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What age/year at school, would you put my Dc ar?

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Nonstoprain · 20/01/2025 15:37

Looking at this?

What age/year at school, would you put my Dc ar?
OP posts:
Vynalbob · 21/01/2025 18:40

This is a difficult question (than I initially thought). I think comprehension exceeds writing. I think if I had to take a stab in the dark I'd say year 2 (probably left handed or mixed as a PP has mentioned) and perhaps, if there are no other obvious factors (eg types of palsy, FASD, lots of etcs) maybe dyspraxia.
The lower & upper case throws me a bit, guessing they try really hard and maybe practicing using those letter stencils so it's mixed it up a bit.
👍👍👍

WimbyAce · 21/01/2025 18:39

PC7102 · 21/01/2025 17:52

year 1 or 2? My son is in reception and doesn’t write words yet but I’m not sure if he’s at the typical level for his age though (he’s 4)

Same, my daughter is 4 in reception and only just started writing her name.

QuaintPanda · 21/01/2025 18:36

LittleScampi · 21/01/2025 07:10

We‘re also abroad, DS was just shy of 7 when he started school and started to learn reading and writing (his school language is not English).

Please, stop comparing your child to UK children! It’s a completely different learning process. And definitely leave it up to the teachers- anything you teach your child now might have to be unlearned. For example, letters and numbers might be formed differently. DS is now in Year 2 of school and they are only just learning to capitalise and use full stops.

I teach at secondary level here, all the children are fluent in at least 3 languages and can all write beautifully! So don’t worry, your child is probably miles ahead of her future classmates.

This. DS is in his 2nd year at age 8. Bilingual, not in UK. I got him up to reception/Yr1 level English reading in the holidays, and his reading in his other language suffered as they are such different systems. I hadn’t taught him to write, which was fortunate- there are strict rules on how to form letters, and they’ve now nearly finished learning copperplate, which is his preferred writing. They‘re introducing fountain pens at Easter.

It‘s apples and oranges.

Highfivemum · 21/01/2025 18:34

I would say nursery school so 3/4

GripeOfTheDay · 21/01/2025 18:25

So

Shes six with a reading age of 9.5 but you read to her at home.

Shes not started school yet syonot really done any handwriting practice..

What was the point of all of this, as it doesn't sound as though you are particularly concerned about any potential SEN issues.

Get a handwriting practice book or download some templates if you want something to do.

Nofurme · 21/01/2025 18:25

Your child is doing really well OP for not being at school and working through this phonetically. However, from a UK mum also outside the UK whose child also started school at 6, more formally 7 I’d say relax and don’t compare to the kids learning to read and write formally at 4 in other countries. Once they are young teens they have all absolutely caught up and you will struggle to see the difference. Trust the process, enjoy the other experiences and learnings they have and it’ll work out well.

HoraceCope · 21/01/2025 18:24

year 1
or reception
it really depends

BooneyBeautiful · 21/01/2025 18:23

AnonymousBleep · 20/01/2025 16:38

Year 3/4. Age about 6.

I agree. My NDN's son just turned seven in November. He wrote our Christmas card and the handwriting was very similar to this.

Supergirl1958 · 21/01/2025 18:22

Reception, some letter formation and presentation points. at this stage of year 1 the majority would be writing on lines (some with guidance)

hazelnutvanillalatte · 21/01/2025 18:14

Celebrationtin1989 · 21/01/2025 17:53

RL here. Yes we do. Last term of Nursery. It’s part of read write inc to do so.

Sorry, no idea what this means.

Anyway, turns out my guess was correct.

lou123456789 · 21/01/2025 18:13

Nonstoprain · 20/01/2025 21:13

Thanks all, been at work and just reading through all comments.

Dd is 6, she wrote this at home, could use own pen, paper etc, I just wanted to see her writing.

Her friend is called Gabriel

The picture is hers and all writing and spelling lm her own

To a Pp who commented about the bitten nails…it’s my hand 😂

So, I wanted to see how she compares to others, we live abroad, so doesn’t start formal learning until September.

I’ve read to her since she was a baby and taught her sounds etc when younger. She’s always known her letters, but writing is the one thing I’ve not actively taught her, as she will learn quite differently in September, when they teach it and I didn’t want to confuse. I’m thinking I should intervene a little and work on where to put capitals and where to use lower case and work on presentation? Should I or leave it to the teachers in September? She only writes her name and the copied date at school, she writes sometimes for fun at school.
Her reading age is 9.5, it’s just her writing, it’s poor in comparison to others in her age group, isn’t it?

I don’t think it’s poor at all, I work with children and I would have guessed 5/6. It’s really good to say she isn’t actually at school yet!

Dominoeffecter · 21/01/2025 18:09

Nonstoprain · 20/01/2025 21:13

Thanks all, been at work and just reading through all comments.

Dd is 6, she wrote this at home, could use own pen, paper etc, I just wanted to see her writing.

Her friend is called Gabriel

The picture is hers and all writing and spelling lm her own

To a Pp who commented about the bitten nails…it’s my hand 😂

So, I wanted to see how she compares to others, we live abroad, so doesn’t start formal learning until September.

I’ve read to her since she was a baby and taught her sounds etc when younger. She’s always known her letters, but writing is the one thing I’ve not actively taught her, as she will learn quite differently in September, when they teach it and I didn’t want to confuse. I’m thinking I should intervene a little and work on where to put capitals and where to use lower case and work on presentation? Should I or leave it to the teachers in September? She only writes her name and the copied date at school, she writes sometimes for fun at school.
Her reading age is 9.5, it’s just her writing, it’s poor in comparison to others in her age group, isn’t it?

