The brainlessness of an English Tutor. Fuming

Presumably though, she found reading about the horrible, racist things upsetting to imagine. She wouldn't necessarily have deemed the concept ignoble.

It was a description of how a paedophile might teach a very young child to perform a specific sexual act.

School have some reading books that are quite surprising to me but I like that they dissect them and discuss the hard hitting themes. I don't know the book you refer to OP but I'm intrigued to read it.
DDs have done Of Mice and Men, Lord of the Flies, An Inspector Calls amongst others. Dd2 is about to sit her mocks and we have been discussing An inspector Calls tonight. The themes are very adult compared to what I did in school but I admire the critical thinking that they are being encouraged to do and to explore deep societal issues.

I agree with you, but we were shown documentaries with footage of the camp being liberated. This had to be done at age 13 because History became optional after that. A friend of mine got nightmares and her parents complained to the school. I think that was stupid. It's supposed to give us nightmares so that it doesn't happen again.

Oh dear

You weren't there. Children are often not great expert witnesses. Class teachers aren't in control of choosing texts - that's an HOD decision. You sound deranged. Your child is heading for a similar fate if you closet her from everything she finds a bit difficult. This is why I am leaving teaching.

I think part of growing up is learning to work through scenarios where you may feel uncomfortable. That’s life and realising you managed it is how resilience is built. Not by removing all obstacles or uncomfortable experiences. A book seems the ultimate safe situation to be uncomfortable about and move past.

No wonder young people are growing up more anxious and less resilient if they never have to deal with difficult feelings.

Which book did you quote from? I'm horrified by some of the content in the books aimed at teenagers and stocked in school libraries.

"DD felt similarly about To Kill A Mockingbird"

What? To Kill a Mockingbird is an anti-racist novel!

Trust me, you don't want to know

I need calming because I am close to emailing said teacher calling her a ct, because, you know "it's just words". See how her feelings are when she reads something that makes her uncomfortable.

Fucking hell, easy tiger 😂 this is a bit of an overreaction.

I'm getting flashbacks of getting in trouble in the 80s for passing my mum's copy of Hollywood Wives around the class.

As in the Tom Fletcher and Giovanna Fletcher book?

We also had one about the aftermath of a nuclear war. Even had a rape in it. I think it might have been Farenheit 451 or something.

Can you please repeat the name of the book without the excerpt, please?

I’m intrigued

It could be a lazy response, or it could be a kindness, as @Askingforadvice78 suggested. The form tutor has already suggested a workable solution, so I wouldn't spend any more time thinking or worrying about it.

For fuck sake

Haha glad someone else got the point.

The point being, if they're 'just words', then the teacher won't be offended at someone using foul language at them, because after all 'cunt' is just a word.

@madamweb I really wana know what it was now

About a book? You’re scrubbing and fretting because someone described the content of a book? What the heck was it?

They don't, they're just recommendations. I did have a teacher tell me I couldn't take a certain book when I was around 12 though. It didn't change anything because I could still get them independently elsewhere.

If it's a book that both school and tutor are aware of, have possibly set for study in the first place, it cannot possibly be that bad.

The 'it's only words' comment from the tutor is a bit unprofessional, but the OPs proposed reaction is completely OTT and unpleasantly aggressive.

I don't think you're helping your daughter by encouraging her to not read the book. We don't have to avoid topics which make us uncomfortable. Research shows that doing so, usually causes more harm than good. That is, people become increasingly upset about the issues they are avoiding, rather than less.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/parenting-translator/202307/do-trigger-warnings-do-more-harm-than-good%3famp

I heard a podcast that suggested some people who avoid certain topics, for example, can start to incorporate that dislike into part of their personality, or a defining characteristics of themselves.

You are massively massively overreacting. Your daughter will grow up as precious as you if you carry on like this.
You asked if she could read a different book and were told she could.
You cannot expect absolutely no pushback about this as ALL the other kids in the class are managing ti read that book. Clearly it's on the curriculum. If it were genuinely distressing your daughter it's valid to ask if she can read something else.. but you can't seriously think that's normal at the age of 12? That there wouldn't be any attempt to convince her to try and persevere with it?? What the teacher said was really mild. It IS just words. Words can sometimes upset you however they are just words and we can choose how we respond. Education may make you uncomfortable at points and if possible that needs to be worked through.. she's going to be learning about things like, slavery, the holocaust, how we die, the vastness of space, climate change, exploitation etc etc Of course there will be a bit of mild pressure to try and work through things. How will she learn like her peers if she just gets to not take part the minute she feels uncomfortable?