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Park Runs: Children - Why?

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Knowillbeflamed · 19/01/2025 09:12

There’s a park run every Sunday near me. They jog along the pavement by the seafront taking the whole damn thing up so no one else can even walk along it.

Honestly, I don’t get running. But, what I understand even less is dragging young children along?! Yes, the older one’s (10+) seem to enjoy it but there’s at least 5x more that seem wayyyy to young - toddlers, very young kids - who hate it. They’re dragged along by their parents, literally kicking and screaming and crying.

AIBU to think if your kid hates running that much or patently doesn’t want to be there, that you do NOT force it on them?! Just because you like running doesn’t mean you force it on them. Find them an activity they enjoy.

PS. Yes I am annoyed by the sheer ignorance of 100+ people taking up that much space and forcing others to dive out the way - but mostly it’s the shrill screams of toddlers being forced to run that drives me bonkers. Someone will pop up and say ‘they love it,’ but I’m sorry - kids screaming ‘it hurts’ ‘I don’t want to’ whilst their parents drag them along by their wrist just angers me. And it’s not one parent one week - it’s multiple different parents on various weeks.

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Knowillbeflamed · 19/01/2025 10:37

leccybill · 19/01/2025 10:34

Just a reminder that Park Run is free, for many families horseriding is very much beyond their reach, as is swimming for some.
Think of it like that and be a bit kinder.

Kicking a football around a park is free. Going for nice walks is free.

Sorry but this idea that everyone at Park Run can’t afford activities for their kids is just bonkers. Maybe some can’t, but most probably can - particularly where I live 😂

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Blueyfan4life · 19/01/2025 10:36

leccybill · 19/01/2025 10:34

Just a reminder that Park Run is free, for many families horseriding is very much beyond their reach, as is swimming for some.
Think of it like that and be a bit kinder.

Yeah where am i supposed to keep a horse??

BeMellowOchreZebra · 19/01/2025 10:36

With far too many fat parents who are creating fat children by allowing them to copy their sedate lifestyle with too much processed junk, I think it's brilliant to see families who are making exercise as part of their routine.

I think they should bring back the one mile run a day in primary schools too. I think some still do this!

Clearinguptheclutter · 19/01/2025 10:34

Oh and alongside the “running mum” have you come across the “football dad”? Those parents who yell at their kids at football matches because they’re apparently not premiership striker potential

There are parents who cross the line in terms of taking the “encouragement “ too far for certain activities. Not sure why anyone would think that running is the only example
of this. I suppose because it’s just because it takes place in public places.

leccybill · 19/01/2025 10:34

Knowillbeflamed · 19/01/2025 10:12

😂yes.

Hour a day in the pool minimum, two dog walks a day (hour each) and horse-riding four days a week.

My kids also exercise - but unlike a lot of people on this thread, I let my kids do sports they enjoy.

Just a reminder that Park Run is free, for many families horseriding is very much beyond their reach, as is swimming for some.
Think of it like that and be a bit kinder.

JudgeBread · 19/01/2025 10:33

The only reason I'd ever run is if I was being chased by something that wanted to kill me, and even then it'd be a toss up between running and accepting death.

However I understand why other, more insane people choose to do it, yes even with their child/ren. I just don't go to the places they engage in their unnerving behaviour while they're doing it. You can make that choice too!

3WildOnes · 19/01/2025 10:32

HawkinsTigers · 19/01/2025 10:18

I’ve been the moaning kid on hikes (that I now take my own kids and grandkids on) so I’m not suggesting for a minute that we should only do what kids want to do but there is a big difference between a bit of occasional moaning and a child consistently saying ‘I’m not enjoying this and I don’t want to do it any more’ but being ignored because it’s something the parent wants to do.

Kids crying and clearly struggling because they’re in pain / struggling to breathe but being pulled along or shouted at by parents (to be clear I’m talking about behaviour I’ve seen while volunteering at park run, not anything my parents did to me) is very different to ‘oh mum this is rubbish’ and mum saying things like ‘you’re doing so well, we can slow down if you want to, not far now, we can see the dog / get an ice cream at the end’.

The last thing I want to be doing on a Sunday morning in this weather is getting up and going out running! I do, because I believe it is good for all of us.

I don't drag my kids around crying though. There is a bit of complaining from one of them and she is not forced to run, I always walk with her if she prefers. I gently cajole her.

DownThePubWithStevieNicks · 19/01/2025 10:31

Starting to see why so many posters on mumsnet are at the end of their tether with awful teens who they cannot say no to.

Randomsabreur · 19/01/2025 10:30

Mine both do parkrun, sometimes they whinge, especially the older one because she doesn't want her little brother to catch up with her in numbers done.

We make them do it because they are so much nicer when they've had a run, they usually enjoy it while they're doing it and there's no exercise that doesn't involve some grumping about starting... 9am (or 9.30) is a good time to get some of the fidgets out and start the day well.

jumpintheline · 19/01/2025 10:29

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 19/01/2025 09:24

Seafronts should be reserved soley for old people with mobility scooters or claw-footed walking sticks, and seagulls eating chips. IMO.

100%

Blueyfan4life · 19/01/2025 10:26

Knowillbeflamed · 19/01/2025 09:25

Children being dragged along by their parents do not enjoy it.

Yes kids like exercise - but you should pick the right one (gymnastics, swimming, cycling, skating, horse riding etc).

The kids on these runs are patently on there because their parents like running. “Don’t talk, you should be running” was my favourite quote this morning from a parent when her child said ‘mummy it hurts.”

Horse riding? Costs a fortune!!!

