to wade in and call everyone a cunt every time your Daughter feels uncomfortable about something?

We've all been pushed out of our comfort zone at times, it's nothing to get hysterical over

Life lessons

You might have to just let it go unfortunately, as in choose your battles wisely.

Oh my days and yes everyone that’s why all these children as so pathetic these days. People like you are the biggest problem with this Country. People like you are at the heart of Racism oh my goodness I wish people would just man up. What happened to sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never harm me. Grow up and teach your little precious people say horrible things but who cares call me old old fat ugly whatever. The only people who have a problem are the very ones who like to make a scene and jump on the band wagon of I’m so offended. Oh to go back to the old days back then funnily enough we didn’t have all these problems we didn’t do knife/gang culture maybe because people like you didn’t stand in the way of common sense. But here we go another righteous woke numpty getting her 2 pence in to feel important

But this is the all or nothing approach I can't understand. Six weeks after they finish primary school, so long as it's not Fifty Shades of Grey, anything goes? Anyone trying to acknowledge that there is a difference between 11 and 14+ is just getting swiped.

Unless the teacher is making your child read the how-many-was-it degrees of Grey, yes, you are very unreasonable. It's not because your child feels uncomfortable about a book that the choice of book is inappropriate. Maybe your child is not much of a reader and used to simple books below her age-mark, but if the age rating is 14+ I suppose it can't be about violence, sex&gore. Try and read the book together with your child if that makes her more secure, but stop making her an exception in her class, the one who doesn't have to read her assigned book.

Why are you using ‘Mom’ not ‘Mum’? Don’t words matter?

I get what you're saying but there is no way my kids are watching that rubbish either! And they wouldn't want to. It all seems a bit 'race to the bottom', as if they're bound to instantly be exposed to all the horrific crap immediately they step out of primary, so why even bother. There can be challenging stuff without being hideous.

Maybe read the OP's updates?