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To be annoyed at the lack of bathrooms

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Applecharm25 · 20/01/2025 13:39

I have my period. I can feel that i need to change my tampon.

I'm out walking round my city. There are no public bathrooms anywhere near me.

I see a sign for a bathroom in a small shopping centre near me. I walk in. The bathroom is actually in a shop. I'm told that the bathroom is only available for paying customers.

So now I have to get in a long queue and wait further and buy something while I really need to change my tampon.

Surely there should be better toilet services available.

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Applecharm25 · 21/01/2025 10:10

WongKarWhy · 21/01/2025 10:09

You honestly think you aren't being a nasty bully at this point? And a liar?

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Why are you still here if you hate this thread so much?

Why not just go.

Believe me I would love to speak with someone else.

I won't reply to any of your posts anymore

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Growlybear83 · 21/01/2025 10:10

I've read all 752 comments in this thread and I've honestly not seen bullying. The post from Mumsnet referred to troll hunting, but made no reference to bullying, which I think is telling. Most people disagree with the OP's views, a very large proportion of people have commented on the use of the word 'bathroom', and many people find their suggestion for a period room and other remarks bonkers, but that doesn't mean there is bullying or a pile on - just that they don't agree with the OP. For a thread like this which has provoked so many comments by people who disagree with the OP, I think there have been remarkably few deleted posts, which confirms to me that Mumsnet don't see bullying. There's only one poster on this thread who comes over as being unnecessarily rude and combative, and that's the OP.

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Applecharm25 · 21/01/2025 10:10

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 21/01/2025 10:01

I don't think anyone could look at OP as reasonable at this point

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Reported for bullying.

I will report every abusive bully on here.

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WongKarWhy · 21/01/2025 10:09

Applecharm25 · 21/01/2025 10:09

Ooh the big bully is keeping on going.

Hey you know what would shock people.

If you wrote something nice. .try it!

Every one of your posts has been nasty so far

Maybe switch it up and write something nice?

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You honestly think you aren't being a nasty bully at this point? And a liar?

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Applecharm25 · 21/01/2025 10:09

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 21/01/2025 10:07

You'd know
I'm assuming this thread is giving you some cheap thrill, throwing around all the MN tick boxes

Next you'll find a way to bring transpeople in just to make 100% sure you've hit all the notes

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Ooh the big bully is keeping on going.

Hey you know what would shock people.

If you wrote something nice. .try it!

Every one of your posts has been nasty so far

Maybe switch it up and write something nice?

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WongKarWhy · 21/01/2025 10:09

Applecharm25 · 21/01/2025 10:08

I wasn't wrong.

I'll ask you aswell.

What do you get out of bullying.? This early in the morning

Does it make you feel good?

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I'm not bullying. I'm defending myself.

I'm asking you to explain yourself. You accused me of lying. Another poster produced the evidence I was not lying. You're refusing to retract. Why is that, I wonder.

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Applecharm25 · 21/01/2025 10:08

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 21/01/2025 10:06

You're not going to get an apology for that. OP is conveniently ignoring anything which points out she was wrong

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I wasn't wrong.

I'll ask you aswell.

What do you get out of bullying.? This early in the morning

Does it make you feel good?

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WongKarWhy · 21/01/2025 10:08

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 21/01/2025 10:06

You're not going to get an apology for that. OP is conveniently ignoring anything which points out she was wrong

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Oh, I know, just want to make sure it's crystal clear and plain to see. She's had several opportunities now.

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 21/01/2025 10:07

Applecharm25 · 21/01/2025 10:05

Seriously what do you get out of bullying.

Does it give you a specific thrill?

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You'd know
I'm assuming this thread is giving you some cheap thrill, throwing around all the MN tick boxes

Next you'll find a way to bring transpeople in just to make 100% sure you've hit all the notes

WongKarWhy · 21/01/2025 10:07

Applecharm25 · 21/01/2025 10:05

Seriously what do you get out of bullying.

Does it give you a specific thrill?

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I'm not bullying you. I just want you to answer a simple question: You called me a liar, it was proven I was telling the truth. Do you retract that because if not, kind of makes you a bully by your own standards.

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 21/01/2025 10:06

WongKarWhy · 21/01/2025 10:05

Yes, I know that?

