Daughter changing her eye colour?

I have a damaged cornea ( no one can pinpoint exactly how it got damaged or when). It’s not always visible to anyone else but has had a huge impact on my life. Eye care, eye medication and eye clinic visits can dominate my life at times. so I’d never recommend anyone mess with their eyes unless it’s 100% necessary to save your sight.
Can you try suggesting she tries coloured contacts for a while to make sure she likes the colour she’s chosen? Might buy time for her to go off the idea.

Because they are very very insecure around what nature has given them, and challenged enough to put their own gratification before commitment to loved ones and those who depend on them. Hence all the arselifts going wrong and leaving behind loving family and small children. Utterly brainwashed into selfish acts.

I saw a woman on TikTok who did this and she was really unhappy with the results. She wanted green but the green she was given was totally unnatural. It looked like part of a Halloween costume. If your daughter won't listen about the risks, can you find some stories about people being dissatisfied with the aesthetic results?

Yes the recovery was dreadful and the muscle repair has caused me some issues with my back. I don’t really think it was worth it. Maybe if you have a lot of loose skin but I just had a bit of roll but convinced myself it was gross

Surely people aren't doing this? How does a person get to a point where they're so focused on something as trivial as their eye colour that they'd risk their vision?

I thought this was going to be a thread about a young teen using coloured contacts or something. Horrified that this surgery is even a thing!

Is she living elsewhere in the US, or travelling from the U.K./another country? What happens if something does go wrong and she needs to access further healthcare before coming home? Travel Insurance won’t cover someone travelling for cosmetic surgery and US medical costs are insane.

Apart from the risks, all the ones I looked at were dreadful - fake and like they’d been badly photoshopped. There was no beauty in any of the eyes. They lacked depth and intricacy.

So - a bad idea all round.

@Jaehee Brown is the most common globally, so it's half right. I hate the AI overview on Google, it's utterly shite.

This is no reason to argue / fall out over. You should be able to express your concerns, of course, but at the end of the day, she's an adult. This is exactly as permanent as a tattoo, which millions have.

There are cosmetic surgeries I'd be mortified if my child had, but not to the extent we'd stop talking.

https://eu.usatoday.com/story/life/health-wellness/2024/01/11/how-to-change-your-eye-color-doctor-advice-trend/72177039007/

As an aside, I asked Google if blue or brown was the most common eye colour in the UK and found this spectacular example of how shit AI is.

Do you regret the tummy tuck? Im thinking of doing it

Good god. I’ve heard of this procedure but I didn’t think anybody actually had it done. What does she think is wrong with her eye colour? A crazy waste of money.

Just as an aside, blue eyes are the most common eye colour in the UK, so if she's going to have her brown irises lasered to burn off the brown pigment so they can get to the blue underneath it seems a bit daft to me.

What type of surgery is this? As I have read and watched many horror stories on it and of people going blind or partially blind.

Ugh op I feel for you. You can only warn her. I would email her or text her all the risks and then that’s all you can do. My mum tried to stop me having a tummy tuck and a boob job. I still did and I regret not listening to her.

And who do you reckon will be looking after this idiotic woman if the worst happens and she loses her eyesight?

The among of idiotic things people are allowed to do is beyond me, like leg lengthening surgery. People have more money than sense!

What is the real problem behind this? Because it's not to do with her eye colour. Does she have self-esteem issues? Is she obsessive about her appearance? Why now? She needs to tackle whatever it is that makes her think her natural colouring isn't fine.

A cosmetic operation isn't healthcare. And presumably she would be going there simply because that's where the procedure happens to be available, not because it's affordable.

Another consideration is that if she has any complications during or afterwards, her medical insurance won’t cover it and mesical costs would be $$$, can she afford that?

And what's she going to do if there are any complications? Keep visiting New York for treatment (if there is any treatment) or insist the NHS sorts out the fuck-up? With NHS waiting times as they are now?

What kind of colour change are we talking about? Brown to blue, or her current natural colour to something completely unnatural like black?

Why surgery, and not coloured contacts? Has she used coloured contact at all?

Why New York?

And of course her eyesight could be damaged - it's surgery! A simple google will pull up lots of information on it.

Assuming she's an adult, it's nothing to do with you. She can whatever she wants with her own body and take whatever risks she wants. You don't need to support it, but neither do you need to have an argument about it.

This is a big thing amongst brown eyed people wanting blue or green eyes.
My friend is an opthalmologist, she is so against this op. I can't imagine anyone wanting to mess with their eyes.
If my daughter wanted to do this I'd be horrified too op, I really feel for you.

I'd assume she's going to NYC because this procedure is very niche and not available just anywhere. That part is believable enough.

Unfortunately I think it’s only a matter of time before there is one. Laser eye surgery for example, these days, is relatively routine but can still make some people’s sight worse than before they had it done.
Makes me think of the whole permanent makeup thing all over again.