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Park Runs: Children - Why?

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Knowillbeflamed · 19/01/2025 09:12

There’s a park run every Sunday near me. They jog along the pavement by the seafront taking the whole damn thing up so no one else can even walk along it.

Honestly, I don’t get running. But, what I understand even less is dragging young children along?! Yes, the older one’s (10+) seem to enjoy it but there’s at least 5x more that seem wayyyy to young - toddlers, very young kids - who hate it. They’re dragged along by their parents, literally kicking and screaming and crying.

AIBU to think if your kid hates running that much or patently doesn’t want to be there, that you do NOT force it on them?! Just because you like running doesn’t mean you force it on them. Find them an activity they enjoy.

PS. Yes I am annoyed by the sheer ignorance of 100+ people taking up that much space and forcing others to dive out the way - but mostly it’s the shrill screams of toddlers being forced to run that drives me bonkers. Someone will pop up and say ‘they love it,’ but I’m sorry - kids screaming ‘it hurts’ ‘I don’t want to’ whilst their parents drag them along by their wrist just angers me. And it’s not one parent one week - it’s multiple different parents on various weeks.

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tommyhoundmum · 21/01/2025 08:27

I think many would agree it's good for children to get out of the home and into outdoor pursuits. Walking to school over the common and cycling along a promenade has helped make my daughter resilient, even though she moaned at the time. She loves the outdoors now and will go out in any weather light or dark, in the right clothes, of course.

hiddeneverythin · 21/01/2025 07:18

TunnocksOrDeath · 20/01/2025 22:33

"Everyone who supports this activity comments on what a great activity it is." Well you certainly proved your point with rigorous sampling there, didn't you?

For some people, their Sunday morning is the only time they get to themselves all week, and a lot of them like to do it quietly, without a load of noise and fanfare and flags and finish lines and start zones and marshals and timers, and people blocking the paths.

It do understand that it's really nice that in last few years, a load of people who couldn't be arsed to get out in the fresh air before performative-organised-running became a thing are now getting some exercise, but to be so dismissive of people who were already using those spaces for exercise before you lot cane along and took over is just RUDE.

I do enjoy organised sport, but try very hard not to inconvenience the people with whom we share the space, because, you know, manners.

You’ve put words in quotation marks that I didn’t use, then accused me of not being scientific enough by my sampling method? I am rolling my eyes at you.

By the way, those ignorant people who can’t keep their dogs on a lead and under control for a few seconds while children run/walk past are the WORST thing about junior Parkrun.

I won’t reply to you again as I have nothing else to add and we clearly disagree.

Knowillbeflamed · 21/01/2025 06:09

eastegg · 20/01/2025 23:07

But no-one has taken over the OP’s space. OP has been back to say that people get their kids out of her way because of her 2 dogs which are of a breed people keep their kids away from. Which she takes to junior park run, which she can’t stand observing, every week.

I’m struggling to think of a more unreasonable OP.

I don’t take them to a junior park run, I take them for a walk…along the seafront, by the beach. And as I have said - literally countless times now - my main objection is parents dragging their kids along when their kids clearly aren’t happy or, in some cases, in floods of tears and pain. Yes, kids need exercises but there are dozens of free or cheap sports that they could do instead that they’d probably enjoy more than a run, on concrete, at 9am in -2 on a Sunday morning.

I’d be less irritated if the kids enjoyed it, but it’s all about the selfish parents.

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eastegg · 20/01/2025 23:07

TunnocksOrDeath · 20/01/2025 22:33

"Everyone who supports this activity comments on what a great activity it is." Well you certainly proved your point with rigorous sampling there, didn't you?

For some people, their Sunday morning is the only time they get to themselves all week, and a lot of them like to do it quietly, without a load of noise and fanfare and flags and finish lines and start zones and marshals and timers, and people blocking the paths.

It do understand that it's really nice that in last few years, a load of people who couldn't be arsed to get out in the fresh air before performative-organised-running became a thing are now getting some exercise, but to be so dismissive of people who were already using those spaces for exercise before you lot cane along and took over is just RUDE.