Now, about calling me a liar...

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You're not going to get an apology for that. OP is conveniently ignoring anything which points out she was wrong

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Applecharm25 · 21/01/2025 10:05

WongKarWhy · 21/01/2025 10:04

Sure they have.

Okay, so you think I'm a bully, fine?

What about you calling me a liar when the posts have been produced to prove I was not lying? Any comment on that?

You also said you think calling people a liar is bullying. Does that make you a bully too?

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Seriously what do you get out of bullying.

Does it give you a specific thrill?

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FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 21/01/2025 10:05

Applecharm25 · 21/01/2025 10:03

No.

No one has to answer any question. You can't force anyone to do anything.

I'm not the one that looks bad here.

You should sew my pms. They're all disgusted at the bullying on here.

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Don't bother asking a question if you're going to get abusive when asked for more information

You're the one who should be disgusted tbh

WongKarWhy · 21/01/2025 10:05

Applecharm25 · 21/01/2025 10:04

It would be good for you to learn about consent.

Here you go.

People are allowed to say no

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Yes, I know that?

Now, about calling me a liar...

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Applecharm25 · 21/01/2025 10:04

WongKarWhy · 21/01/2025 10:02

You've jumped the shark now. Consent indeed.

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It would be good for you to learn about consent.

Here you go.

People are allowed to say no

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WongKarWhy · 21/01/2025 10:04

Applecharm25 · 21/01/2025 10:03

You are a bully. And you know it.

Several people on here and in my private messages have said that the bullying on this thread is absolutely disgusting.

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Sure they have.

Okay, so you think I'm a bully, fine?

What about you calling me a liar when the posts have been produced to prove I was not lying? Any comment on that?

You also said you think calling people a liar is bullying. Does that make you a bully too?

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Applecharm25 · 21/01/2025 10:03

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 21/01/2025 10:02

I think if you're going to make a post talking about a specific topic and then decide to stop replying to reasonable questions about said topic then you're going to make yourself look rather silly

And throwing about "consent" is like you're trying to tick all the MN boxes

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No.

No one has to answer any question. You can't force anyone to do anything.

I'm not the one that looks bad here.

You should sew my pms. They're all disgusted at the bullying on here.

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Applecharm25 · 21/01/2025 10:03

WongKarWhy · 21/01/2025 10:01

It's a well known tactic, Smear everyone as a bully, and for the more casual reader it will stick and OP will look more reasonable than they are.

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You are a bully. And you know it.

Several people on here and in my private messages have said that the bullying on this thread is absolutely disgusting.

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FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 21/01/2025 10:02

Applecharm25 · 21/01/2025 10:01

Do you really think that other people aren't allowed to say no.

Em do you understand consent?

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I think if you're going to make a post talking about a specific topic and then decide to stop replying to reasonable questions about said topic then you're going to make yourself look rather silly

And throwing about "consent" is like you're trying to tick all the MN boxes

WongKarWhy · 21/01/2025 10:02

Applecharm25 · 21/01/2025 10:01

Do you really think that other people aren't allowed to say no.

Em do you understand consent?

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You've jumped the shark now. Consent indeed.

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 21/01/2025 10:01

WongKarWhy · 21/01/2025 10:01

It's a well known tactic, Smear everyone as a bully, and for the more casual reader it will stick and OP will look more reasonable than they are.

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I don't think anyone could look at OP as reasonable at this point

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Applecharm25 · 21/01/2025 10:01

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 21/01/2025 09:59

Omg OP

You're not even going to answer reasonable questions now without claiming bullying?

Do you really think that other people aren't allowed to say no.

Em do you understand consent?

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WongKarWhy · 21/01/2025 10:01

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 21/01/2025 09:59

Omg OP

You're not even going to answer reasonable questions now without claiming bullying?

It's a well known tactic, Smear everyone as a bully, and for the more casual reader it will stick and OP will look more reasonable than they are.

WongKarWhy · 21/01/2025 10:00

@Applecharm25 I'd still like to know if you retract calling me a liar now the posts have been produced proving I was telling the truth? You only seem to reply to the posts that suit you.

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 21/01/2025 09:59

Omg OP

You're not even going to answer reasonable questions now without claiming bullying?

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