No it’s not poor for her age, these threads always illicit stupid replies ‘I think a 6 month old wrote it’ etc

Dominoeffecter · 21/01/2025 18:07

SausageRoll2020 · 20/01/2025 15:49

Nursery school or reception if a child that is very young in their year and struggling.

Naaaah 😂😂

Kellph83 · 21/01/2025 18:06

I’d say reception age late nursery.

Lalalondon99 · 21/01/2025 18:05

My daughter is 21 and writes like this so it’s impossible to tell!

She has a learning disability and severe autism but that does not make her less than anyone else…

And I’m pleased that she can even write like this because of the absolute mountain it was for her to climb

Celebrationtin1989 · 21/01/2025 17:53

hazelnutvanillalatte · 20/01/2025 17:35

These threads always bring out ridiculous replies

RL here. Yes we do. Last term of Nursery. It’s part of read write inc to do so.

PC7102 · 21/01/2025 17:52

year 1 or 2? My son is in reception and doesn’t write words yet but I’m not sure if he’s at the typical level for his age though (he’s 4)

LittleScampi · 21/01/2025 07:10

We‘re also abroad, DS was just shy of 7 when he started school and started to learn reading and writing (his school language is not English).

Please, stop comparing your child to UK children! It’s a completely different learning process. And definitely leave it up to the teachers- anything you teach your child now might have to be unlearned. For example, letters and numbers might be formed differently. DS is now in Year 2 of school and they are only just learning to capitalise and use full stops.

I teach at secondary level here, all the children are fluent in at least 3 languages and can all write beautifully! So don’t worry, your child is probably miles ahead of her future classmates.

Dishwashersaurous · 21/01/2025 06:49

Don't worry about it, she will be taught properly, and pick it up quickly, when she gets to school.

The different education systems make it hard to compare which is why people are saying reception because in England formal writing is taught early.

However, if she's never been taught then this is fine and she'll pick it up.

Really focus in encouraging drawing and small motor skills rather than specifically writing.

Always have pencils and paper available so she can draw.

Happyhettie · 20/01/2025 23:45

Nonstoprain · 20/01/2025 21:13

Thanks all, been at work and just reading through all comments.

Dd is 6, she wrote this at home, could use own pen, paper etc, I just wanted to see her writing.

Her friend is called Gabriel

The picture is hers and all writing and spelling lm her own

To a Pp who commented about the bitten nails…it’s my hand 😂

So, I wanted to see how she compares to others, we live abroad, so doesn’t start formal learning until September.

I’ve read to her since she was a baby and taught her sounds etc when younger. She’s always known her letters, but writing is the one thing I’ve not actively taught her, as she will learn quite differently in September, when they teach it and I didn’t want to confuse. I’m thinking I should intervene a little and work on where to put capitals and where to use lower case and work on presentation? Should I or leave it to the teachers in September? She only writes her name and the copied date at school, she writes sometimes for fun at school.
Her reading age is 9.5, it’s just her writing, it’s poor in comparison to others in her age group, isn’t it?

Should have read all your posts before replying!

Bilingual and not even formally in school yet - she’s done a cracking job!! And so have you teaching her!

If she wants to learn, I’d get her forming lower case letters correctly. There’s loads of fine motor skills games you can play as well to help with pencil grip.

These things will come, she hasnt even started school yet - it’s brilliant! 🤩

Saracen · 20/01/2025 23:42

I'm sure once she's at school and doing loads of writing, it will come on in leaps and bounds. One of my kids started school at nine, having been home educated up to that point with no requirement to write unless they wanted to. The speed and tidiness of their handwriting improved dramatically within a month of starting school, due to all the practice.

Like your daughter, mine was doing well in all other areas, so the slow handwriting alone didn't cause their self-esteem to suffer. So I don't think you necessarily need to work on it in advance to get her ready. She can work on it at school.

Happyhettie · 20/01/2025 23:40

Nonstoprain · 20/01/2025 16:40

What would you say about spelling and sentence structure, putting the handwriting aside?

It’s a lovely bit of writing, what’s written was obviously important to her!

Spellings - most of it you can tell what she’s writing as she’s using phonetically correct spellings.
Capital letters are randomly placed, punctuation is missing.

Orchidsunlight · 20/01/2025 22:59

Age 5?

xRobin · 20/01/2025 22:58

Nonstoprain · 20/01/2025 21:13

Thanks all, been at work and just reading through all comments.

Dd is 6, she wrote this at home, could use own pen, paper etc, I just wanted to see her writing.

Her friend is called Gabriel

The picture is hers and all writing and spelling lm her own

To a Pp who commented about the bitten nails…it’s my hand 😂

So, I wanted to see how she compares to others, we live abroad, so doesn’t start formal learning until September.

I’ve read to her since she was a baby and taught her sounds etc when younger. She’s always known her letters, but writing is the one thing I’ve not actively taught her, as she will learn quite differently in September, when they teach it and I didn’t want to confuse. I’m thinking I should intervene a little and work on where to put capitals and where to use lower case and work on presentation? Should I or leave it to the teachers in September? She only writes her name and the copied date at school, she writes sometimes for fun at school.
Her reading age is 9.5, it’s just her writing, it’s poor in comparison to others in her age group, isn’t it?

Oh well this makes a world of difference in my opinion.
If she hasn’t started formal learning yet then this is great for independent learning.
Letter formation starts as young as 4 in England (I thought the writing seemed that of a new learner).
If she loves reading, read with her and gently point out the capital letters at the beginning of each sentence and see if she can point some out on the next page.
You and LO are doing great x

Strictlymad · 20/01/2025 22:44

I’m a teacher and I’d say 6 is spot on - year 1/2. The replies saying nursery when she writes beach correctly and tricky words to and the are up a gum tree!

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