I do enjoy organised sport, but try very hard not to inconvenience the people with whom we share the space, because, you know, manners.

But no-one has taken over the OP’s space. OP has been back to say that people get their kids out of her way because of her 2 dogs which are of a breed people keep their kids away from. Which she takes to junior park run, which she can’t stand observing, every week.

I’m struggling to think of a more unreasonable OP.

Iloveyoubut · 20/01/2025 22:36

DownThePubWithStevieNicks · 19/01/2025 09:20

What’s not to get about running?

As @NerrSnerr says, it’s junior parkrun. Kids often don’t like things that are good for them. Small children often tantrum even when they wanted to do a thing! Should they be at home with coco pops and cartoons because that’s what they say they want?

No they should be running around parks etc playing, for the sheer joy of it, not having to participate in an organised structured run.

TunnocksOrDeath · 20/01/2025 22:33

hiddeneverythin · 20/01/2025 22:11

I’m a run director for junior Parkrun. In every briefing I do I tell them I have two rules

  1. have fun
  2. keep moving
That is literally the point of Parkrun. Kids complain, whether they are on a bike ride, a swim, a hill walk, building a Lego they find difficult, drawing a picture that isn’t looking as they hoped….do they just never do any of these things again because they are slightly hard work??? I encouraged and motivated my first child at the age of four round the junior Parkrun. He didn’t always enjoy it and did cry on more than one occasion but was always happy he’d done it. Guess what? Age 10 he still loves it, has competed at multiple national competitions, picked up a few trophies and most importantly is super fit and healthy. His friends now see this and have started coming along to the junior Parkrun too.

There are a number of our volunteers who come along every week who enjoy the company and wouldn’t have anyone to talk to otherwise, so they really enjoy it and get something out it too.

Every runner/walker, parent and volunteer comments on our wonderful junior Parkrun community and what a great way it is to start their day.

So I’m very sorry if you have to move over a little for fifteen minutes once a week, but, you know, it’s kind of good for them.

"Everyone who supports this activity comments on what a great activity it is." Well you certainly proved your point with rigorous sampling there, didn't you?

For some people, their Sunday morning is the only time they get to themselves all week, and a lot of them like to do it quietly, without a load of noise and fanfare and flags and finish lines and start zones and marshals and timers, and people blocking the paths.

It do understand that it's really nice that in last few years, a load of people who couldn't be arsed to get out in the fresh air before performative-organised-running became a thing are now getting some exercise, but to be so dismissive of people who were already using those spaces for exercise before you lot cane along and took over is just RUDE.

I do enjoy organised sport, but try very hard not to inconvenience the people with whom we share the space, because, you know, manners.

hiddeneverythin · 20/01/2025 22:11

Knowillbeflamed · 19/01/2025 09:29

I’d be less annoyed by the ignorance of the parents if more of the kids had a good time tbh. It’s hard to think ‘oh yeah this is fine’ when all you can hear is kids saying they want to go home, it hurts and they’re not having fun.

But as a PP said - her kids hate it, but she enjoys it so she’ll use this to build resilience in them. So I guess my point is proved - some kids do hate it, but as long as the parents are happy, it’s fine

I’m a run director for junior Parkrun. In every briefing I do I tell them I have two rules

  1. have fun
  2. keep moving
That is literally the point of Parkrun. Kids complain, whether they are on a bike ride, a swim, a hill walk, building a Lego they find difficult, drawing a picture that isn’t looking as they hoped….do they just never do any of these things again because they are slightly hard work??? I encouraged and motivated my first child at the age of four round the junior Parkrun. He didn’t always enjoy it and did cry on more than one occasion but was always happy he’d done it. Guess what? Age 10 he still loves it, has competed at multiple national competitions, picked up a few trophies and most importantly is super fit and healthy. His friends now see this and have started coming along to the junior Parkrun too.

There are a number of our volunteers who come along every week who enjoy the company and wouldn’t have anyone to talk to otherwise, so they really enjoy it and get something out it too.

