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Nursery/Pre-school temperature - illness policy?

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Porgs2 · 19/01/2025 20:45

Not really an AIBU. Do the ones you use specify a temperature at which the child will be sent home? Children aged two to four. Thanks 🙏

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Porgs2 · 19/01/2025 23:13

Elisabeth3468 · 19/01/2025 23:06

Not sure on my nursery policy but pretty sure they'd phone me straight away if my son had a temp. He come down with an illness last Friday and had a temp for 4 days. I didn't send him to nursery all week to recover.
People just send their kids in poorly that's why so much circulates.

They do. It’s really frustrating as a worker. What goes through my mind is a) the poor child is unwell and it’s not fair for them that they’ve been brought in, b) all the other children are now at risk of whatever it is, c) us staff are also at risk and feel as though we aren’t valued! We actually had to close once because too many of the staff were ill, it didn’t go down well.

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jannier · 19/01/2025 23:09

NHS advice....temp over 38 keep them home.

Nursery/Pre-school temperature - illness policy?
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Elisabeth3468 · 19/01/2025 23:06

Not sure on my nursery policy but pretty sure they'd phone me straight away if my son had a temp. He come down with an illness last Friday and had a temp for 4 days. I didn't send him to nursery all week to recover.
People just send their kids in poorly that's why so much circulates.

jannier · 19/01/2025 23:06

User457788 · 19/01/2025 21:12

Why wouldn't they be able to get hold of us? My phone is either in my hand or on my desk in front of me on loud all day long,, same with my husband whose number they also have? Why would they 'blue light' a child to hospital with just a temperature 😄 mumsnet is so hysterical sometimes.

You obviously have been lucky enough never to have had a child go into febrile convulsions when the temperature that's been masked suddenly shoots up once the meds wear off....or the parents who can't answer because they are busy...
And you don't care about passing on any infections.
NHS advice is to keep children at home if they have temperatures over 38....and that doesn't mean after Calpol.....poor kids who's parents don't put them first.

SweedieLie · 19/01/2025 23:05

I've reported everyone calling me a liar - I am not a liar - UTIs are notorious for really high temps

Liar/fantasist. One of the two.

Give it up. No one believes you, no matter how hard you stamp your feet.

BackAgainSlimLady · 19/01/2025 22:56

User457788 · 19/01/2025 20:59

All you can do is smash some calpol and nurofen into them just before drop off and hope you might be able to do some work before they call you just after lunch to pick up your little one if the temp spikes.

This is shitty advice. Why risk getting other people sick?.. more so.. why send your child to nursery when they have a fever anyway.

you’re comment really says a lot about the type of parent you are a shit one

Megirlan123 · 19/01/2025 22:52

User457788 · 19/01/2025 21:11

Yeah course I would. Kids get temps with a cold even, whats the issue? Have you had/got little kids? A temperature is not always a bad thing - it's your bodys way of fighting stuff off - its a good thing sometimes particularly if they're well in themselves.

Oh my god. This is a wind up , surely??

Notgivenuphope · 19/01/2025 22:49

User457788 · 19/01/2025 21:11

Yeah course I would. Kids get temps with a cold even, whats the issue? Have you had/got little kids? A temperature is not always a bad thing - it's your bodys way of fighting stuff off - its a good thing sometimes particularly if they're well in themselves.

Or teething

Sushu · 19/01/2025 22:44

SMaCM · 19/01/2025 22:29

Ear temp of 37.8 and my mindees go home. By the time parents arrive it’s usually over or around 38. At 39 my daughter was fitting and practically unconscious.

Most children spike 39 degree fevers and are absolutely fine. It sounds unfortunate and unusual that your daughter had a seizure. Not saying they should be in childcare with a temp of 39 but it’s often part and parcel of a normal viral infection in a small child.

BarbaraHoward · 19/01/2025 22:37

SMaCM · 19/01/2025 22:29

Ear temp of 37.8 and my mindees go home. By the time parents arrive it’s usually over or around 38. At 39 my daughter was fitting and practically unconscious.

The NHS classes a high fever as 38.0+, I don't think I'd be impressed at a setting sending my children home for a temperature less than that!

SMaCM · 19/01/2025 22:29

Ear temp of 37.8 and my mindees go home. By the time parents arrive it’s usually over or around 38. At 39 my daughter was fitting and practically unconscious.

