Year 1 - another boy strangled my son

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HROSESATTERS · 19/01/2025 07:47

My son is in year one and came home from school on Thursday telling me another boy strangled him. I asked him to show me what happened because I wasn’t even convinced he knew was strangling was but he did show me correctly. A teacher intervened and separated them. I asked my son if he pushed back or defended himself and he said no because that’s against the school rules. He is an amazing student and has never missed one day of school. He loves school, is popular in his class & is bright and loves to learn new things. After investigation it turns out the boy who strangled my son had told other kids he was going to strangle my son and he used the word die. This boy has been unkind to my son last year (stole his stones, physically blocked him from telling a teacher).

The school kept the boy separate from the class on Friday but they plan to integrate him back into the class on Monday. As Monday approaches I am more and more concerned about my son returning to the class. I was curious what other mums / dad’s views are on this? Am I over reacting? Is it unreasonable to request the school separate this boy from my son’s class? And at what age is police intervention needed? I know these boys are 5/6 years old but the action is horrifying. I cannot even think about what might have happened had a teacher not been there to intervene. Thank you

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mammabing · 19/01/2025 08:04

Don’t talk directly to the parents, that’s the worst thing you could do!
Go through the school. It sounds like there are some things happening in this other boy’s life that you’re not aware of for safeguarding reasons. The staff are best to handle it but definitely request a meeting first thing to discuss how they’re going to keep your child safe going forward.

Purplebiscuitwithsprinkles · 19/01/2025 07:58

That's awful I'm sorry your child is having to go through this, it just gave been very frightening. From your side a meeting needs to be held with the Head AND a safeguarding person. You and your son should not be living in fear. Actions need to be put in place to ensure your child is safe for example the children should never be sat together, work together. Not sat next to each on trips. In the playground opposite ends etc.

I would also refer the other family to social services to starting point or whatever your local safeguarding team is. It is normal for a five year old to do and say those things and it makes me wonder what horrific things that child is seeing at home to act the way for example domestic violence or exposure to violent films, video games etc.

Do you know the parent(s) to speak to?

WonderingWanda · 19/01/2025 07:54

Its unlikely they will move the boy into another class. It sounds like they are handling it though, although my dcs primary would've told me about it as well. Do you know anything else about the other child? His behaviour sounds odd and not just usually rough housing. I would imagine he has some sort of complex SEN or at this age undiagnosed needs. Go early on Monday and chat with the teacher about it.

Monvelo · 19/01/2025 07:50

That's shocking. At the very least the other boy needs to be put into a different class, if they have one?! Ask for a meeting with the headteacher I think, you need to be fully convinced that your son will be safe. Your poor son.

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