To be annoyed at the lack of bathrooms

I agree OP we definitely need more public toilets, this is a national disgrace.

I have to say though that I have NEVER heard anyone from the UK use the word bathroom like this or ever seen any toilets labelled as bathroom. What part of the UK does this happen in?

I've had one saved in my Amazon basket for a while but not - ahem - pulled the trigger. The recommendation is to practice in the shower while you get the hang of it. Loud thumping sounds as 50% of Mumsnet posters faint in horror!

I was thinking of it for skiing (ski touring) but TBH anywhere I would feel was far enough from civilisation to be ok to pee with being gross is also going to be far enough from other people not to worry about dropping my pants so I haven't bothered. But maybe pop up urinals are a better use case (bleugh)

It never stops them, though.

I don’t think I’ve ever found myself unable to find a useable toilet facility in a city, and that’s as someone with a bladder injury so relatively little time to hunt and fairly regular needs.

I’ve also never been turned down by a shop when I’ve asked if I could quickly use their loo before buying something.

As a tip for the future - hotel lobbies are good options.

Out of interest, if there's no difference between women's demand for toilet facilities and men's, why are the queues for the ladies longer than the (often non-existent) queues for the gents?

Men on average have less preparation before they are ready to pee and their urethras (on average) are larger than female urethras so they can void volume quicker too.

So far no one has mentioned a she-wee - has anyone ever used one without getting wee everywhere ?

Ugh...... Im so annoyed I bothered to comment earlier cos Id felt sure it was a man posting but decided no...... "be kind"....... when clearly it was/is a creepy agp man.

well said.

Exactly what I do.

This thread is batshit. Thanks for the laughs OP.

The OP also said when she did find a loo she had a long queue. And women are disadvantaged by longer queues than men for the toilets that there are, meaning they are even less well served than the men by the same reduced provision. It all adds up to make the lack of public toilets an issue for more women than men overall, even if it's not a significantly bigger issue for you than your husband.

That said, plenty of cities now provide pop up urinals in the vain hope of stopping men pissing everywhere. No pop up toilets for women though. So yes actually, there are "mens toilets dotted about cities without corresponding women's".

And whether you think men should piss in the street, and I certainly do not, it is nevertheless a fact that they do do so much more than women. So while one can certainly take an abstract view where one assumes equally good public behaviour between men and women and based on that claim both sexes suffer equally, the actual real world limitations are currently hitting women more than men.

It's not sexism to point out that the real world impact of giving men and women "equal" provisions is not in fact equal.

Good point. None of this post sounds real after reviewing it.
I mean saying everyone calls it the bathroom was the first give away and then saying they don’t use the toilet…

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@graceinspace999 Have you seen the “Just can’t wait” card available from the Bowel & Bladder Community?

You can have a physical card, as well as a download for your phone wallet. I’ve had one for about a year, and it’s proven very useful on at 4 occasions since then. Was free.

I think it was the OPs aggressive response and insistence that all pubs have toilets signposted 'bathroom' to what was originally an innocent question as to whether she was in the US that is the problem.

Same! Maybe if someone asks for a bathroom and not the toilet/loo then they will get told there aren’t any.

Never pass up the opportunity, as some king once said, I think. I've never in my life changed a tampon without using the loo. Why on earth would anyone build 'tampon changing facilities' with cubicles, disposal bins, washbasins & hand-driers - & NOT put a toilet in there? Bizarre idea.

And everyone knows, your mum always made you ‘try’ when you were near a toilet.

What is harmless about permitting a fetishist to draw women into discussing their toilet and menstrual habits? (Yes, some men fetishise such things, get off on hearing women pee, and rifle sanitary bins for - well you can guess.<boak>)

It absolutely is wank fodder for such men.

"Tampon changing rooms" - Easily the most ridiculous thing Ive heard so far this year.
Ive never yet change my [whatever I happen to be using] and not also used the loo.
And in the UK........ toilet, loo. - never "bathroom"

So? Who said it's legal? They physically can do it, while it being illegal.

This thread has derailed spectacularly!… How are we ever going to rule the world if we can’t agree that a few more public toilets would be a good thing. Come on, we can do this! 💪

I’m guessing OP disappeared because school has finished.

We all agree, there needs to be more public toilets but can I just point out. You all still have the luxury of finding a toilet in Costa/mcdonalds/tesco etc. For those disabled people that need hoisting out of their wheelchair to have their incontinence products changed, toilets (changing places) are practically miles apart. We really do have to work out where they are/when to change otherwise they’re sat in faeces for hours. Think extra large baby changing.

So before we start building a ‘tampon changing place’, please can we spend it on a more deserving cause.

And, don’t get me started on ‘bathroom’.

Can't legally.

Who said "all" women? I said "on average," it's statistically more likely.

Not everyone but to make out all women need toilets more than men is ridiculous. Men can have bladder or bowel issues and need public toilets.