Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

The brainlessness of an English Tutor. Fuming

634 replies

crazymomma93 · 20/01/2025 19:22

Long time lurker, please bear with me.
My DD12 has been having some issues with her reading book. It has been making her feel uncomfortable, from the Genre and style of writing. So I have looked into it, got a jist of the book, she has pointed out some bits that made her uneasy and I looked up the age rating which was 14+. Now typically if you knew me, you would know I am not "that Mom" but I emailed her Form Tutor to ask if there was an alternative. Tutor emailed back after talking to English dept and DD dosn't need to read the book any longer, she can bring in her own. No problem. My DD has just told me she spoke with her own English Tutor, the day before I sent the email to tell her Form Tutor. After listening to DD, English Tutor responds "it's just words"
ITS JUST WORDS? Sorry is that not pretty much the Tutors whole career, teaching English?
I need calming because I am close to emailing said teacher calling her a c**t, because, you know "it's just words". See how her feelings are when she reads something that makes her uncomfortable.
My DD turned to her to ask because the book was making her uneasy and that is the response. What about children who get verbally bullied? Where is this Womans morals. AIBU?

OP posts:
shellyleppard · 20/01/2025 19:28

What's the book though.....my burning question

SometimesCalmPerson · 20/01/2025 19:28

Did you hear the entire conversation? It doesn’t sound like it was a good one if the biggest thing your dd took from it was ‘it’s just words’ but it’s never helpful to try and judge a teachers actions based on one sentence relayed by a child.

On the surface, of course that seems like a bizarre thing for the teacher to say, but without hearing the conversation and knowing the book, there’s no need to start teacher bashing.

Hobbesmanc · 20/01/2025 19:28

I'm afraid that your post really does scream "That Mom". From the caps to the abusive language.

Seeline · 20/01/2025 19:27

Was it a book the whole class is studying? Or one your DD had picked up in the library or something?

What was the book?

MissBPotter · 20/01/2025 19:27

You really need to calm down.

comedycentral · 20/01/2025 19:26

You need to take a big deep breath because you do sound like 'that mom'.

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 20/01/2025 19:26

Now typically if you knew me, you would know I am not "that Mom"

Said every Mum who IS that Mum. Your username isn't helping your case

hopeishere · 20/01/2025 19:25

Yeah what's the book?

SpunkyCritic · 20/01/2025 19:24

What book is it?