I've just had a huge row with my husband because of the way that I dress. I have 4 young kids, ranging from 3 to 10. My husband works full time and is the bread winner in the house. All other life admin and house chores/cooking cleaning for kids and husband I do including school pick ups and drops off etc and all the after school activities. Youngest is also at nursery for half a day so I'm also out at 12 everyday to pick her up. I have very little time for myself in between the cooking the cleaning, shopping and running the household. Husband does nothing when he comes home from work, will play with the kids, eats his dinner and goes off to do his own thing. Even bedtime I do it. I'm usually exhausted by the end of the day.
I also have in laws there are times I will need to take my mother in law for appointments or shopping etc as she doesn't drive.
Last night after putting kids to bed I had to go to mils as she needed a hand with something, which is fine I'm happy to help. Husband was ill and fell asleep at the same time as the kids did. When I came home at half 9, I made the lunches for today, locked up downstairs and came up to bed... Got into pj's (black top with navy floral bottoms) and in bed with a cuppa and DH gets up looks at me and starts going off on one that I'm always in "bin bags", and I'm always "tired". He really went for it, even swore at me. I didn't say a word, got out of bed picked up my tea and got into bed with my daughter and went to sleep. Didn't really speak to him today when he was at work, he did call me and try to have some "jokes", told me to pick some new pyjamas for myself and hell treat me. I didn't humour him, I ignored him really. Hes come home and I told him he's rude and i don't want to talk to him. Hes then gone off on one again, not eaten the dinner I cooked and said he's tried to apologise...when he didnt he called to make jokes but never actually said sorry.
I apologise this has ended up really long. I know I should make more of an effort but really I have a very low libido compared to him and I do get very tired. I'm not fat, I'm a size 10 I do try to look after myself and eat well etc. Surely Im not the only women who feels like this after a long day.