Every runner/walker, parent and volunteer comments on our wonderful junior Parkrun community and what a great way it is to start their day.

So I’m very sorry if you have to move over a little for fifteen minutes once a week, but, you know, it’s kind of good for them.

eastegg · 20/01/2025 21:41

Sceptical123 · 19/01/2025 09:47

If it’s a weekend morning, why not? They’ll have PE twice a week at school. Let them be kids. Their parents will have probably enrolled them in multiple ex-curricular activities like swimming, dance, football etc. after school anyway. I think with a lot of these parents it’s more that they’re seen to be dragging their kids out to participate by their parent friends so they’re not judged at the school gates come Monday morning

Just to pick up one point, PE twice a week in school isn’t nearly enough exercise. My year 3 child hardly did any in the autumn term because of behavioural issues in the class. When it happens it might be a little bit of dance interspersed with a lot of crowd control. It might not be very aerobic at all. Even if it were, kids need more.

linsey2581 · 20/01/2025 20:51

Knowillbeflamed · 19/01/2025 09:25

Children being dragged along by their parents do not enjoy it.

Yes kids like exercise - but you should pick the right one (gymnastics, swimming, cycling, skating, horse riding etc).

The kids on these runs are patently on there because their parents like running. “Don’t talk, you should be running” was my favourite quote this morning from a parent when her child said ‘mummy it hurts.”

I love a park run. The Sunday one is a junior one.
The exercises that you describe cost money and park run is free.
considering obesity is on the rise this is a brilliant way to get families out and about.

Familysquabbles23 · 20/01/2025 20:49

Have you tried it, I'm hopeless as a runner and I don't really enjoy it, but Parkruns are brilliant, inspiring and full of joy, even when it hurts.

asrl78 · 20/01/2025 19:29

Justsaywhatyoumean123 · 20/01/2025 07:58

I volunteer at this event, and there are always one or two kids who clearly have no interest in being there at all. Some resist at first but eventually get into it. I do find it a bit odd to bring kids to something they seem to hate—maybe it’s more about the parent getting some exercise.

Edited

I wouldn't be surprised if in a minority of cases the parent is treating their child as a mini-me and projecting their enthusiasm onto them (you WILL enjoy it).

I've done one 5k park run for charity which was a very good event, no stroppy kids and although I didn't train for it, I just used the tactic of going at a pace I could sustain. I got round without stopping. The danger with forcing kids to do stuff you think they should be doing is you might have the opposite effect on them and put them off for life. I remember a long time ago on a organised walking holiday (Walkwise I think) when at meal times, whenever fried eggs were on the menu, my roommate asked for them to be done very hard. He told me at the time this stemmed back to his childhood days when his grandmother forced him to eat runny eggs and he developed a hatred for them as a result.

Wonderfulstuff · 20/01/2025 18:22

There seems to be a anti park run subset on MN.

As a said on the last post I saw on the subject, in a world where so much is wrong, people spending an hour having a nice time engaging in exercise is not something I can get particularly worked up about.

Oh and I can 'come out' and say my DC did cry on their first junior park run aged 5. They are ND and everyone, thinking they were being kind, decided to clap them home which prompted a sensory meltdown. Don't worry though, I'm pretty used to getting judged by clueless onlookers.

Jumpers4goalposts · 20/01/2025 18:00

When football is not on I take my DD’s to parkrun. DD13 does it and is generally happy and is the main reason we go. DD7 begs to come, “really wants to get her PB”, reckons she’ll beat DD13 this time. Get there she sprints off, runs for about 6mins, then hates it and starts crying because DD13 has overtaken her. I take them because it’s their choice and they want to go…. I’m just hoping that one day DD7 will actually enjoy it as much as she thinks she will before she starts it.

Sirzy · 20/01/2025 14:51

Knowillbeflamed · 20/01/2025 13:17

I have two dogs of a breed people tend to avoid - people keep their kids away from me

Yet you think walking them through an area you know for that half hour will be full of children is a good idea? Sounds unfair on the dogs and the children!

MissSingerbrains · 20/01/2025 14:28

Choccyscofffy · 20/01/2025 13:49

I thought Parkrun is one dog per runner?