EmmaEmEmz · 19/01/2025 10:26

I absolutely loathe and detest running and quietly get irritated by the ones on our coastal path who barrage through without politeness.

However, park run is a great idea. It keeps everyone on one, safe place to do their thing and if kids are there, it's even better because they're out in fresh air, getting exercise. How can anyone get annoyed by that? It's just a an hour or two a week so avoid the park thay day if it annoys you?

Tagyoureit · 19/01/2025 10:26

I think you're being a bit miserable, it's the same time every week and you know about it so avoid the area for 30 minutes.

After reading this, I've just persuaded my DS 11 to join up and will coax my DD 5 in to it too!

Simonjt · 19/01/2025 10:25

HipToTheHopDontStop · 19/01/2025 10:22

Yeah, kids hate things that are good for them. Good parents make them do it anyway. Can't be fucked with this notion that they can always choose what they do!

Yep! But remember on MN children must rule the home, plus they’re toddlers until about 23.

fantasycake · 19/01/2025 10:25

You "dont get running" yet you have suggested gymnastics for kids which is known to be punishingly competitive and rife with eating disorders?

😂😂

Meadowfinch · 19/01/2025 10:25

Err OP, lose the entitlement.

Sunday Parkrun is a free sporty social event for kids.

Every alternative sport you suggest costs money. You may be able to afford horse riding (!) but some people can't

Do you have a hangover? Is that the problem?

suki1964 · 19/01/2025 10:25

runningpram · 19/01/2025 10:23

Also if you’re a single working parent, taking your child on the park run at weekends might be the only way of getting some exercise.
I would say, however, that some parkrunners could be a bit more accepting of parents who take kids along in pushchairs. I took DC then age 3 in the aforementioned running pram once and got some snooty old bloke telling me they were too big for a buggy and should be running!

Bring them along on a Saturday, we have a few parents who run pushing their all terrain kids buggies , we move aside no problem

Heronwatcher · 19/01/2025 10:24

WalkingonWheels · 19/01/2025 10:16

Why would it be either Parkrun or gaming and crisps? Can you not come up with anything else? How boring.

And yes, sometimes Minecraft is absolutely fine.

Of course Minecraft is fine sometimes! But not all day.

Parkrun is free, it might fit into everyone’s schedule because it’s so early, it might be something older siblings enjoy as well (park probably not great), kids might moan just as much going to the park or other alternatives.

Things like swimming, horse riding, cycling and climbing walls cost money, take longer and can’t often be done at convenient times. My kids will only spend about 10
min at the park in Jan because they get cold/ everything is wet/ muddy etc. Then they moan to go for a drink/ go home and older siblings won’t come at all. Plus I bet you most families do these as well as the occasional parkrun.

And at heart if park run works for a family I don’t think it should be stopped just because maybe one child moans a little bit (especially if ultimately they enjoy it) that’s not how families work.

Shallwehibernate · 19/01/2025 10:23

Oh my gosh another thread moaning about park run. There really are some strange people in this world.

It's junior park run on a Sunday. It's brilliant that parents are encouraging their children to be active and taking the time to get them outdoors.

What do you mean you don't 'get' running? What's not to get? Are you a bit hard of thinking.

runningpram · 19/01/2025 10:23

Also if you’re a single working parent, taking your child on the park run at weekends might be the only way of getting some exercise.
I would say, however, that some parkrunners could be a bit more accepting of parents who take kids along in pushchairs. I took DC then age 3 in the aforementioned running pram once and got some snooty old bloke telling me they were too big for a buggy and should be running!

suki1964 · 19/01/2025 10:23

PinkiOcelot · 19/01/2025 09:45

Are park runs not actually in parks? The one in my town is.

The one I attend is on around the rugby pitch, the next two nearest - one on a beach and one on a nature reserve. The only one in a park is the Junior one because its level ground

Clearinguptheclutter · 19/01/2025 10:22

my older DS won’t do any kind of exercise or fresh air at all without some kind of encouragement

does that mean I should just say “that’ll allright love just play computer games all day”? We do have a deal in that if he does some exercise I will leave him to it-
homework and planned outings aside- for the rest of the day

(if he does the pr and ends up walking most of it I’m entirely happy with that)

HipToTheHopDontStop · 19/01/2025 10:22

Knowillbeflamed · 19/01/2025 09:29

I’d be less annoyed by the ignorance of the parents if more of the kids had a good time tbh. It’s hard to think ‘oh yeah this is fine’ when all you can hear is kids saying they want to go home, it hurts and they’re not having fun.

But as a PP said - her kids hate it, but she enjoys it so she’ll use this to build resilience in them. So I guess my point is proved - some kids do hate it, but as long as the parents are happy, it’s fine

Yeah, kids hate things that are good for them. Good parents make them do it anyway. Can't be fucked with this notion that they can always choose what they do!

EdithBond · 19/01/2025 10:21

JamesWebbSpaceTelescope · 19/01/2025 10:13

I think in 20 years time we will have the equivalent to the stately home thread but about ParkRuns!

Haha!

A whole bunch of adults who’ll never run again, after being dragged out of bed at a weekend for years to go running with their folks.

Makes being dragged out of bed to sit in a freezing Catholic Church on a Sunday morning seem like a breeze. Atheism was the (perhaps inevitable) response.

AngelinaFibres · 19/01/2025 10:21

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 19/01/2025 09:24

Seafronts should be reserved soley for old people with mobility scooters or claw-footed walking sticks, and seagulls eating chips. IMO.

Don't forget the small dogs on a 10ft extending lead.