BarbaraHoward · 19/01/2025 22:28

Private daycare nursery: they'll keep them if they're well in themselves on Calpol. Happy to keep dosing and work with us to time doses to line up for bedtime. If the Calpol doesn't settle them then they're sent home. Don't think they have a particular threshold, they go by the child in front of them.

Nursery school: sent home if they look slightly flushed after running around and I'm only exaggerating a little. The head is ridiculously germphobic for someone working with three year olds. When eldest was there during covid they weren't allowed in if they were coughing - even with a negative PCR. Complete pain in the arse.

Porgs2 · 19/01/2025 22:28

User457788 · 19/01/2025 21:21

Yes she has - twice. A UTI both times. Totally normal to have a temp that high with a UTI. What you're reading in a book doesn't always collate with real life hun. My dad recently had sepsis and was in intensive care - his highest temp was 40 degrees. So honestly until you've got your own kids and lived it - you're the one talking nonsense and I'm relaying you real life experience.

You’re contradicting yourself, you said earlier it’s totally normal to get a temperature that high with a UTI. Quite the 360.

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User457788 · 19/01/2025 22:27

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User457788 · 19/01/2025 22:24

I've reported everyone calling me a liar - I am not a liar - UTIs are notorious for really high temps. I havent googled but I now understand why 111 had an ambulance with us within 3 minutes the first time she had a UTI. She was happy and playing but was hot which is why we checked her temp and 111 asked us to repeat it and then immediately dispatched an ambulance - the paramedics were shocked that she was happy and awake and blue lighted her in where they put her straight on antibiotics, and fluids, sat her on my lap with a bowl under to catch a wee sample and then told us we were lucky as quite soon after she probably would have crashed out. Second time I knew it was likely a UTI once her temp went over 40 and took her straight to children's a&e with a wee sample and they confirmed another UTI - again her temp spiked. I'm not sure why you're all saying I'm lying - clearly we're lucky and Google isn't able to answer a question for every single member of every population. You're all sick a twisted to be saying things like 'your daughter should be dead' etc.

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mitogoshigg · 19/01/2025 22:14

Been a while but my dc were raised in USA so Fahrenheit, up to 102 give tylenol and carry on was the advice I was given as long as not lethargic etc. That 38.8 C A low grade fever is always a bad thing, it mean your body is fighting off a bug or dealing with something eg teething

MumChp · 19/01/2025 22:12

Our children were send home if +38C. No calpol administration in nursery.

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Piccalow · 19/01/2025 22:08

Be consistent about where you're taking temp too.. arm pit vs mouth vs forehead

Porgs2 · 19/01/2025 21:59

Balloonhearts · 19/01/2025 21:55

Not necessarily. Mine spikes to 42ish with just colds and I'm perfectly capable of functioning like that.

42 is very high for just a cold. 45 is a full 3 degrees higher though.

“The highest reported fever in a child is 113°F (45°C), which was recorded in a case of severe hyperthermia. This was caused by a sympathomimetic drug overdose and physical exertion.”

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Getkettleon · 19/01/2025 21:58

I think ours is 38, but generally they are sensible and send home if child looks unwell or acting different to normal. Mine always call me and ask permission to give Calpol if they do have a temp but I have to collect them. We cannot send them in with a temperature and we're not allowed to give any Calpol before sending them in (presumably if they need the Calpol then they aren't well enough to be there?!)
Though, occasionally I did used to give Calpol before nursery if they were a bit snotty and grumpy but no temperature, just like I'd take paracetamol if I had a cold but would manage at work with a few drugs lol

User457788 · 19/01/2025 21:58

Balloonhearts · 19/01/2025 21:55

Not necessarily. Mine spikes to 42ish with just colds and I'm perfectly capable of functioning like that.

THANK YOU!

These people who have never lived it but are 100% sure my daughter would be dead with that temperature which is extremely offensive. Some kids spike higher temperatures than others. I am not a liar and resent the suggestion.

Balloonhearts · 19/01/2025 21:55

Porgs2 · 19/01/2025 21:28

It’s not a 360, I realised when I’d made the post people thought I was posting as a parent of a nursery aged child. It’s absolute rubbish that your child had a temperature of 45 and has no lasting issues from it. A temperature that high would cause brain damage or death.

Not necessarily. Mine spikes to 42ish with just colds and I'm perfectly capable of functioning like that.

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