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Daughter changing her eye colour?

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begoodorbegone · 20/01/2025 13:18

I’ve found out my daughter is going to New York to have her eye colour surgically changed. I’m horrified.

I just can’t support this. Aibu? It’s caused a horrific argument and we’re not speaking.

OP posts:
Ohpooh · 20/01/2025 13:32

The sad thing is the result looks scary and nothing like natural eyes and i say this as a woman who used to like wearing coloured contacts. She would be better off finding a good brand of eye contacts. All you can do is support her and warn her off the dangers. Would she listen from someone else that might persuade her?

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begoodorbegone · 20/01/2025 13:29

WongKarWhy · 20/01/2025 13:22

Oh dear. It's seriously risky and can cause blindness!

I suppose if she's aware of the risk and still determined, there's very little you can do though.

She said there’s been no reported case of blindness. But still 🙈

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HolidayBrochure · 20/01/2025 13:28

Omg, I didn't realise this existed. It sounds frightening and massively risky.

LadyKenya · 20/01/2025 13:27

I would be extremely concerned, but if she is of an age where she is not dependent on you, then there is not a lot you can do OP. This procedure is still so new, and risky.

CharlotteStreetW1 · 20/01/2025 13:26

I assumed this was a wind up until I googled...

randomchap · 20/01/2025 13:23

Is it worth damaging your relationship with your daughter over?

Presumably she's an adult and is paying for this herself. Is the treatment safe? What is your objection based on? Risk, cost, cosmetic reasons?

Why does she want it doing?

WongKarWhy · 20/01/2025 13:22

Oh dear. It's seriously risky and can cause blindness!

I suppose if she's aware of the risk and still determined, there's very little you can do though.

BillStickersWillBeProsocuted · 20/01/2025 13:20

I didn't realise this was even a thing!

If she's an adult I'm there's not much you can do other than make sure she is aware of any risks

toomuchfaff · 20/01/2025 13:19

is she 12, 22 or 42? Makes a difference.