OP doesn’t run, she doesn’t “get it” apparently. She just insists on walking her two large intimidating dogs in the precise area where she knows an event aimed at young children is held at the same time every single week. Not half an hour before or after, not somewhere else, it has to be right there and then.

treadingonlego · 20/01/2025 14:16

Choccyscofffy · 20/01/2025 13:49

I thought Parkrun is one dog per runner?

It is for the Saturaday 5k ones.

For the Sunday junior 2k parkruns, it is no dogs at all to take part. OP isn't commenting as a participant, and her dogs shouldn't be of any relevance.

WobblyBoots · 20/01/2025 13:55

MAKING kids run 😂. I can't get my kids to put their shoes on or tidy their room so is have zero chance of making them run 2 k against their will.

I was dragged to Parkrun against my will this Sunday as my boy and his two mates wanted to go and play 'olympics' and then go to the play park.

WitchesCauldron · 20/01/2025 13:53

firef1y · 20/01/2025 13:39

Sweaty Betty is so last year, Tikiboo is the clothing of choice for the discerning runner

Oops- need to update my fashion knowledge :-)

Choccyscofffy · 20/01/2025 13:49

Knowillbeflamed · 20/01/2025 13:17

I have two dogs of a breed people tend to avoid - people keep their kids away from me

I thought Parkrun is one dog per runner?

firef1y · 20/01/2025 13:39

WitchesCauldron · 20/01/2025 13:31

It's so the mums can show off their sweaty betty gear..

Sweaty Betty is so last year, Tikiboo is the clothing of choice for the discerning runner

treadingonlego · 20/01/2025 13:38

Knowillbeflamed · 20/01/2025 13:04

Through choice. Not being dragged along by their wrists by their mother/father whilst they yell at them to 'be quiet because if you're talking you're not exercising properly'

You're obviously determined to believe that the snapshot you saw is transferable to all children taking part in all parkruns. If you have genuine concerns, please approach a member of the volunteering team or email in or contact parkrun HQ.

WitchesCauldron · 20/01/2025 13:31

Knowillbeflamed · 19/01/2025 09:12

There’s a park run every Sunday near me. They jog along the pavement by the seafront taking the whole damn thing up so no one else can even walk along it.

Honestly, I don’t get running. But, what I understand even less is dragging young children along?! Yes, the older one’s (10+) seem to enjoy it but there’s at least 5x more that seem wayyyy to young - toddlers, very young kids - who hate it. They’re dragged along by their parents, literally kicking and screaming and crying.

AIBU to think if your kid hates running that much or patently doesn’t want to be there, that you do NOT force it on them?! Just because you like running doesn’t mean you force it on them. Find them an activity they enjoy.

PS. Yes I am annoyed by the sheer ignorance of 100+ people taking up that much space and forcing others to dive out the way - but mostly it’s the shrill screams of toddlers being forced to run that drives me bonkers. Someone will pop up and say ‘they love it,’ but I’m sorry - kids screaming ‘it hurts’ ‘I don’t want to’ whilst their parents drag them along by their wrist just angers me. And it’s not one parent one week - it’s multiple different parents on various weeks.

It's so the mums can show off their sweaty betty gear..

BitOutOfPractice · 20/01/2025 13:31

Your story is getting more and more exaggerated as the thread goes on OP in some respects. And yet in others it’s just completely changed. In your op you say that nobody else can use the seafront because of the hordes of runners. Now you say you aren’t inconvenienced in the slightest as they all move out of the way.

I too would love to know what junior park run had hundreds of participants yesterday.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 20/01/2025 13:26

Well, I think we know now why so many of the toddlers were distressed. They saw a woman riding towards them flanked by hellhounds.

Park Runs: Children - Why?
Knowillbeflamed · 20/01/2025 13:17

Choccyscofffy · 20/01/2025 13:11

I'm not actually inconvenienced as they tend to move out of my way

Are you running towards them? How are they seeing you?

I have two dogs of a breed people tend to avoid - people keep their kids away from me

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