The brainlessness of an English Tutor. Fuming

Of course books are not ‘just words’, any more than pornography is ‘just pictures’.

Don’t take the attitudes of posters on here to heart Op. Some people just like to have a rant or a fight. Many just don’t really keep an open mind and remember they actually know absolutely nothing about the Op and only a tiny snap shot of what’s happened, from their post. They can get the wrong end of the stick very very easily. Sorry you had such a shitty time after your first post ever.

I also said "nearly" every boy and from 13 upwards.

Would be quite a major escalation to call one of your daughter’s teachers a c*nt. I think you know that.

Steady on. After twenty years of teaching I can tell you that pretty much every child takes home ‘alternative facts’ from time to time, whether through outright fibs or by leaving out the crucial details which don’t happen to paint them in the best light.

Well, I clearly KNOW that.
I am stating a fact.
It is vile.

Books can absolutely be too extreme - I once read a book where a babysitter was tortured, raped and murdered by the kids she was babysitting and I ended up tearing it into little pieces and still feel sick thinking about it 25 years later. So I get that nobody should have to read stuff that makes them feel queasy.

but your over reaction is silly. She made a breezy passing comment that was maybe a bit tactless but nothing worth a moments thought. Pick your battles.

as an ex teacher, in form we have kids complaining all the bloody time! this book i dont like, this book is gay , this book my family doesnt agree as it talks about homosexuality ... and on and on and on.... the same 12 y o go in with make and skirt up their a.... not that form they pay so much attention to what they read anyway.... how about tiktok or insta? is she allowed? as i see far more disturbing things in there than books.... anyway WHAT IS THE BOOK??😅

Op i think maybe take a step back and try see this as a learning moment for your daughter? Yes the teacher was dismissive of her feelings but that will happen in life and its a good opportunity to tell her about trusting her gut and saying no - even if an adult is saying its fine. Dont email the school though - necessary ag.

You sound like the kind of mum who facilitates neurotic behaviour. You need to make your daughter more hardy - it can’t be that inappropriate a book and maybe you could read it with her and understand why it makes DD uncomfortable and encourage her to be more at ease with it. (Eye roll)

This is...wtf... Is this where we're at, some pp's laughing because they read Judy Blume at 14 and somehow remained okay, but today's 11 year olds are destined to be shown hard core porn at school (and we're talking today's hard core porn, not the 80's) so OP better buckle up. Poor fucking kids. And also, don't drag every boy into your 'ha ha porn on phones in schools' shrug, it's damaging for everyone.

As if almost any book has the potential to be as damaging as 5 mins on the internet (which I assume you allow)

Yep, every teachers nightmare. It's half the reason why teachers are leaving the profession, they're sick of parents like OP.

You are definitely over reacting. How is DD going to get by when she's older without 'Crazymomma' losing her shit on her behalf? Take a step back and let the tutor do his/her job, did any other parents complain about the book?

I remember my childhood friend recommending I read Forever Amber and dog eared the pages with the sexy bits of the story. We were 12 or 13. I was petrified in case my mum found the book. This was the 1950’s.
This thread took me right back. Those were the days 😄

It's the opposite! I bought the book! He himself decided it wasn't for him yet.

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The fact that DD is 12yo & the book she is reading is rated at 14+ is irrelevant. In fact if anything, it's a compliment. If a book is chosen by a teacher there is almost always a reason why.p

Source: former teacher.

Good Luck with the teen years and the online hardcore porn on nearly every boys phone next year.

Same here. The photos we were shown were pretty graphic! My DM served in the ATS during WWII, and they were shown very graphic footage of the Russians liberating Auschwitz. Those images stayed with her forever.

It is pretty shocking to be told "It's just words" by an English teacher, if that's what happened, but it's now unclear what actually happened. Did she say that or not?

Either way, I haven't looked up the book, but from your description it doesn't seem the most appropriate for 12 year olds.

The mere fact that you say your “not that mum” immediately says you darn well are & that you need calming down doubley confirms it; but to say about emailing the tutor to call her the c-bomb well without going any further on your feed it tells me your that mum who’s first to whinge & whine about every little thing; that nothing is good enough for your little princess & that your prone to over dramatic outbursts & over reactions.

Agree, imagine a serious issue...

Do you usually overreact like this and want to be offensive to someone without even knowing the full conversation? 🤔 It's a book, can't be that bad surely if from a school library?