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Daughter changing her eye colour?

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begoodorbegone · 20/01/2025 13:18

I’ve found out my daughter is going to New York to have her eye colour surgically changed. I’m horrified.

I just can’t support this. Aibu? It’s caused a horrific argument and we’re not speaking.

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MindTheAbyss · 20/01/2025 14:10

This can’t be real! You don’t travel TO New York - a place where strep throat can cost a fortnight’s wages to treat and cancer can bankrupt you - for health care. If, heaven forbid, something goes wrong, your daughter could be in debt for life. Of course, they’re her eyes, but what financial protections does she have in place?

corvidconvo · 20/01/2025 14:06

Aside from the unnecessary risk to your vision, if someone has this done, then meets new people who compliment the beautiful or unusual fake eye colour, what do you even say? Pretend it's natural for the rest of your life or explain that it's artificial every time? Maybe it's so obviously unnatural that there's not as much need for explanation.

Mumtumtastic · 20/01/2025 14:05

What the?!..

Must be a wind up, maybe she’ll get some silly coloured lenses as a prank or something

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 20/01/2025 14:04

Oh good grief!
Presumably she is an adult and can pay herself, in which case you can only do a bit of research on the exact procedure she's planning (there seem to be several) then send her links to the research.
I hope she changes her mind.

oakleaffy · 20/01/2025 14:03

begoodorbegone · 20/01/2025 13:29

She said there’s been no reported case of blindness. But still 🙈

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I knew this was a thing when googling an eye disorder- It is very risky and also looks hideous.

The coloured fake Iris often has to be removed and what’s underneath is a mess.

Her own eye colour is probably brown (?) Nothing wrong with brown eyes.

Fake blue or green or violet just looks unnatural.

HoppingPavlova · 20/01/2025 14:03

So disappointed that people in the medical profession believe this is okay to participate in. It’s right up there with the fuckwits that change people into ‘lizards’ etc rather than on-referring them to psych which is who should be dealing with them. It’s a sad world when this is allowed as I believe they should be struck off.

SuperMaybe · 20/01/2025 14:02

This doesn't sound true. I think the OPs daughter might be winding her up.

SinisterBumFacedCat · 20/01/2025 14:01

What the fucking FUCK?! Why would anybody fuck about with their eyes like this? Nooooooo!

user8432176409 · 20/01/2025 13:59

WTF! I’m likely to need cataract surgery at some point…can’t imagine buggering about with your eyes for no good reason. I’m with you OP, what a stupid thing to be doing.
However, she’s an adult and therefore is allowed to make her own stupid decisions…

Mabelmable · 20/01/2025 13:58

It sounds a very risky procedure, will it be carried out in New York or subcontracted elsewhere.

Curtainqueen · 20/01/2025 13:56

I suppose the real question is why? Why does she want to change her eye colour?

Maverick66 · 20/01/2025 13:55

Can she not use coloured contact lenses?

Pushmepullu · 20/01/2025 13:52

I’m being really thick, why would you want to change the colour of your eyes, especially if it’s a surgical procedure?

Iwishiwasapolarbear · 20/01/2025 13:51

What colour is she changing them from and to? And why? I would be horrified too, such a risky procedure

Concretejungle1 · 20/01/2025 13:51

There are high risks of blindness/damage with this. She needs to do her research.

Hadalifeonce · 20/01/2025 13:46

I assume you have suggested coloured lenses? Much less dangerous.

netflixfan · 20/01/2025 13:44

How old is she?

Stressedoutmum6274 · 20/01/2025 13:41

Iv seen this. I dont think the eye colour post surgery looks very real,
It also looks slightly "demonic" to me.

Doctors in Uk will not do this surgery for a reason and no offence OP your daughter is risking her eyesight for vanity.

BobbyBiscuits · 20/01/2025 13:38

It sounds bizarre. And I have heard this type of surgery is extremely risky. And expensive.

Surely wearing different colour contacts is easier and more fun as you could change it up all the time?

I guess if her mind's made up and she's paying for it herself you just have to hope it works out well. But by all means tell her you think it's totally unnecessary.

Has she had lots of other cosmetic surgeries? It seems like the sort of thing only someone who was quite extreme in their body modification would want to do.

radiatorcat · 20/01/2025 13:38

I'd never heard of this, so I googled. This was the top link in the search engine.

American Academy of Ophthalmology Issues Warning on the Dangers of Eye Color-Changing Procedures

www.aao.org/newsroom/news-releases/detail/academy-issues-warning-on-eye-color-procedures

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begoodorbegone · 20/01/2025 13:36

OnyourbarksGSG · 20/01/2025 13:32

A woman in Brazil lost an eye after this was attempted and went horrifically wrong. There have been multiple reports of blindness. You must be worried sick. What a ridiculously trivial thing for her to worry about, I mean you can get coloured lenses for buttons so this is insane.

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I think that’s a different surgery

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Getitwright · 20/01/2025 13:35

She is taking a huge risk. I would ask her to take out insurance, and make it plain to her that if she does end up with issues, she is risking the rest of her life, not to mention the lives of any loved ones/dependents she might have. It’s vanity going to extremes. What does she hope to achieve from the change anyway?

Ohpooh · 20/01/2025 13:34

Does she have a mental illness like bipolar that makes her take risks like this? Maybe notify her surgeon?

WongKarWhy · 20/01/2025 13:33

begoodorbegone · 20/01/2025 13:29

She said there’s been no reported case of blindness. But still 🙈

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Personally, I don't think it's worth even the risk of blindness or vision loss, and all experts agree it is a risk! I didn't know there had been no reported cases though, so I can see how some less cautious people might take that as a green light.

Hopefully, it will be fine for her if she goes ahead.

OnyourbarksGSG · 20/01/2025 13:32

begoodorbegone · 20/01/2025 13:29

She said there’s been no reported case of blindness. But still 🙈

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A woman in Brazil lost an eye after this was attempted and went horrifically wrong. There have been multiple reports of blindness. You must be worried sick. What a ridiculously trivial thing for her to worry about, I mean you can get coloured lenses for buttons so this is insane.