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TTC and cousin's birthdays

58 replies

EskarinaWeatherwax · 20/01/2025 15:03

I've recently had the MMR vaccines (again, had them before but didn't have immunity) and now finally in the clear to start TTC. I know it's super unlikely but if we did conceive this month, my due date would be a day before my nephew's birthday & only a couple of weeks after my niece. AIBU to TTC this month or would we better waiting a cycle?

Obviously I know the odds of conceiving on the first month are slim and the odds of them coming on their due date are also slim but just wondering if others have taken into account cousins birthdays when it comes to TTC and potential due dates. I'm probably totally overthinking this as I think well this cycle would result in being close to niece and nephew's birthday, next 3 months are close to Christmas and post Christmas etc and there's just really no ideal time is there so maybe we should just go for it & see what happens.

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MaltipooMama · 20/01/2025 15:24

Oh god do not even let this cross your mind! Crack on and if you conceive well it's nothing but positive news is it, who cares if their cousins have similar birthdays, lovely big birthday family gatherings when they're older! 😀

Sangeetafangeeta · 20/01/2025 15:24

Eh?

canyouletthedogoutplease · 20/01/2025 15:17

We have loads of bithdays on top of each other in my family, it's pretty normal no? What happens if you have two cousins with birthdays two weeks apart? Is there a reason this is a bad thing?

landobroken · 20/01/2025 15:14

Yes. You are overthinking it. Bloody hell.

EskarinaWeatherwax · 20/01/2025 15:14

Springflowersmakeforbetterhours · 20/01/2025 15:09

Can this be real? Honestly? Ttc and hope for a positive.. You won't give your dn a second thought!!

Sorry, chronic overthinker over here. I just know birthdays are a massive deal for our family. I feel like if we'd been actively trying beforehand and then were still trying this month that's one thing but choosing to start this month feels different.

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Springflowersmakeforbetterhours · 20/01/2025 15:09

Can this be real? Honestly? Ttc and hope for a positive.. You won't give your dn a second thought!!

rainbowstardrops · 20/01/2025 15:08

You're way overthinking this! Just go for it

cestlavielife · 20/01/2025 15:06

Don't even think about cousins birthday it is irrelevant. Even if you get pregnant you could give birth early or late. Then decide on family occasions at the time.