Just leave - even if you have nowhere to go.

If you have no children to worry about, you can 'just leave'.

If you refuse to leave, then acknowledge your need to go, and start planning.

Go back to those posters and tell them you will be at within the hour!
Don't listen to them! They don't live in reality.
They are advising you to do something they wish they could do.

Plan your escape, make it as quick as you possibly can, whether it's 6 months or 9 x

As someone who kicked out their exh, I think most MN posters understand that you can't "just leave" - that it's not that simple. I think most people understand that you need to get your ducks in a row before making the jump.

I'm sorry you're in this predicament. I hope you are able to leave if and when you can.

I don’t think “just leave” is the common response, most posters are far more nuanced than that.

Is he abusive, or is it just an unhappy relationship where he’s the higher earner and owns the car and pays the phone bill etc?

You have a business: can you begin putting any savings away? Even if just small amounts, if too much money not coming through the business would attract his suspicion? Can you look for a part time job on the side?

The phone might seem like a huge issue, but you can sort out your own (cheap) phone and contract and even port your phone number to it, then it doesn’t matter that he pays the bill for the old one. A car - back to the above, can you save anything, just so you can get yourself a cheap runaround to sort you until you get away properly?

Edited to add: I know it’s hard, and I’ve been in a very similar position years ago. No abuse, just an unhappy relationship and a poorly paying job. Had left all my old friends behind in London to move to Scotland. But I took the plunge to move back. I did have to leave my home; leave my belongings; leave my cats; I had a cheap little car, and that was a huge help. I applied for jobs and had ti get to interviews from 300-odd miles away. It was fucking hard. But the alternative - staying, being so unhappy - was worse. I did it. I’ve never regretted it. You can find the strength and do it, you need to believe in yourself and that you can do it as much as anything.

This is why it’s so important to have your own money and independence.

I’m sorry op and it’s very hard, especially with pets. Some charities will take on the pets and care for them until accommodation is sorted.
I would go and make an appointment with your local authority and explain the situation.

Someone will be along soon with better advice.

I’m sorry you’re in this position. 😢 I see posters saying just leave and think realistically how easy is that

Can you think long term and start hiding some money to formulate an escape plan? Are children involved? Xx

I'm deeply sorry for the awful predicament you find yourself in. I think you need to contact something like Women's Aid to see what your best way forward is.